MI mom of 3
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Michele: what a load to have put on your shoulders, not to mention your poor daughter. I'm going to tell you a little story, take it however you wish. When I got pregnant with Lyzzie, I had just turned 23. Not much older than Briana, but those 4 years do make a huge difference at that age. I had been with my then-boyfriend for about 3 or 4 months at the time, and he was making plans to move from FL to NM with a friend to pursue a music career (it never happened). I was unemployed, and had just been evicted from my apartment and moved back in with my parents. I was way past my eyeballs in debt, and had just days before consulted with a lawyer about bankruptcy. Then I found out I was pregnant. Even at 23, I was scared to death to tell my mom. So scared in fact, that I broke out in hives late one night. The hives were so bad, they had developed inside my throat and my mom sat up all night with me to make sure I didn't stop breathing, calling the dr. every couple of hours to see if they could page her. When she finally reached the dr, the dr. told her "well we can't give her anything because she is pregnant." I of course didn't hear this side of the conversation, but I knew something was up because my mom hung up the phone, told me we were going to the ER, and hugged me. We are not a hugging family.
When my dad found out, his first reaction (remember I was 23 years old... two years older than my mom was when I was born, three years older than she was when she got married) was to tell me to have an abortion. In fact, his exact words were, "If you don't kill it, I'm leaving this family." Needless to say, that was just stress talking and it didn't happen.
I guess the point I'm trying to make is, my family came about in a less than ideal way, but I wouldn't trade my kids for the world. I thank God that I had my parents and my boyfriend's parents there to help me for the first year of Lyzzie's life, which came and went in a flash. For me personally, there never was any option other than to keep her, no matter what the cost. I know that together, you and Briana will make the decision that is right for your family. It sounds like you and she already have. Lilly is a gorgeous baby, and I'm sure she will bring her family a lot of joy. Good luck and God bless.
Thank you!! I'm glad your family was there for you in the end, no matter what we will be there for Bree and Lilly. It just takes some getting used to