So I need to get some input on something...
DH's ex-wife babysit's our (DH's) granddaughter 2 days/week, and his ex-wife's sister babysit's the other 2 days while DDIL works 4 days/week. DH and I both work full time, so we are not able to babysit during the week. We have made it clear to DS and DDIL that we would like to babysit some time if they go out, and even mentioned a couple of weeks ago that they should go out to dinner and we would like to babysit.
So this past weekend, DS tells DH that he is taking DDIL out to dinner for her birthday Saturday night. He didn't ask us to babysit, and DH didn't say anything because it was clear they had already made plans. Then we confirmed that they had DH's ex-wife babysit when they went out Saturday night. DH is extremely hurt that they did not ask us to babysit.
So on the one hand, he should have offered or at least asked who was babysitting when he heard on Friday that they were planning to go out on Saturday, and confronted the situation right then. But he didn't want to say anything, thinking that maybe someone in DDIL's family was babysitting, and they haven't had a chance yet either.
We do see them frequently, but we have not yet had any time alone with the baby. She will be 4 months old this week. We are perfectly capable and responsible, so we don't understand why they wouldn't have asked us, since we would definitely have been available on a Saturday night.
So DH is really mad at them, but hasn't said anything/talked to them yet. Today is DDIL's birthday, so he doesn't want to talk to them about it today, he wanted to wait. Not sure if he will say anything or not. He said he doesn't want to have to beg, they should know how we feel and respect our feelings. I really don't know why they wouldn't have asked us.
So what does anyone else think, should DH confront them or just let it go??