Is this bride "selfish"???

[HighClass]

Yes! Can you believe -I know ANOTHER selfish bride!


My brother and his wife just returned from a long planned European vacation
Used up most of their vacation time

She had 3 kids before he married her-they have a 12 year old

Oldest step DD has 3 young school aged kids
Middle step DD (The Bride henceforth) just finished law school and gave birth to her baby a month before finals
Youngest step son goes to graduate school

Bride and her boyfriend have rented a Beach house for the month of August.
They , of course , have invited a few close friends and immediate family to witness the beach wedding.They announced this in May at time of her Mom and my brother's trip to Europe

The beach house is in the Florida Keys.
A 3 day drive from where everyone lives-so flying is a must
All the kids start school mid August
All feel obligated to attend


So is she selfish for not having the wedding in the city they all reside?

 

[Eeyores Butterfly]

No. It's their choice where they have the wedding. As long as they are understanding of the fact that not everybody will be able to attend, I see no problem with it.

Maybe I'm baised because of my family. Nobody lives near each other so no matter where you get married, it will be a "destination' wedding. That's how it's always been so I don't see the big deal. I'm sure they have family/friends who would have to fly no matter where they get married, so why not have it someplace fun?

 

[wall*e2008]

She is welcome to have the wedding where she wants and the guest are welcome to turn down the invite.

 

[NEVERENOUGHWDW]

Not selfish at all.
If every bride & groom chose when or where to get married to make everyone else happy there would never be a wedding day.

IMO I think it's selfish for everyone to be annoyed that a couple didn't plan their wedding around them.

Guests have the option to not attend.

 

[disykat]

Nope, she's only selfish if she isn't understanding when people decline her invitation.

 

[MariDisney]

No. It's not selfish. People should plan the wedding where they want to have it. They also should understand that not everyone should come. They also shouldn't give anyone a hard time.

Remember, when you receive an invitation it isn't a subpoena. Go if you want. Don't if you don't want to.

 

[princess momma]

If there's ever a time to be selfish it's your wedding. She should do what she wants.

It's actually rather refreshing to hear about a simple wedding. I think it's silly to spend tons of money.

 

[disneyjunkie]

Yes! Can you believe -I know ANOTHER selfish bride!


My brother and his wife just returned from a long planned European vacation
Used up most of their vacation time

She had 3 kids before he married her-they have a 12 year old

Oldest step DD has 3 young school aged kids
Middle step DD (The Bride henceforth) just finished law school and gave birth to her baby a month before finals
Youngest step son goes to graduate school

Bride and her boyfriend have rented a Beach house for the month of August.
They , of course , have invited a few close friends and immediate family to witness the beach wedding.They announced this in May at time of her Mom and my brother's trip to Europe

The beach house is in the Florida Keys.
A 3 day drive from where everyone lives-so flying is a must
All the kids start school mid August
All feel obligated to attend


So is she selfish for not having the wedding in the city they all reside?

She isn't selfish.

Those who can attend will and those who can't will not.

 

[BigMama]

NOT AT ALL!! it's her day to celebrate the way she wants, if you want to go, go if not then don't and just be happy for them!

 

[MinnieMe87]

No she is not being selfish! It's her day, so she can decide when and where to have the wedding. If people don't like it, they do not have to go.

 

[LoraJ]

Well, there you go again, implying I am selfish for having a destination wedding.

Thy can have THEIR wedding where they want.

 

[Stacerita]

Not selfish. Its her day. But she shouldn't get upset when people decline.

 

[Ember]

I also vote not selfish. Besides, maybe they knew their choice would limit the number of guests and that was partly why they did it.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

I don't know if selfish is the right word. They are certainly entitled to have their wedding any place they want but as a parent I would be upset that my own child made their wedding so hard for at least their immediate family to attend. I would question whether or not they even cared if their own family was there. YMMV.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Well, there you go again, implying I am selfish for having a destination wedding.

Thy can have THEIR wedding where they want.

 

[LoraJ]

 

[Mouse House Mama]

I don't get why you thought someone was picking on you. I thought perhaps I had missed something.

 

[coles1mom]

Mouse House Mama

I'm with you.

 

[LoraJ]

I don't get why you thought someone was picking on you. I thought perhaps I had missed something.

She is callign someone having a destination wedding not in their town selfish. They have also been in several other threads about other weddings saying the same, not to mention anyone not having their wedding on a Saturday afternoon being selfish.

 

[Abbie]

She is callign someone having a destination wedding not in their town selfish. They have also been in several other threads about other weddings saying the same, not to mention anyone not having their wedding on a Saturday afternoon being selfish.

That reminds me.....my DD is getting married three weeks from today, yup, on a THURSDAY night. How selfish are we?? And despite some saying it would cut our guest list down, I've hit semi-panic mode because I'm not getting enough "no" responses! We invited about 150 and so far there are 136 coming. So much for that theory!

As far as the original question, of course they are not selfish. I'm sure they chose what would work best for them, as it should be.