Wedding Food Issue

[CurlyGirl]

So, if there are vegetables he would eat, how do you know he wouldn't have eaten anything at the vegan wedding? The OP didn't even specify what the veggies were.

Let's see if I can remember ...

Veggie tray (remember, no dips - just the veggies) - cucumbers, carrot sticks, yellow squash, zucchini, snap peas, eggplant, celery sticks, green/red/yellow peppers, mushrooms, tomatoes.

Main courses: veggie burgers, tofu Italian sausage, grilled peppers and onions for both, green salad, 3 bean salad, german potato salad with tofu bacon, sauteed mushrooms and onions, grilled tofu shiskebobs (tofu, eggplant, zucchini, squash, peppers), veggie stew with chunks of tofu floating in it.

Sides: more raw veggies with tabouleh, hummus, baba ghanoush dips.

 

[CurlyGirl]

I voted "Their wedding, their food choice, suck it up." However it looks like I would have mostly gone hungry that night.

But the big question is: Did they have an open bar?

No. Your choice of water, lemonade or iced tea.

 

[dakcp2001]

Let's see if I can remember ...

Veggie tray (remember, no dips - just the veggies) - cucumbers, carrot sticks, yellow squash, zucchini, snap peas, eggplant, celery sticks, green/red/yellow peppers, mushrooms, tomatoes.

Main courses: veggie burgers, tofu Italian sausage, grilled peppers and onions for both, green salad, 3 bean salad, german potato salad with tofu bacon, sauteed mushrooms and onions, grilled tofu shiskebobs (tofu, eggplant, zucchini, squash, peppers), veggie stew with chunks of tofu floating in it.

Sides: more raw veggies with tabouleh, hummus, baba ghanoush dips.

Yikes. That is very limited. They cold have done better with vegan options even.

 

[CurlyGirl]

Yikes. That is very limited. They cold have done better with vegan options even.

I'll agree with you on that!

 

[tlbwriter]

Veggie tray (remember, no dips - just the veggies) - cucumbers, carrot sticks, yellow squash, zucchini, snap peas, eggplant, celery sticks, green/red/yellow peppers, mushrooms, tomatoes.

Main courses: veggie burgers, tofu Italian sausage, grilled peppers and onions for both, green salad, 3 bean salad, german potato salad with tofu bacon, sauteed mushrooms and onions, grilled tofu shiskebobs (tofu, eggplant, zucchini, squash, peppers), veggie stew with chunks of tofu floating in it.

Sides: more raw veggies with tabouleh, hummus, baba ghanoush dips.

Yikes. That is very limited. They cold have done better with vegan options even.

Yeah, it does seem like they could have done better. I bolded the items I would have at least tried (I would have picked out the tofu), and I would probably have had plenty to eat, but it does seem like it would have been easy to have a pasta option. The biggest sin in this menu is the lack of cake.

 

[CurlyGirl]

The biggest sin in this menu is the lack of cake.

Agreed!

 

[disneyfav4ever]

Personally, it sounds like a lot of the guests were picky, since anyone can eat vegan food. Even before I was a vegetarian, I didn't eat meat for every meal, so an entire vegan buffet wouldn't have bothered me then, and it certainly wouldn't bother me now. If anything, I think anyone who left to go get fast food was rude and tacky to say the least.

Aside from that, it was their wedding, and they can serve whatever they want. Who goes to weddings for the food anyway?

 

[disneyfav4ever]

No breads, cheese, or pastas. Salads (3-bean, german potato made with tofu "bacon"), hummus, baba ghanoush, tabouleh, lots of veggies and tofu dishes!

And no wedding cake!! That was most disturbing to me as I love wedding cake!!! Dessert was fruit salad.

I know others have said it already, but there was no reason to not have a cake, since there are great vegan cakes.

But that's different. Omnivores can eat vegetarian food - it doesn't conflict with our beliefs or way of doing things. It's not the same the other way around. A vegetarian isn't ignoring me if they provide me with a tasty vegetarian meal. They're simply providing something that accommodates both of us.

I can't believe some of your family left a wedding to go drive through burger king or whatever. Holy cow, they couldn't have picked at a few things and stopped on the way home?

I am not much of a meat eater (just don't like it). However if I went to a party that was like meatpalooza I'd find a way to enjoy myself and cope with what was available to eat. So I don't see why the meat eaters couldn't do the same.

I'm sorry but if I were a vegan the thought of serving meat at my wedding would be really repugnant to me.

The hc can have a vegan buffet, but I think they need to make sure that there are things that the "average" person would eat. They could have added some breads or green salad with veggie toppings. If they changed for health reasons, why not offer pasta, bread and cheese to your guests?

I don't really think cheese is healthy, and it's not vegan. I'm mostly vegan for ethical reasons, not health-related, so I wouldn't have a problem with bread and pasta, but most white bread and pasta is pretty much just processed junk, so I can understand why someone who is a vegan for health reasons wouldn't serve it. Though they did serve fake meat, and that is processed crap.

Yeah, I think fake meats and fake cheeses tend to be pretty nasty. But some of my favorite dishes (spaghetti sauce with mushrooms and/or eggplant instead of meat, marinated grilled zucchini, sauteed mushrooms, bruschetta, vegetable fried rice, etc.) could very easily be made vegan, and would taste great.

The only fake meat I've found that tastes really good are the Amy's burgers. I don't think good vegan cheese exists.

 

[disneyfav4ever]

OP - Was this a formal dinner? It sounds like it was a more casual picnic-type meal. Though I would've still had cake, but that's just me.

 

[maxiesmom]

I always thought the reception was for the guests to enjoy too. There should have been some non-vegan foods for guests to eat. The guests tastes should have been considered as well.

 

[goofy!]

Is your daughter's refusal to eat vegetables based on health issues, or moral issues?



Um... do you really think you're talking about my daughter? Because I haven't mentioned her at all in this thread. And she does, absolutely, eat meat. Maybe you've got me confused with another poster?

Anyway, I thought the poster's husband's refusal to eat any vegetables sounded childish because she didn't even know what vegetables were offered. She just knew he wouldn't eat a single one of them.



Actually, in this case, the non-meat eater is much more special, because they are the ones throwing the wedding. At your wedding, you get to be more special, and if you want to serve a meat-only buffet, that is your choice. And while many of your guests may not enjoy it, it would be rude for them to complain or sneak out for something "better." (Personally, my meat-only buffet would include Little Smokies wrapped in bacon. Pork wrapped in pork... you can't go wrong. )

my apologies. I did get you mixed up with somebody upthread who said their daughter was a vegan. Blame it on the 102 temp or just sheer neglect to double check on my part.

And I agree fully that the people hosting the party have the right to serve whatever they want. Both Omnivores and Vegans. It is their party and their bill.

We tell our kindergartners all the time "You get what you get and you don't throw a fit."

My daughter loves all veggies and meat.

I cannot eat brussel sprouts or peas. For some reason, the smell, the taste and the texture cause a physical reaction. I remember my Dutch mother trying to feed me Dutch Pea Soup when I was a toddler. I ate a couple of bites and promptly threw it all up. I can eat peas raw, but not cooked. In fact, I can eat most veggies raw, just not cooked. It really isn't a taste preference, venturing into the TMI range, it causes physical reflexes that just would not be appropriate at a wedding

 

[CurlyGirl]

OP - Was this a formal dinner? It sounds like it was a more casual picnic-type meal. Though I would've still had cake, but that's just me.

Formal sit-down dinner, buffet style.

I don't know why they didn't have cake. Could be that they just don't like cake.

 

[Nancyg56]

I would do the same thing at this wedding that I have done at others where teh food was horrible. I pick and eat on the way home. This couple did not seem to go out of their way to make a lovely vegan meal but their weeding their choice.

 

[hambirg]

I know others have said it already, but there was no reason to not have a cake, since there are great vegan cakes.





I don't really think cheese is healthy, and it's not vegan. I'm mostly vegan for ethical reasons, not health-related, so I wouldn't have a problem with bread and pasta, but most white bread and pasta is pretty much just processed junk, so I can understand why someone who is a vegan for health reasons wouldn't serve it. Though they did serve fake meat, and that is processed crap.

The only fake meat I've found that tastes really good are the Amy's burgers. I don't think good vegan cheese exists.

Oh, it exists. . .but it tastes like plastic.

I still don't see what the big problem was here. . .have a salad, some 3-bean salad, fruit salad and pick the tofu out of the stew. Nobody is going to die because they had one meatless meal.

 

[CurlyGirl]

Nobody is going to die because they had one meatless meal.

Tell that to some of the little kids there! lol! Have you ever been to a wedding where the kids are hungry and disgusted by the food? Yeah ... not pretty! I'm just glad that my kid will eat anything however, he did join the cousins that went to McDonald's!

And if you think the 4-6 yo were whiney, you should've seen their parents .... 100x worse!

 

[Poohforyou]

It's a wedding - of course there were children there. Not ALL weddings are no-children allowed weddings. Geez - I leave out one friggin detail and you throw a fit? Give me a break. I was the one who mentioned kids being at the reception in my response back to you. Sorry that I didn't include every last intimate detail for you. Hmmm ... let me think, what else should I have not left out as I'm sure there are things that I didn't post in the OP. There were a couple of babies, some toddlers, and a lot of teens. Do you need exact numbers? There were a few gay couples there, too. My uncle is diabetic and another uncle has bad food allergies. Guess he's not allergic to tofu or vegan fare because he loved the food. One of the gay couples snuck off. So did the bride's parents. If I left anything else out, I apologize in advance.

Please spare me the righteous indignation. I said having kids in the mix changes things as far as meeting their needs. Kids are not known for being able to roll with the punches especially when hungry. Although based on the food choices you posted mine would have found enough to fill her stomach for a while. The adults however need to suck it up and deal. I imagine someone who is diabetic would carry an emergency supply of food or just eats something when necessary whether it is enjoyable or not.

 

[aprilgail2]

Let's see if I can remember ...

Veggie tray (remember, no dips - just the veggies) - cucumbers, carrot sticks, yellow squash, zucchini, snap peas, eggplant, celery sticks, green/red/yellow peppers, mushrooms, tomatoes.

Main courses: veggie burgers, tofu Italian sausage, grilled peppers and onions for both, green salad, 3 bean salad, german potato salad with tofu bacon, sauteed mushrooms and onions, grilled tofu shiskebobs (tofu, eggplant, zucchini, squash, peppers), veggie stew with chunks of tofu floating in it.

Sides: more raw veggies with tabouleh, hummus, baba ghanoush dips.

OMG-BLECH!!!

In my area children are rarely included in wedding invites.

I have only been to 2 weddings where my daughter has not been invited-I declined the invite to those.

 

[goofy!]

Personally, it sounds like a lot of the guests were picky, since anyone can eat vegan food. Even before I was a vegetarian, I didn't eat meat for every meal, so an entire vegan buffet wouldn't have bothered me then, and it certainly wouldn't bother me now. If anything, I think anyone who left to go get fast food was rude and tacky to say the least.

Aside from that, it was their wedding, and they can serve whatever they want. Who goes to weddings for the food anyway?

Technically, anybody can eat meat too. It is a lifestyle choice to be an omnivore, vegetarian or a vegan. So, by your definition, vegans are just picky eaters too. Each person is making a choice not to eat something, whether it is for moral reasons or just that they don't like it.

It always surprises me when some (minority) of vegetarians and vegans have the entitlement attitude of "you can eat my food, so just suck it up whether you like it or not" but then expect everybody to provide them a dish. Not everybody can eat vegetables.

I know one person who has to watch their fiber intake because of some intestinal disease. So, they would have a hard time "sucking it up and just eating the veggies."

But that said, I absolutely think that each person should have the buffet they want. Is it nice to consider guests? Yes. Is it rude not too? maybe a bit. But it is still the host's decision to serve what they want and the guest to be polite about it.

 

[goofy!]

The adults however need to suck it up and deal. I imagine someone who is diabetic would carry an emergency supply of food or just eats something when necessary whether it is enjoyable or not.

 

[CurlyGirl]

Please spare me the righteous indignation. I said having kids in the mix changes things as far as meeting their needs. Kids are not known for being able to roll with the punches especially when hungry. Although based on the food choices you posted mine would have found enough to fill her stomach for a while. The adults however need to suck it up and deal. I imagine someone who is diabetic would carry an emergency supply of food or just eats something when necessary whether it is enjoyable or not.

I'll spare you the righteous indignation if you spare me the haughty arrogance.