The teacher should "just say no thank you", right?

[Lisa loves Pooh]

1. It seems weird to me for a teacher to accept such gifts outside of a special reason (like a holiday or end of year type thing).

2. Kids will call other kids teachers pets even if they are not. Unfortunate, but I would really take it with a grain of salt.

#2 would be of a more important issue to me than #1 (in relation to your child, not the perceived teacher's pet)

 

[clovergirl5]

I see you're making friends and influencing people again, clovergirl. lol

You know it...and I guess my children are so lucky to have me, right everyone. Oh and teachers laugh or duck when they see me coming right?

 

[legalsea]

Strange thread.

However, it is obvious to me that the 'father' and the 'teacher' are having an affair, and this is how he arranges to see her, through the tickets.

There, I hope this settles everything to everyones' satisfaction.

 

[sbsteel]

Unbelievable....I do get it, thank you. If I see/hear anything at school, the store, the dentist, the doctor, the ortho, driving, ANYWHERE that I have any concern about, I will question who I need to. Why is that such a bad thing. I guess if you want to call me a busybody, than I guess thats what I am. Not a big deal. I will and do teach my children to pay attention to whats going on and if they have concerns talk to someone about it.

*sigh*

So you're going to teach your children to pay attention to things that don't directly involve them and then encourage them to talk about it? It's like you're encouraging gossip and you're wondering why that's a bad thing?

 

[greenpea89]

Thanks, but I don't want to do anything... and never did, though many here are saying otherwise. I just think that ethically a teacher should say "Thanks very much, but I can't accept those". That's it. No more, no less.

I just want to clarify that only about 5 posters out of 100 (I am rounding numbers to take into account multiple posts by the same poster)have agreed that this issue would concern them and only 1 has strongly stated that they would go to the principal about it (as I understand it, and if I am incorrect please let me know clovergirl, she feels strongly that every issue she is interested in should be taken to the principal or superintendent including but not limited to issues with their child's lunch account). Others may come on to agree and disagree but I believe the percentage is about right for the general population with those that think it isn't a big deal actually skewing higher (since by the very nature of not caring this wouldn't ping their radar). I really don't think that number could be considered many per se.

I guess what I'm saying is that, and we all tend to do it, when you are looking for validation or something to be wrong you will find it but that doesn't make it the reality.

 

[Piglets Mommy]

Strange thread.

However, it is obvious to me that the 'father' and the 'teacher' are having an affair, and this is how he arranges to see her, through the tickets.

There, I hope this settles everything to everyones' satisfaction.

 

[Michigan Minnie]

I believe the teacher should have said “thanks, but no thanks”. A gift that large, whether there was any cost to the person who was giving it, has the appearance of a bribe. Human nature being what it is, I don’t believe there is any way for the teacher to not show some type of favoritism in the classroom to the child of the person giving it. Whether it is overt favoritism or not, the gift most definitely changes the dynamics of the classroom. That is specifically why most large corporations forbid the taking of gifts by employees from vendors during the holidays. You are more apt to favor the gift giver whether you consciously set out to do that or not. So “thanks, but no thanks” should always be the rule. If the school doesn’t have a policy regarding that I would bring it up to the principal or school board to get the policy in place. I would not however bring it to the teacher even though I believe it was a lapse in judgment on their part.

 

[Missy1961]

Strange thread.

However, it is obvious to me that the 'father' and the 'teacher' are having an affair, and this is how he arranges to see her, through the tickets.

There, I hope this settles everything to everyones' satisfaction.

 

[dislaney]

Strange thread.

However, it is obvious to me that the 'father' and the 'teacher' are having an affair, and this is how he arranges to see her, through the tickets.

There, I hope this settles everything to everyones' satisfaction.

Sorry I couldn't help but laugh at this!

 

[clovergirl5]

I just want to clarify that only about 5 posters out of 100 (I am rounding numbers to take into account multiple posts by the same poster)have agreed that this issue would concern them and only 1 has strongly stated that they would go to the principal about it (as I understand it, and if I am incorrect please let me know clovergirl, she feels strongly that every issue she is interested in should be taken to the principal or superintendent including but not limited to issues with their child's lunch account). Others may come on to agree and disagree but I believe the percentage is about right for the general population with those that think it isn't a big deal actually skewing higher (since by the very nature of not caring this wouldn't ping their radar). I really don't think that number could be considered many per se.

I guess what I'm saying is that, and we all tend to do it, when you are looking for validation or something to be wrong you will find it but that doesn't make it the reality.

Just giving my honest opinion. Obviously op was concerned or he would have not started a thread about it. Do you know how many other parents in that class are aware of these gifts and how they feel? Really, thats all that matters. It doesn't matter in the grand scheme of it all, what my opinion is, its not happening in my childrens school. Just relaying what I would do if I was concerned that the girl giving the gifts was receiving different treatment in the class because of it. Nothing more nothing less.

 

[Mickey's Minion]

As the saying goes...We agree to disagree, because I feel the way I do, and nobody will change that.

I want to apologize for questioning your methods.

I just read your posts on one of the zillion helicopter parenting threads and how you are working on some of your worries.

Good luck in your continued recovery and I sincerely mean that!

 

[okeydokey]

Parents are considered busybodies now...thats sad!

Not all parents.

 

[sbell111]

Just giving my honest opinion. Obviously op was concerned or he would have not started a thread about it. Do you know how many other parents in that class are aware of these gifts and how they feel? Really, thats all that matters. It doesn't matter in the grand scheme of it all, what my opinion is, its not happening in my childrens school. Just relaying what I would do if I was concerned that the girl giving the gifts was receiving different treatment in the class because of it. Nothing more nothing less.

I bet that the answer to your question is zero.

 

[clovergirl5]

I want to apologize for questioning your methods.

I just read your posts on one of the zillion helicopter parenting threads and how you are working on some of your worries.

Good luck in your continued recovery and I sincerely mean that!

Thank you, I appreciate that...ok you made me cry lol.

 

[Mickey's Minion]

Strange thread.

However, it is obvious to me that the 'father' and the 'teacher' are having an affair, and this is how he arranges to see her, through the tickets.

There, I hope this settles everything to everyones' satisfaction.

A grown man and a teacher having an affair at a Jonas Brother's concert

Love it!

 

[clovergirl5]

I bet that the answer to your question is zero.

Is that meant as sarcasm? Then the op is a busybody too?

 

[okeydokey]

You know it...and I guess my children are so lucky to have me, right everyone. Oh and teachers laugh or duck when they see me coming right?

I'm afraid this may truer than you think.

 

[kaytieeldr]

Well, I'll go against the grain here and say that I think it's really rude.

Most schools have some kind of a dollar limit on gifts for teachers, whether it's a holiday present or end of the year present, so I don't see why it wouldn't apply to non-holiday gifts as well. When I was in school, teachers actually couldn't accept ANY gifts at any time - just to avoid any possible conflicts down the road.

Never mind school, it may be against state policy. There was a story on the news here this week, as government employees teachers may only accept gifts with a value of $75 or less.

 

[clovergirl5]

I'm afraid this may truer than you think.

Well, if thats so, then they will know they can't get away with anything then huh?

 

[C.Ann]

Strange thread.

However, it is obvious to me that the 'father' and the 'teacher' are having an affair, and this is how he arranges to see her, through the tickets.

There, I hope this settles everything to everyones' satisfaction.

Not quite.. Could you please clarify where you obtained this information?