radioclash2
I’m all lost in the supermarket
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Hello Everyone! I try to read to catch up every now and then, but life has been a little crazy! My DD12 had a friend pass away in August and that was hard for all of us. She was diagnosed with a rare form of cancer in Oct. 06, and from late spring to early summer, she seemed to be doing better. In mid July she started having some problems again, and passed away in August. We took a fall trip to WDW and MNSSHP, and came home to our 13 year old cat who almost died while we were gone. Fortunately after a lot of money later, she improved and is doing remarkably well. We went out of town for a short Christmas break, and came home to a collapsed closet in our master bedroom. Now, we didn't have our home flooded or anything after our record rainfall in early December, but still a mess, and we decided to replace the closet with some nice drawers/shelves/rods, etc., put in new flooring, etc. Needless to say, between the cat and the closet we could have paid for another cruise! Then last night, I got a call from my DS9's teacher and she said that a classmate of his had his sister die from an asthma problem last week. It is so hard to explain to kids why people die. This raised questions from him of if we are just going to die, why are we here? I told him that we are here to help people and do nice things for others and when we go to heaven we can do nice things for people there as well. Does anyone else have any ideas of how to explain this to their kids? It just isn't right when a child dies.
Sorry to ramble, and I realize that I don't really know any of you, but I did catch up on some posts and feel I know you that way. I just saw the pirate zone website and that looks awesome. Thanks for doing that. We are very excited for this trip and are looking forward to planning more. I hope all of you have a wonderful day and enjoy your kids each and every day! I'll check in more often now. Sorry for rambling and thanks for listening!
I've posted bits of this before... when I was 17 my 9 year old brother died unexpectedly. He had recently been diagnosed with cancer. But, he died in the OR during a biopsy. He was the twin of my brother who is coming on the cruise with us.
There were so many well meaning people who told me he wouldn't die. They just really were trying to be comforting. But, it really made me mad after the fact. That has always stuck with me. As a result, I have never uttered those words to anyone.
My kids have experienced the deaths of older relatives, and a few years ago the death of a 5 year old cousin. I've tried to be honest with them. We really don't know why people die when they do, we just know that everyone dies. After my mother died, they wanted to be reassured that I wasn't going to die any time soon. And, based on my younger experiences, I just couldn't bring myself to tell them that I wasn't going to die. So I told them that I wasn't planning on it. It might be semantics but for me it felt honest.
I think my kids just wanted to ask questions. I think they are more afraid of the unknown. So I let them ask what ever they want And, when I don't know the answer I tell them I don't know & I ask them what they think.
Sorry for the long post. I really feel for you. Those are my experiences, for what they're worth.