Should men give up their seat to women or children on transportation in Disney?

[tanyaandallie]

At what age do you think it is appropriate for a child to give up his or her seat for an adult to sit? I have been "surfing" on some pretty fast Disney buses where you feel like you really may fall if you aren't holding on pretty well. However I do want to instill in my son the good manners to give up his seat when necessary for a pregnant woman or person with a baby or sleeping toddler. He is ten and too big to really sit on someone's lap.

My son is 7 and if he were seated and a pregnant woman or parent holding a sleeping toddler got on, I'd have him stand. In fact, both of my kids LOVE standing!! Of course, different story if it were midnight after fireworks. DD (9) would likely be ok but ds would likely be VERY tired and likely not super safe for him to be standing. He would be sitting on my lap if it were crowded.

 

[LVSWL]

My husband and sons always give up their seats for others who seem to need it more.

 

[Srbright]

My husband and sons always give up their seats for others who seem to need it more.

We do the same thing. I just don't think that simply being female makes me need a seat more.

Stacy

 

[andysomma1]

I am a man. I get tired. My feet hurt after a day at the parks. I've let buses come and go so I would not have to stand on a bus. There are no signs at any of the bus stops at Disney that I have ever seen or on any buses at Disney that I have ever noticed that say "Men are not allowed to sit." I being a man have EVERY RIGHT to sit on a bus at Disney. I pay just as much as everyone else does for their tickets. If I choose to give up my seat that is my choice. I should not be made to feel that I was not "raised right" or that I am any less a man.

 

[Rylee]

This reminds me...

I was on a Disney bus leaving PO, and the bus driver announced that the bus would not leave until EVERY child was seated. After making the announcement a second time, and seeing children were still standing, he raised his voice and said, "Folks, I'm not kidding. It's far too dangerous for children to be standing, make it happen or the bus won't move." After some shuffling of kids and adults, we were on our way.

In all our many Disney vacations riding WDW transportation, this is the one and only time I've ever witnessed this.

 

[redrosesix]

I am a man. I get tired. My feet hurt after a day at the parks. I've let buses come and go so I would not have to stand on a bus. There are no signs at any of the bus stops at Disney that I have ever seen or on any buses at Disney that I have ever noticed that say "Men are not allowed to sit." I being a man have EVERY RIGHT to sit on a bus at Disney. I pay just as much as everyone else does for their tickets. If I choose to give up my seat that is my choice. I should not be made to feel that I was not "raised right" or that I am any less a man.

While this attitude may be ok in Miami, you have to remember that the people you see in wdw have traveled from all over the world. And where we come from, this is exactly what people WOULD think. Geez, if I felt like everyone in Florida felt this way I'd be spending my money in Disney Paris -- it's about the same distance for us.

This reminds me...

I was on a Disney bus leaving PO, and the bus driver announced that the bus would not leave until EVERY child was seated. After making the announcement a second time, and seeing children were still standing, he raised his voice and said, "Folks, I'm not kidding. It's far too dangerous for children to be standing, make it happen or the bus won't move." After some shuffling of kids and adults, we were on our way.

In all our many Disney vacations riding WDW transportation, this is the one and only time I've ever witnessed this.

Love this

 

[redrosesix]

At what age do you think it is appropriate for a child to give up his or her seat for an adult to sit? I have been "surfing" on some pretty fast Disney buses where you feel like you really may fall if you aren't holding on pretty well. However I do want to instill in my son the good manners to give up his seat when necessary for a pregnant woman or person with a baby or sleeping toddler. He is ten and too big to really sit on someone's lap.

We've been riding buses all our lives since we live in a city -- I've been "surfing" since I was about 4, but my next youngest brother didn't get to do it until he was at least 6 ie. it was fun for us, even if the bus was nearly empty. He got seated most of the time because he would let go of the poles when he wasn't supposed to -- he was also that kid that knocked over the ropes in the bank, stood up in the grocery cart, etc. I think it's safe for a kid to "surf" when you know they will cut out the horseplay when in public and hold on to the poles when you tell them to.

 

[dakotix]

Last time I checked women were just as capable as men to stand on a bus. If its an older *person* or a *person* who clearly is having a hard time then yes it is common sense to offer your seat.

 

[Mabel67]

My son is 7 and if he were seated and a pregnant woman or parent holding a sleeping toddler got on, I'd have him stand. In fact, both of my kids LOVE standing!! Of course, different story if it were midnight after fireworks. DD (9) would likely be ok but ds would likely be VERY tired and likely not super safe for him to be standing. He would be sitting on my lap if it were crowded.

Why don't you stand?

 

[HippieChickadee]

This reminds me...

I was on a Disney bus leaving PO, and the bus driver announced that the bus would not leave until EVERY child was seated. After making the announcement a second time, and seeing children were still standing, he raised his voice and said, "Folks, I'm not kidding. It's far too dangerous for children to be standing, make it happen or the bus won't move." After some shuffling of kids and adults, we were on our way.

In all our many Disney vacations riding WDW transportation, this is the one and only time I've ever witnessed this.

Great to read! <3

 

[vacationer1954]

Yes I appreciate reading that. I think a little more concern about safety and a little less concern about "how we were raised" is in order.

 

[maxiesmom]

This reminds me...

I was on a Disney bus leaving PO, and the bus driver announced that the bus would not leave until EVERY child was seated. After making the announcement a second time, and seeing children were still standing, he raised his voice and said, "Folks, I'm not kidding. It's far too dangerous for children to be standing, make it happen or the bus won't move." After some shuffling of kids and adults, we were on our way.

In all our many Disney vacations riding WDW transportation, this is the one and only time I've ever witnessed this.

I would have been very upset over this. Who gave this bus driver the power to decide that children should all sit and adults should give up their seats for them? What was his cut off age? How does he know who really needs a seat by looking at them? I would be beyond mad and would have reported him. That was so not his job, and apparently not policy as I have never heard that announcement. He overstepped his bounds big time.

If someone had a family member that they feel is unsafe standing on a bus, then they should see to it that they don't. Imposing on total strangers to take care of your family for you is rude, imho.

 

[maxiesmom]

At what age do you think it is appropriate for a child to give up his or her seat for an adult to sit? I have been "surfing" on some pretty fast Disney buses where you feel like you really may fall if you aren't holding on pretty well. However I do want to instill in my son the good manners to give up his seat when necessary for a pregnant woman or person with a baby or sleeping toddler. He is ten and too big to really sit on someone's lap.

I held my 16yr old niece on my lap last year. You gotta take those extra moments to snuggle while you can!

 

[vacationer1954]

Imposing on total strangers to take care of your family for you is rude, imho.

Isn't that exactly what people who say men should give up their seats for women are doing?

 

[WantToGoNow]

I don't think anyone should feel like they have to give up a seat. If they want to that's up to them. I have never expected someone else to stand and let mm e sit even when my children were babies. If I saw that the bus was standing room only and I chose to get on anyway then I chose to stand. I was thankful a few times to let elderly women that I didn't even know hold my babies while I stood. You can always wait for another bus if you see its full and you need a seat.

 

[DisneyNutMary]

I will always give up my seat to a pregnant woman, someone holding a child, or someone elderly. My DH and my two sons never sit if a female or child is standing.
There are limits that I have - I believe in equal rights, no man should give his seat up to me, as I was able bodied enough to run around the park all day. My sister on the other hand gets all bent out if shape if she had to stand while men and teenage boys sit. I think she's wrong- she wants to be paid a mans wage and be treated fairly in home life- why should WDW be any different? A man can be just as worn out as a woman.

 

[andysomma1]

While this attitude may be ok in Miami, you have to remember that the people you see in wdw have traveled from all over the world. And where we come from, this is exactly what people WOULD think. Geez, if I felt like everyone in Florida felt this way I'd be spending my money in Disney Paris -- it's about the same distance for us.

Greetings from Miami. I should start off by saying that I have only lived in Miami for two and a half years. I was actually raised in Oklahoma, and I have never ridden public transportation in Miami so I have no clue what the attitude is in Miami.

I have never forgotten that people come from all over the world to visit WDW. I love them, they are actually much friendlier than most of the people here in Miami. One of my favorite things to do while at the world is to listen to all the different accents.

Let me assure you that 10 out of 10 times I would give up my seat on a bus for a pregnant woman or an elderly person, no questions asked. However, I will give up my seat because it is my choice. For people to judge me and my upbringing because I'm tired and want to sit down on a bus is rude, narrow minded, and small. By looking at me sitting on a bus you cannot tell what I sacrifice every day of my life for other people, and unless you are gifted with x-ray vision you can not see any injuries I may have inside my body or any illness growing inside of it.

I also checked several distance calculators and the distance from Nova Scotia to Paris is 2645 miles. The distance from Nova Scotia to Kissimmee is 1379 miles. Does not look close to the same distance to me.

As for the quote about the bus driver announcing that the bus was not moving until all children were seated, I would have phoned in a complaint from the bus. I would have not waited until I got back to my resort.

 

[okeydokey]

I am a woman and I have offered a seat. So has my husband. I have put kids on my lap to make available seats. It has nothing to do with gender. If we see someone who needs a seat more than we do, we try to help regardless of that person's age or gender.

I would never board a full bus EXPECTING anyone to give me a seat, as that would be presumptuous and rude.

 

[starsweeper]

Sadly, I think a lot of common decency no longer exists. I'm a woman, but I will give up my seat or hold a door for an elderly person, pregnant woman, or parent with small children. I know what it is like to juggle two toddlers and a stroller while standing.

 

[maxiesmom]

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Let me assure you that 10 out of 10 times I would give up my seat on a bus for a pregnant woman or an elderly person, no questions asked. However, I will give up my seat because it is my choice. For people to judge me and my upbringing because I'm tired and want to sit down on a bus is rude, narrow minded, and small. By looking at me sitting on a bus you cannot tell what I sacrifice every day of my life for other people, and unless you are gifted with x-ray vision you can not see any injuries I may have inside my body or any illness growing inside of it.