Should men give up their seat to women or children on transportation in Disney?

[Srbright]

Deleted accidental double post.

Stacy

 

[HippieChickadee]

I'm a healthy younger woman... I give up my seat for women and children and elderly.

Compassion. Peace. Empathy. Pass it on.

 

[talulabelle]

I'm a healthy younger woman... I give up my seat for women and children and elderly.

Compassion. Peace. Empathy. Pass it on.

It's so much easier to be this way than to be the type that is so worried about "fairness" and who waited for a second bus , who may feel like a lesser person if offered a seat. Jeez people - just be nice to each other. We can all get on the same bus and no one needs to wait. People who can stand without discomfort - give your seat to those who can't. No one needs to wait for the next bus. Just be nice - and just be good at accepting kindness when you need it and are offered it. Wouldn't the world be great and simple if we could all be like this.

 

[talulabelle]

How do you know the others didn't already wait for the next bus just to get a seat? If someone has a sleeping child, maybe they should have left the park a bit earlier so they wouldn't have to carry the sleeping child?

There are all sorts of ways to ensure you get a seat on the bus instead of waiting for someone to give you theirs. You just can't depend on the kindness of strangers when everyone coming out of the park is tired or have a problem standing.

I have two total knee replacements and arthritis in my hip so standing is very difficult for me, but I do it if I want to get on a bus that has no seats left. Otherwise I wait for the next bus.

Oh, and by the way - why on Earth should a person with a child who may fall asleep by the time the reach bus leave the park any earlier than anyone else? Are they lesser people. Should they not enjoy Disney as much or for as long as anyone else. No. Your thinking is just makes me

 

[mm1971]

Oh, and by the way - why on Earth should a person with a child who may fall asleep by the time the reach bus leave the park any earlier than anyone else? Are they lesser people. Should they not enjoy Disney as much or for as long as anyone else. No. Your thinking is just makes me

I really don't get it either. Last time I checked Disney was child and family friendly. Come on people, these kids will be running this country when we get older. Let's teach them to care about others and not just themselves.

 

[Nancy F]

I don't think so. Why should my husband have to stand everywhere we go. There will always be women with children on every bus. By the end of the day we are both beat. If we get a seat... we sit. We are not young. I have never once had anyone offer me a seat. Not one child has been put on an adults lap to allow me or my husband to sit.
Nancy

 

[HippieChickadee]

I really don't get it either. Last time I checked Disney was child and family friendly. Come on people, these kids will be running this country when we get older. Let's teach them to care about others and not just themselves.

absolutely perfect point!

Where will WE be if the kids are raised only to think of themselves.

 

[maxiesmom]

I really don't get it either. Last time I checked Disney was child and family friendly. Come on people, these kids will be running this country when we get older. Let's teach them to care about others and not just themselves.

I look at it this way: If someone in my family has need of a seat on a bus, it is up to me (or someone else in our family) to see to their needs. No one else. If I couldn't be bothered to see to it that my mom/grandma/pregnant sister had a seat, why should a total stranger care?

It is nice if someone offers their seats to others. I do when I can. But I think it is a bit sad that anyone has to. If you (in general) or a family member can't stand on a full bus, then you should be the one to see to it that they don't. Wait for a bus with open seating, rent a car, or grab a taxi. But if you can't bothered to be do any of those things, don't glare and complain about some guy who wouldn't stand for your family member. Obviously their needs weren't important to you to begin with.

 

[powellrj]

I look at it this way: If someone in my family has need of a seat on a bus, it is up to me (or someone else in our family) to see to their needs. No one else. If I couldn't be bothered to see to it that my mom/grandma/pregnant sister had a seat, why should a total stranger care?

It is nice if someone offers their seats to others. I do when I can. But I think it is a bit sad that anyone has to. If you (in general) or a family member can't stand on a full bus, then you should be the one to see to it that they don't. Wait for a bus with open seating, rent a car, or grab a taxi. But if you can't bothered to be do any of those things, don't glare and complain about some guy who wouldn't stand for your family member. Obviously their needs weren't important to you to begin with.

This is how I feel too. I know that I need a seat. I have had both knees replaced and have OA in both hips and spondylolistesis. Its not something you can tell my looking at me, so why in the world would I expect anyone to give me a seat. Its up to me and me alone to see that I have a seat. The same when my kids were little. Its not up to total strangers to make sure we had seats, it was my responsibility to see their needs were met.

This is why we always made sure we had transportation available. It maybe a cab or our own car, but I never assumed a stranger would put their needs above mine because who knows why they needed a seat.

 

[redrosesix]

I always give up my seat to anyone who looks like they need it, and I actually do have a hidden disability, but I can handle it. My mother always said... "Take a look around, you don't have to look very far to find someone that has it worse than you."

DH doesn't even bother to sit, regardless of how early we board, he just moves to the back of the bus to stand. All of our children are encourage to give up their seat to the very old or very young. It's the way we were raise, and CHOOSE to raise our children.

This is us too -- it's the way we were raised. My father would be rolling over in his grave if every one of us was not empathetic to others' needs, or at the very least polite (which is why if offered a seat you must accept graciously, especially if the "gentleman" is a young dude).

I don't think so. Why should my husband have to stand everywhere we go. There will always be women with children on every bus. By the end of the day we are both beat. If we get a seat... we sit. We are not young. I have never once had anyone offer me a seat. Not one child has been put on an adults lap to allow me or my husband to sit.
Nancy

And this explains why people don't give up their seats at wdw. I wondered -- it's one of the few things that makes me happy we don't live in wdw.

I guess you have never been on a bus with my family.

 

[redrosesix]

Huh?!!! I didn't post twice.

 

[Nancy F]

This is us too -- it's the way we were raised. My father would be rolling over in his grave if every one of us was not empathetic to others' needs, or at the very least polite (which is why if offered a seat you must accept graciously, especially if the "gentleman" is a young dude).



And this explains why people don't give up their seats at wdw. I wondered -- it's one of the few things that makes me happy we don't live in wdw.

I guess you have never been on a bus with my family -- or maybe you were...you might have been that whole family that was sitting.

Just me and the hubby. Who by the way does stand. As do I as we always seem to be on a full bus at night. I don't always want to wait for the next bus so I stand. And I am only 5Ft so can't hold on overhead. I have two bad hips. I like to sit when I can. And I like my husband to sit when he can. So sue me.

 

[HippieChickadee]

Just me and the hubby. Who by the way does stand. As do I as we always seem to be on a full bus at night. I don't always want to wait for the next bus so I stand. And I am only 5Ft so can't hold on overhead. I have two bad hips. I like to sit when I can. And I like my husband to sit when he can. So sue me.

And you would be the one I'd stand up for. My grandma has bad hips, I wouldn't want her standing.

 

[Pikezh638]

I'm pretty sure even at 24 my mother would not be too happy to know that I sat while someone who needed it more stood. We just got back 2 weeks ago, and I stood for someone else.

Not a big deal for me to stand on a bus for 20 minutes to get "home".

 

[redrosesix]

Just me and the hubby. Who by the way does stand. As do I as we always seem to be on a full bus at night. I don't always want to wait for the next bus so I stand. And I am only 5Ft so can't hold on overhead. I have two bad hips. I like to sit when I can. And I like my husband to sit when he can. So sue me.

I get it now -- you just said you weren't young.

You have definitely never been on a bus with my family -- we would have given up seats for you.

 

[Belle72]

I agree that you should stand and offer your seat to the elderly or the very young, etc... but please keep in mind the "man" who doesn't offer a seat might have his own health issues. You cannot always tell just by looking if they have back problems or knee issues etc.. Being angry at that person wouldn't be fair (or is glaring at them.) I once offered my 2 seats (was with dd9/ds5 had been on my lap)to an elderly couple, who were sweet to me, but glared at a man closer to them as they had to sort of crawl over him to get to our vacant seats. I understand they probably didn't think he should have stayed seated while we got up but you just never know!

 

[Aliceacc]

I look at it this way: If someone in my family has need of a seat on a bus, it is up to me (or someone else in our family) to see to their needs. No one else. If I couldn't be bothered to see to it that my mom/grandma/pregnant sister had a seat, why should a total stranger care?

It is nice if someone offers their seats to others. I do when I can. But I think it is a bit sad that anyone has to. If you (in general) or a family member can't stand on a full bus, then you should be the one to see to it that they don't. Wait for a bus with open seating, rent a car, or grab a taxi. But if you can't bothered to be do any of those things, don't glare and complain about some guy who wouldn't stand for your family member. Obviously their needs weren't important to you to begin with.

I think there's a world of difference between someone who CAN'T stand-- and needs to have alternate transporation-- and someone who is in real discomfort that I can alleviate with minimal effort.

That pregnant woman won't go into labor from standing 20 minutes, and the elderly gentleman won't have a heart attack. But both will be significantly more comfortable in my seat. I, on the other hand, am lucky enough that it won't make a significant difference in how I feel at the end of the day if I stand. So I'll happily give up my seat, and remind my kids as necessary that they're to do the same.

For me it's a total no-brainer. Very little inconvenience to me, and the return is a real convenience to someone else. And the bonus is that every single time I do it, I'm reminded of just how lucky I am.

 

[tanyaandallie]

I don't think so. Why should my husband have to stand everywhere we go. There will always be women with children on every bus. By the end of the day we are both beat. If we get a seat... we sit. We are not young. I have never once had anyone offer me a seat. Not one child has been put on an adults lap to allow me or my husband to sit.
Nancy

Wow, this is a very interesting attitude to have. I do not look at this as a man should give up his seat for a woman. I look at it like most people do. A man, woman, or child should give up their seat if someone else needs it more than him/her. My dh has arthritis in his knees so walking Disney is tough on him. On the bus I would stand and offer my seat before I let him stand because he likely needs to sit for a bit. However, if there was a 2 year old standing in front of him about to fly across the bus because he is so small, my dh would stand in a heartbeat!!!

 

[Dawna]

At what age do you think it is appropriate for a child to give up his or her seat for an adult to sit? I have been "surfing" on some pretty fast Disney buses where you feel like you really may fall if you aren't holding on pretty well. However I do want to instill in my son the good manners to give up his seat when necessary for a pregnant woman or person with a baby or sleeping toddler. He is ten and too big to really sit on someone's lap.

 

[Jacquie668]

I've never been offered a seat, but that doesn't stop me from being nice and respectful to others in need, which is my choice. Ever since I can remember, I have given up my seat for those in need and am doing so as a nice gesture. Maybe some day someone will offer me up a seat, but even if they don't that doesn't stop me from offering my seat up.

As for men giving up their seats, why just men, women and men as equals can elect to give up a seat to help a fellow human being and passenger on this crazy road called life. heh.