Do you think it's rude to ask people to remove their shoes in your home?

[luvsJack]

I kind of feel like it's a wonder my kids ever survived the dark ages! My floors were never the kind you'd want to eat off of.

I have wondered the same thing! Actually my babies used to have a ball crawling in the grass. . . . . . OUTSIDE! DGD loves being outside and she doesn't plan to sit in anyone's lap or stay in a playpen or even in her sandbox.

My floors get mopped and vacuumed daily, I figure if that is enough for my dog (who also goes outside barefoot) its enough for anyone's shoes.

 

[luvmy3]

I don't want people to wear their shoes in my house because they probably flushed the toilet with them. Or if the used their hand and didn't want to use my pretty guest towels they may have resorted to using their socks, and OMG what if they just rinsed and didn't use the pretty guest soap

 

[luvsJack]

I don't want people to wear their shoes in my house because they probably flushed the toilet with them. Or if the used their hand and didn't want to use my pretty guest towels they may have resorted to using their socks, and OMG what if they just rinsed and didn't use the pretty guest soap

The fears we learn to have from the dis!!

 

[MaumeeMom]

you know, you may have hit on an important point. perhaps some of the people just want to be controlling of their guests?

Wow! That is a little extreme don't you think. Not everything is about control or one person being better than another or anything else. I always wonder about people who jump to the extreme conclusions.

The question was asked and answered. Those who said no are now being judged and why? Because they disagree with you?

I've answered - "no" - and explained my reasons and procedures. It is not about "control."

Do what you want in your house but don't judge me as a bad or controlling person because I do things differently.

Have a nice day.

 

[jamie&Greg]

I kind of feel like it's a wonder my kids ever survived the dark ages! My floors were never the kind you'd want to eat off of.

I hear you, my dd is only 3, so I am a fairly new mom but a little dirt is not going to hurt her KWIM. My friends are CRAZY germ freaks! Sometimes I really just can't stand it! My DD crawled on my dirty, shoe walked on carpet until I got tile, kisses her dirty germy dogs and she is still alive and doing well

 

[scrapquitler]

She was being funny!!

Scrapquilter - I got your joke and thought it was funny!!!

This thread is killing me - Especially the people who are afraid of germs and dirt on the bottom of people shoes.

I'm glad that someone realized it was a joke

 

[Planogirl]

I was just outside in my front yard in my bare feet! I do that often so I guess that I should put on shoes when I come inside? (Oh, I do wash my feet but I still run outside without shoes on sometimes.)

We have hardwood floors and old carpet though. I don't care about this carpet but just shampoo it occasionally to keep it from being too grotesque.

Again, no one has ever asked me to remove my shoes and most people I visit have shoes on. It's interesting how different things can be.

 

[GRUMPY PIRATE]

I kind of feel like it's a wonder my kids ever survived the dark ages! My floors were never the kind you'd want to eat off of.

I guess we could solve this problem by having dirt floors!! instead of mopping or vaccuming, you just get out the weed wacker!

Wow! That is a little extreme don't you think. Not everything is about control or one person being better than another or anything else. I always wonder about people who jump to the extreme conclusions.

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Extreme? not at all.

some people like to control every little thing in their life.

heck look at the DIS. If you have a different opinion, some people cannot rest until they convince you otherwise.

heck when I was younger and single, I often asked the ladies that visited me to remove their shoes...from the top down!!

 

[FireDancer]

It is their house and if they ask me to remove my shoes I will respect their wishes. We live in a place with bad winter weather and it isn't unheard of that people who don't care in the summer if you remove your shoes will ask you to remove them in the winter so you don't grind salt into their floors.

I see no reason to tell anyone else in their home how they should treat their floors. It is their house and I will respect their wishes in their house regardless of what I do in my house.

 

[krcit]

I don't know if it's rude or not but once one of DH's friends came over in flip-flops. Dude has the gnarliest feet I ever saw so I told him we have a 2 sock minimum in my house

 

[snapppyd]

What about in the city? DH rides the NYC subways every day. Do you know what is on those floors We would never dream of wearing our shoes into the apartment. I like to walk barefoot when I'm home. It would be like walking in that slop and going to bed with it on the bottom of my feet

 

[ZachnElli]

I don't think it's rude to ask someone to remove their shoes when entering their home. I usually remove mine anyway. Of course, most homes I go to are friends and relatives and I know how much work they put into taking care of their homes and floors (I never remove them at my in-laws, they don't ever clean!). I have had people get mud and gum on my carpet, so I will ask people to remove them in my home when I can see their shoes are dirty.

 

[npmommie]

I don't have issue with dirt, like mud etc. what I can't get out of my mind is what they may have unknowingly stepped in............like have you ever seen anyone spit a huge one in a parking lot? nuff said

 

[Toad_Passenger]

I don't have issue with dirt, like mud etc. what I can't get out of my mind is what they may have unknowingly stepped in............like have you ever seen anyone spit a huge one in a parking lot? nuff said

Parking lots, sheesh? In my neck of the woods we've got people spitting on the floors of the markets! Eww.

 

[Halbleib1]

Asking somebody not to smoke, is a whole different situation..that is health reasons, and stinky reasons.. No smoking in our house, but you can wear your shoes.
Martha Stewart has TONS of money, I am sure her stuff is worth much more then any of ours on the boards..but again maybe no
This wont be a concern for me as I dont plan on being invited to Martha's house anytime soon

Lead in dirt being brought into the home is also a health concern for young children esp. They are always putting their hands in their mouths etc. Just because Martha has much more expensive things than most of us does not mean that our things are not just as important to take care of. And actually you could say the opposite is true that those of us without expensive items should take care of our things better because unlike her we can not just go out and replace items that get ruined. At least the majority of us can not afford to.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

I don't know if I really consider it rude or not but to be honest- I hate when anyone wears shoes in my house. I think it is gross. I don't want all the yuck from outside on my floors or rugs. Yes I vacuum and wash the floors etc. but you can't wash a rug everyday and they are much harder to clean. I don't know where you stepped and if the weather is bad no matter how much you wipe your feet your shoes are still wet and dripping. I don't want that mess on my floors either. I am not a germaphobe but I just think it is nasty to wear your shoes indoors.

 

[Halbleib1]

Why would you refuse to honor the wishes of your host? Where do you put your shoes? Could your hosts be upset that you are leaving your shoes piled in their entry? Do you care?



No it doesn't. I agree with this poster. She simply implied it is "smart" to follow the lead of the host. There is NO VALUE judgement here whatsoever. This would be smart for shoe OR no shoe people.

The reason for doing this despite being told not to is because when they come to my home I do not want to hear the excuse of well when you come to my home you do not remove your shoes. I feel that if I am going to ask them to remove their shoes at my home than I need to do the same at theirs so that this is not an issue. If there is a porch and it is not raining/snowing I will sit my shoes to the side there otherwise I will put them inside the door out of the way. It is usually my husbands family and they do not care one way or the other. They just do not require shoes to be off. And believe me you can tell based on the dirt on their floors. If you do not want to clean your floors than you should be asking that shoes be taken off imo. I always make sure I have socks on and as soon as I am home they come off with my shoes.

 

[Halbleib1]

On the other hand if you're going to ask people to honor your request to take off their shoes in YOUR home... don't you owe it to others to honor their requests about keeping your shoes on in THEIR homes?

Wouldn't have a problem doing this if those same people would not use the excuse that because I did not remove my shoes in their home why should they in mine. Yes I have had this happen in the past. I learned pretty quickly that if this was going to be a rule in my home than when I went to others I would always remove my shoes.

If you think this is rude than come visit my husbands family with a baby in diapers. They actually ask you to take your diapers home to throw away. This to me is beyond rude it is gross. I would never dream of asking them to take their trash home with them but yet they raise a fuss when I ask them to remove their shoes.

 

[WL Fan]

When I'm a guest I follow my host/ess' cues, if they have their shoes on, I leave mine on.

When I'm having people over, I let them do whatever they are most comfortable with, it doesn't bother me either way. Sometimes older people need the support their shoes provide. I can wash my rugs later.

 

[Rainwater]

I do. My sister has a no shoes in the house rule and it bothers me. Not so much taking my shoes off - I generally do that anyway because I like walking barefoot, but I don't think that it should be a requirement as a guest. What do you guys think?

I think shoes are okay. She could probably even provide some type of slippers, but that's where I draw the line. The clothes stay on. I don't know your sister well enough to go any further.......