I think it might also be a generational thing. In my age bracket, destination weddings are common. People aren't shocked horrified or offended by them. Those that usually are seem to be those that got married a decade or so ago. Am I crazy in thinking this? It def seems to be an "old school" vz "new school" thing. Its the same debate with sending thank yous whether it has to be done in 3 months or whether its a year. Things that used to be unacceptable are now more accepted at least by our age group.
Well, I probably fall into the "old school" thing you are referring to (much to my dismay
). I got married in 1991. A different century, for goodness sakes. I did get married in my hometown because that's what we wanted. We did have some people who had to travel to get here, and they did. So, for them, my wedding was a "destination" wedding.
I don't have a problem with destination weddings. If I get invited to one, I go or don't go based on the circumstances at the time. I don't think the bride & groom are selfish for planning a destination wedding...realistically, there is always going to be
someone who is going to have a problem with
something about your wedding.
My niece recently got married...2 days after Christmas! It was necessary to do it during the holiday season because her husband is in grad school and they needed to get it done while he had his break. They had been dating for 5 years, didn't want to have a super long engagement, didn't feel comfortable living together while waiting to be married, so planning it for during the holidays seemed to be the best alternative for them so they could start their married life together. My crazy SisIL had a problem with the whole thing...kept yapping about how she would "never allow her child to get married so close to Christmas, what a problem it was going to be for HER to come" and on and on and on...I told her she could solve all her problems by not coming if it was that much of a hardship. I told her that it was not the bride and groom's job to plan their wedding or their life for that matter to suit HER needs.
Of course, she ended up coming, having all kinds of fits, causing consternation until she was finally told that if she didn't behave herself she would be uninvited from the wedding (she had come in several days before the actual day, so there was plenty of time for her to cause trouble AND be uninvited!). She behaved after that and my niece had a lovely beautiful wedding just liked she wanted it to be and she was amongst the happiest brides I have ever seen. And her groom was amongst the happiest grooms I have ever seen as well. There is a picture of his face at the moment he saw my niece standing at the back of the church and it brings a tear to the eye of even old married me...you can actually see the love in the picture.... priceless....
