The teacher should "just say no thank you", right?

[Mouse House Mama]

No I don't care about any gift given to a teacher, but if its being given as a bribe, thats different. That is why I would want it to be investigated An expensive gift? Isn't that why some schools have a gift rule? Just want to add that as far as I know, our school doesn't have that rule. I have only heard of that from the pp.

But that's just it. You have no idea if it is anything more than a gift. I don't need an investigation into it. You know why? I don't care what anyone does. If the teacher wants to take a bribe for good grades then so be it. I am happy with the grades that my kids earn. I don't care how anyone gets their grades. Besides- all you have here is some Father questioning a child that is not his own which imo is what really needs to be investigated.

Wow
I feel sorry for the teachers who have to deal with parents like you.

AMEN! I cannot even imagine the crazy parents they have to deal with. At least as a parent if I think someone is nuts I can stay away. The poor teacher has to deal with the whackadoos all year long!

 

[Mouse House Mama]

No, it's to get "4s."

You took the words right out of my mouth!

 

[Mickey's Minion]

I know many parents who don't care what is going on at school, sorry Im one that does. That will never change for as long as my kids attend those schools. I am a parent who is at every party all year since dd13 started school. I am friendly with many parents and the teachers there. If anyone is laughing, so be it. Im one of the parents who cares whats going on and I make no apologys for it. Some pp are probably the ones who don't know whats going on at school, thats sad not to be involved.

Im also the parent who stopped a kid from getting hit by a car in the crosswalk. Sorry, Im one of those parents

I am also a parent that knows what is going on in the classroom. I volunteer, I attend parties, etc.

Because of that, I would have no problem addressing rumors with the teacher before going to the principal.

I can't believe that you are that involved in your children's classes, yet still see the need to make reports to the principal without verifying facts.

 

[Halloweenqueen]

I was a nanny for a family of a professional basketball player. These players get free tickets to stadium events. Often the family couldn't use them, so they passed them on to family, teachers, and friends.

They also were able to get tickets for away games.

These tickets are not VIP seats by any means. We went to many away games and were in nosebleed seats. (i worked for the "star" of the team also)

Each player is awarded so many seats per game. Many dont use them, but I see nothing wrong in this family passing along seats that would have been empty otherwise.


Our old school had problems with parents overdoing it. Many would give the teachers weekends at their vacation home, etc. The prinicpal put a cap on gifts. If this situation makes it uncomfortable for you, maybe you should bring up the subject and see it a policy could be stated at your school.

 

[clovergirl5]

Op, you must have had a reason to question what was going on at school and nobody should knock you for it. Do what you think you should do. I do and its what I will continue to do until my kids are out of school. Don't worry about what the teachers or principal thinks about you if you were to talk to someone about it. If nobody has anything to hide, its not a big deal. I agree, there are bigger things to think about, but my children are important to me, and if I question ANYTHING at school, Im going to make it known no matter what. If it hurts someones feelings because I talked to someone, then I guess it does. Good luck to you.

 

[Heidict]

I know many parents who don't care what is going on at school, sorry Im one that does. That will never change for as long as my kids attend those schools. I am a parent who is at every party all year since dd13 started school. I am friendly with many parents and the teachers there. If anyone is laughing, so be it. Im one of the parents who cares whats going on and I make no apologys for it. Some pp are probably the ones who don't know whats going on at school, thats sad not to be involved.

Im also the parent who stopped a kid from getting hit by a car in the crosswalk. Sorry, Im one of those parents

Wow. So, now you are implying that because some PP's aren't up the butt of the principal everytime their kid sneezes they are "uninvolved" and they don't care about their children?

Glad you were able to grab the kid in the crosswalk. One of THOSE parents must have pushed him.

 

[mefordis]

I agree. Too many people ignore their conscience and inner voice because they are afraid of being judged by others. Don't question yourself. Go with your gut. HOWEVER.... since you SAID in the first place you aren't going to report it....I take that to mean you don't have any intention of reporting it.

Op, you must have had a reason to question what was going on at school and nobody should knock you for it. Do what you think you should do. I do and its what I will continue to do until my kids are out of school. Don't worry about what the teachers or principal thinks about you if you were to talk to someone about it. If nobody has anything to hide, its not a big deal. I agree, there are bigger things to think about, but my children are important to me, and if I question ANYTHING at school, Im going to make it known no matter what. If it hurts someones feelings because I talked to someone, then I guess it does. Good luck to you.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Wow. So, now you are implying that because some PP's aren't up the butt of the principal everytime their kid sneezes they are "uninvolved" and they don't care about their children?

Glad you were able to grab the kid in the crosswalk. One of THOSE parents must have pushed him.

Yeah- you have to watch out for all those uncaring parents at school. They grab the kids and throw them in the street taking bets on whether or not they will be able to run faster than the caring parents who will pull them to safety.

 

[jrmasm]

Wow. So, now you are implying that because some PP's aren't up the butt of the principal everytime their kid sneezes they are "uninvolved" and they don't care about their children?

Glad you were able to grab the kid in the crosswalk. One of THOSE parents must have pushed him.

He must have been screeching.

 

[Papa Deuce]

Op, you must have had a reason to question what was going on at school and nobody should knock you for it. Do what you think you should do. I do and its what I will continue to do until my kids are out of school. Don't worry about what the teachers or principal thinks about you if you were to talk to someone about it. If nobody has anything to hide, its not a big deal. I agree, there are bigger things to think about, but my children are important to me, and if I question ANYTHING at school, Im going to make it known no matter what. If it hurts someones feelings because I talked to someone, then I guess it does. Good luck to you.

Thanks, but I don't want to do anything... and never did, though many here are saying otherwise. I just think that ethically a teacher should say "Thanks very much, but I can't accept those". That's it. No more, no less.

 

[mjkacmom]

I wish all parents were focused on their own kids rather than worrying about what's going on with everyone else. If it doesn't involve your child, it really isn't your business.

Our school doesn't allow volunteers, for this reason. Too many busy bodies getting involved in things that are none of their business.

 

[Heidict]

I agree. Too many people ignore their conscience and inner voice because they are afraid of being judged by others. Don't question yourself. Go with your gut. HOWEVER.... since you SAID in the first place you aren't going to report it....I take that to mean you don't have any intention of reporting it.

Maybe I read your post wrong, but Clovergirl isn't the OP, it was Papa Duece. He also clearly stated that he was not going to bring it to anyones attention at the school. He was just curious about what others thought of the situation.

 

[Mickey's Minion]

Op, you must have had a reason to question what was going on at school and nobody should knock you for it. Do what you think you should do. I do and its what I will continue to do until my kids are out of school. Don't worry about what the teachers or principal thinks about you if you were to talk to someone about it. If nobody has anything to hide, its not a big deal. I agree, there are bigger things to think about, but my children are important to me, and if I question ANYTHING at school, Im going to make it known no matter what. If it hurts someones feelings because I talked to someone, then I guess it does. Good luck to you.

You see, that is the flaw of your thinking.

It IS a big deal to be innocent, yet be falsely accused of something to your boss. Unnecessary investigations take place, your reputation is tarnished, even if you are innocent.

You don't seem to care a whit about what kind of trauma you cause in somebody's else's work situation. You only seem to care about being the best Nosey Nellie you can be.

I will ask you again,

Would you think it innocent if a fellow employee's wife went to your husband's boss's boss to "investigate" your husband for something he did not do?

Because, he had nothing to hide, so no harm, no foul, right? It is just an investigation into your husband's character, right?

 

[mefordis]

Agreed. Maybe one set of tickets but to the extent you are observing, no.

Thanks, but I don't want to do anything... and never did, though many here are saying otherwise. I just think that ethically a teacher should say "Thanks very much, but I can't accept those". That's it. No more, no less.

 

[clovergirl5]

Wow. So, now you are implying that because some PP's aren't up the butt of the principal everytime their kid sneezes they are "uninvolved" and they don't care about their children?

Glad you were able to grab the kid in the crosswalk. One of THOSE parents must have pushed him.

Because stupid parent drivers don't stop to let the kids walk across at the crosswalk and there is a blind spot there when the parents park along the parking lot driveway. And the speed at which they are driving through there is to fast.

 

[clovergirl5]

Our school doesn't allow volunteers, for this reason. Too many busy bodies getting involved in things that are none of their business.

Parents are considered busybodies now...thats sad!

 

[mickeyboat]

Because stupid parent drivers don't stop to let the kids walk across at the crosswalk and there is a blind spot there when the parents park along the parking lot driveway. And the speed at which they are driving through there is to fast.

Now THIS is something I would go the principal about. I might even volunteer to monitor the crosswalk in the morning.

 

[Heidict]

Because stupid parent drivers don't stop to let the kids walk across at the crosswalk and there is a blind spot there when the parents park along the parking lot driveway. And the speed at which they are driving through there is to fast.

Sounds like you should mention to the principal that they need a crossing guard or someone there. Blind spots and reckless drivers don't mix. Of course, once a kid gets hit, then I'm sure they will.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Parents are considered busybodies now...thats sad!

Sorry- some parents are busybodies. You know- the ones who keep a torch in their back pocket so they can go to the principal and superintendant for every little thing they observe. Of course they go under the guise of being a "concerned parent" when really they are just nitpickers that make the admin roll their eyes when they see the torch coming. They have them in every school.

 

[clovergirl5]

You see, that is the flaw of your thinking.

It IS a big deal to be innocent, yet be falsely accused of something to your boss. Unnecessary investigations take place, your reputation is tarnished, even if you are innocent.
You don't seem to care a whit about what kind of trauma you cause in somebody's else's work situation. You only seem to care about being the best Nosey Nellie you can be.
I will ask you again,

Would you think it innocent if a fellow employee's wife went to your husband's boss's boss to "investigate" your husband for something he did not do?

Because, he had nothing to hide, so no harm, no foul, right? It is just an investigation into your husband's character, right?[/QUOTE]

Your rep is tarnished because the principal called you on the phone and asked you a question? Thats warped

Nope, how bout concerned parent named Jenny. Follow the rules if there are rules about this, if theres not, than great for you. My kid has to follow rules in school. I guess, saying that, I would tell the op to see if there are gift rules at his school. If there is, than simply the teacher is not obeying. If there isn't rules, than don't worry about it if you don't think the girl is getting special treatment for these special gifts. I want an honest, rule obeying teacher teaching my kid. I do not understand all the upset here.

OMG! Honestly, if thats what needed to be done, do it! Thats what dh would say too. I think the situation would be solved faster with it coming from his boss rather than being confronted by a fellow coworker. Usually when the boss says something, its true, end of story. So if the dh boss can clear something up, then great! Better coming from the bosses lips than speculation and rumors from someone else