Should men give up their seat to women or children on transportation in Disney?

[maxiesmom]

Isn't that exactly what people who say men should give up their seats for women are doing?

Exactly. People should be grateful of the courtesy when it is offered, and not demanding of it. Big difference.

 

[uagirl]

You could have waited for the next bus and gotten a seat.

You're right, I could have waited. But what was I supposed to do if another crowd showed up and the bus was full? Wait again?

Our rule as a family is that the men stand unless there are extra seats after all the women are seated. Prior to my daughter being born, I would also stand if room was needed. It's just a common courtesy to me.

 

[debrapagliasotti]

Its a nice gesture when someone does offer their seat, but it shouldnt be expected.

DH and DS11 will always give up their seat for someone who is elderly, disabled or a pregnant woman.

 

[Cinderella's Fella]

Really? So if a man gives up his seat to a woman it means he thinks the woman is weaker? I give up my seat for women because I respect my mother, my wife and my daughter and was raised properly. It is not because I feel they are weaker than I am. Your attitude is what's wrong with this world nowadays. No one would ever give up a seat without thinking ill of another. Absolutely ridiculous. You keep standing so you can prove your my equal and make your point. I'll give my seat to someone who appreciates a polite gesture.

Well Said mm1971! Anyone who needs to sit should, and any able body person should stand so they those who need to sit can. I fit into the need to sit, but I have stood so a mother holding a child could sit. Why wouldn't I help out a fellow traveler.

 

[afwdwfan]

I always give up my seat to anyone who needs it. It's just the polite and decent thing to do. In fact, when I get on the bus, I typically just plan to stand unless there will obviously be plenty of seats.

 

[DisneyDadC]

Let me start off by giving my answer to the OP's question. Should a man give up his seat for a woman or child? Well my answer to that is: If he is able to then yes. Does he have to? no.. This has nothing to do with women being equal to men. It is more about being courteous then anything else.I will always give up my seat to a woman ,child, elderly, persons in need.Does this mean think less of them ? hell no. It is just and act of kindness (and this world could use a lot of acts of kindness).Am I saying one should enter a bus thinking some one will get up and give them a seat? Absolutely not. But I do feel if one offers you a seat, you simply accept it or politely decline it.
Now about people boarding a full bus. Its going to happen. I do believe that those getting on the bus when it is standing room only do enter it understanding they will have to stand. Does that mean that just cause they entered it full you shouldnt offer a seat???? See above about ACT OF KINDNESS Theres enough pixie dust to go around so share it and we will all be the better for it.

 

[Bo Duke]

Well Said mm1971! Anyone who needs to sit should, and any able body person should stand so they those who need to sit can. I fit into the need to sit, but I have stood so a mother holding a child could sit. Why wouldn't I help out a fellow traveler.

I always give up my seat to anyone who needs it. It's just the polite and decent thing to do. In fact, when I get on the bus, I typically just plan to stand unless there will obviously be plenty of seats.

Let me start off by giving my answer to the OP's question. Should a man give up his seat for a woman or child? Well my answer to that is: If he is able to then yes. Does he have to? no.. This has nothing to do with women being equal to men. It is more about being courteous then anything else.I will always give up my seat to a woman ,child, elderly, persons in need.Does this mean think less of them ? hell no. It is just and act of kindness (and this world could use a lot of acts of kindness).Am I saying one should enter a bus thinking some one will get up and give them a seat? Absolutely not. But I do feel if one offers you a seat, you simply accept it or politely decline it.
Now about people boarding a full bus. Its going to happen. I do believe that those getting on the bus when it is standing room only do enter it understanding they will have to stand. Does that mean that just cause they entered it full you shouldnt offer a seat???? See above about ACT OF KINDNESS Theres enough pixie dust to go around so share it and we will all be the better for it.

Well said guys. I too always offer my seat (that is if I am close enough to make sense to) It is just a courtesy not a masculinity thing. I know the buses get packed, people are tired, Hot, but to really complain about offering your seat if you are able and there are others who could use it? It is your choice and again a courtesy. More than likely you have been standing most of the day walking around, what is another 10 - 15 mins. You can rest when you get back to your room. That is how I look at it anyways. Besides they may just say no. And if it really is that big of an issue for a person that is able to stand to offer their seat, again offer being the key, then rent a car.

 

[tianna26]

I ride the bus daily i will give up my seat for old people pregnant women or with babies

 

[FlightlessDuck]

As a well, abled man of slightly less than middle age, I believe that other men, including my 12 year old son, should be willing to give up his seat for the less-abled, the elderly, and the pregnant. I do not really think it's necessary to give up my seat for a well, abled woman of my age, or a child who is tall enough to reach the hand straps. I will give up an open seat for my wife or daughter. I will not judge men that don't do this, mostly for reasons I won't go through explaining.

I have no problem with women giving up their seats, either, but I do not expect them to do so because that wasn't how I was raised. I know many people think equality is more important than chivalry, but I don't think I feel justified speaking for women, since I'm not a woman.

 

[redrosesix]

Let me assure you that 10 out of 10 times I would give up my seat on a bus for a pregnant woman or an elderly person, no questions asked. However, I will give up my seat because it is my choice. For people to judge me and my upbringing because I'm tired and want to sit down on a bus is rude, narrow minded, and small. By looking at me sitting on a bus you cannot tell what I sacrifice every day of my life for other people, and unless you are gifted with x-ray vision you can not see any injuries I may have inside my body or any illness growing inside of it.

I also checked several distance calculators and the distance from Nova Scotia to Paris is 2645 miles. The distance from Nova Scotia to Kissimmee is 1379 miles. Does not look close to the same distance to me.

Hey I could drive that (if we didn't travel in winter) I guess it just seemed a lot farther since so many flights to Florida have us connecting in Toronto -- so stupid, since I know Florida is almost directly south of us.

True -- nobody really knows anybody just because they're on the same bus together. I give up my seat often, even though I have a bad back -- but I deal with that every day and 15 minutes standing on a bus isn't going to make a difference at this point.

But sometimes I prefer to stand just because I don't want to take my backpack off.

 

[momof2gr8kids]

I was raised to offer my seat to someone who needs it, and my kids are being raised the same way.

That being said, I do acknowledge that many times someone may have a medical reason that they need to sit, that you don't know about. So just because a man might not offer his seat to an elderly person, it could be because he's got his own medical issues.

I'm only 41 and have severe degenerative discs and arthritis in my back. Standing still or walking and shifting weight from leg to leg aggravates this. Sometimes my leg goes numb down to my toes and can give out. Looking at me, you would never know it, but many times I'm the one that needs to sit down before my mother!

So although I think it's the proper thing to do, I don't feel any ill will towards someone that doesn't offer their seat, because you just never know why they may need to sit!

 

[Srbright]

Well Said mm1971! Anyone who needs to sit should, and any able body person should stand so they those who need to sit can. I fit into the need to sit, but I have stood so a mother holding a child could sit. Why wouldn't I help out a fellow traveler.

Given that his comments were directed towards me....

I explicitly said that people that need to sit get a seat. Elderly, sick, holding children (regardless of gender) or pregnant women; all of whom I would give up my seat for.

So according to this logic, you can join me in being what's wrong with the world.

Polite People Unite!!!

Stacy

 

[mcuoghi]

Personally, I think it's just polite to give your seat (if able) to someone elderly, a pregnant woman, or someone disabled regardless of your gender. That being said, I'd also give up my seat to someone carrying a sleeping child too.

As a mom of two toddlers, it's always appreciated but never expected when someone does that.

 

[Disneyaddictz]

It most certainly is courteous to offer your seat. It's frustrating to stand holding a baby while others watch you struggle to stand...however courtesy can't be expected from anyone or you'll be disappointed....just ask the person sitting to hold your kid for you...sarcasm may work

 

[maxiesmom]

It most certainly is courteous to offer your seat. It's frustrating to stand holding a baby while others watch you struggle to stand...however courtesy can't be expected from anyone or you'll be disappointed....just ask the person sitting to hold your kid for you...sarcasm may work

Sarcasm won't work. I think it will make people not want to help you out. As you say, courtesy can't be expected, and it shouldn't be demanded.

I want to add that we were at WDW this past December. And I remember people offering their seats to others many times! I don't think this is as much of an issue as some make it out to be.

 

[Lynn5700]

Sorry if this has been asked before, but I have seen this posted a couple of times in other forums and was just wondering what you think! I really don't expect a man to give me their seat on the bus. I feel like they have been in the parks just like me, they are tired and some with children, backpacks & strollers! The one time I would have appreciated anyone (man or woman) was when I was with my daughter(pregnant) on the bus in route to meet her husband & her father one morning at the contemporary for CM after their fishing trip. Luck would have it we had to stand up in front with her two yr old and her stroller folded. Honestly! I thought one of us was going to fall before we got there! But we made it! LOL! If just one person (man or woman)would have given up their seat to my daughter (since she was pregnant & with another child)and had let her sit down and held her son on her lap, it would have been so appreciated!

Yeah, I am old fashioned and find it extremely sweet when a man offers a woman a seat.

Personally, I do not get offended or upset if a man does not offer a woman a seat. I'm not a complainer and don't mind standing. I dealt with it when I was pregnant in Disney, and I didn't get upset. I just think its super sweet when a man offers and it is just a sign I respect.

I'm sure there are extreme feminists out there who get offended if a man offers her a seat. So it is sometimes a lose lose for the guy. Damned if he does offer and damned if he doesn't.

I offer my seat to pregnant women, an elderly man or woman, or a small child. I just find it respectful to at least offer.

 

[crisi]

My husband looks healthy. He sits because he has a congenital issue with his spine that is getting worse as he ages. Eventually, he'll have to undertake risky surgery that may or may not do him any good, but for right now, he sits on buses.

If no one gives you a seat, its is possible that they are as bad off as you are, but it isn't visible.

A bus at Disney is filled with women with small children. Its filled with people with major and minor disabilities. No matter how tired you are, don't depend on someone giving you a seat on a full bus - sometimes it happens (I've given my seat, and when my kids were young, and people gave up their seats for them) which is great, but no one is required to give up their seat to you because you are female, have small kids, are pregnant, or are just really tired. If you NEED a seat there are a few options - wait at the front of the line until another bus comes, rent a car, or take a cab.

There are tricks for "getting a seat" - don't leave at or near closing or after any big event - like a parade - we never have an issue getting a seat if we leave during a parade. Don't take a bus to get to rope drop. Buses in the middle of the day are less crowded in all directions. In the interests of getting a seat, you might be taking an odd route - we stay at the Boardwalk and will take the monorail to Epcot from the MK and walk (walking isn't bad for my husband like standing on a moving bus is).

 

[cpster]

And if you are offered a seat, make sure you thank the person offering the seat.

This! After a few times of not even a word of thanks my husband just stopped offering.

 

[HippieChickadee]

This! After a few times of not even a word of thanks my husband just stopped offering.

do nice things because you're a nice compassionate person, not because you expect to be acknowledged for doing it.

 

[DisneyWalle]

I stand if I see someone who needs to sit worse than I do. We are all tired when we leave the parks but I think being thoughtful goes a long way. I personally hold open doors for people too when entering or exiting a building -- just because I find it a nice gesture. My DH and I are also teaching our son to offer his seat or hold doors for others because for us its the right thing to do. Makes me so proud of him to see him act on his own accord because he sees someone with a need. If him being nice and thoughtful makes you feel like less of a woman please just gently decline his offer and stand or open the door once it has closed behind him.

As a woman myself, I am always thankful when anyone is thoughtful enough to help me and if I don't need the assistance -- I politely decline.