Should men give up their seat to women or children on transportation in Disney?

[WIDisneyFan]

To me it is less about gender and more about what the situation is. I will, and expect my kids to, give up a seat for anyone the needs it no matter if they are male, female, young or old. A healthy 30 year old man holding a sleeping child needs the seat far more than I do. For me it is just a matter of courtesy and doing whats right, not whats expected. Everyone on the bus would prefer a seat, but there are some people that NEED a seat.

 

[3pletprincesses]

To me it is less about gender and more about what the situation is. I will, and expect my kids to, give up a seat for anyone the needs it no matter if they are male, female, young or old. A healthy 30 year old man holding a sleeping child needs the seat far more than I do. For me it is just a matter of courtesy and doing whats right, not whats expected. Everyone on the bus would prefer a seat, but there are some people that NEED a seat.

 

[talulabelle]

If they were raised correctly, yes they should and would. And any young person that is able bodied should offer their seat to an elderly, very pregnant, or person holding a small child. It is isn't about gender, or who got there first, it's just about common kindness and decency.

 

[Ginny Favers]

When I was at WDW, I was holding my 2 year old (who was freaked out that the bus was so crowded and didn't want to stand on her own), and the only person who offered up his seat was this very old man. I kept telling him that he should keep his seat, but he insisted. After that, another person got a clue and offered him his seat. But I was surprised that he was the only one who offered.

 

[Srbright]

If they were raised correctly, yes they should and would. And any young person that is able bodied should offer their seat to an elderly, very pregnant, or person holding a small child. It is isn't about gender, or who got there first, it's just about common kindness and decency.

As a female and a mother of a son I absolutely disagree with that. For elderly, and women who are pregnant or some obviously ill, absolutely. However I want my son to grow up treating women as equals. I believe that teaching them that women are a weaker class of people is counter productive.

Teaching them to give up their seats (or anything for that matter) to someone solely based on gender is a bias I don't want him to have and don't want my daughter to expect.

Being originally from the south I find that these types of "common decency" acts do more to reduce women's equality than they do to show that someone was "raised right".

Stacy

 

[uagirl]

To me it is less about gender and more about what the situation is. I will, and expect my kids to, give up a seat for anyone the needs it no matter if they are male, female, young or old. A healthy 30 year old man holding a sleeping child needs the seat far more than I do. For me it is just a matter of courtesy and doing whats right, not whats expected. Everyone on the bus would prefer a seat, but there are some people that NEED a seat.

Our last trip, I was the healthy 30 year old mom holding her sleeping 2 year old. Not a single person offered their seat to me. I can't even begin to tell you how much fun it was to try and hold on to the rail while holding a 25 lb sleeping child.

Of course, I also believe in the old southern traditions of men opening the doors for women and such. Guess that puts me in the minority.

 

[talulabelle]

As a female and a mother of a son I absolutely disagree with that. For elderly, and women who are pregnant or some obviously ill, absolutely. However I want my son to grow up treating women as equals. I believe that teaching them that women are a weaker class of people is counter productive.

Teaching them to give up their seats (or anything for that matter) to someone solely based on gender is a bias I don't want him to have and don't want my daughter to expect.

Being originally from the south I find that these types of "common decency" acts do more to reduce women's equality than they do to show that someone was "raised right".

Stacy

FIrst, I never said they should soley based on the fact they are female I said "elderly, very pregnant, or holding a small child" or basically anyone having a more difficult time standing on a moving bus than you would. In todays world, I don't find being female only a reason that a man should jump up to offer a seat. However, I am proud that my son or husband would anyway.

Second, I really think you over-think the situation. I don't think a man has to offer his seat to a woman that is just fine standing - however, if he does (to a woman or anyone for that matter)- she does not need to feel weaker or put down. If she is perfectly capable of standing, she can say "No, thank you". All done. Kind genture offered, kind gesture politely declined. Its all about being nice, not about having any alterior motive of keeping women suppressed. I mean, when I was 9 months pregnant and needed a seat on the subway - it wasn't because I felt like a weaker person or was less of a person than anyone, it was because it hurt like hell to stand for too long and my balance was way off. Are elderly people less or weaker because they may be more comfortable sitting? of course not. It's just easer for them to sit. Why on earth should a woman feel lesser for be offered a seat? If she doesn't need it, she can decline. I for one, will teach my son to be kind to people, male or female without worrying about "insulting them" If they are insulted by a kind gesture - they are the one with the problem, not him.

 

[bgraham34]

Our last trip, I was the healthy 30 year old mom holding her sleeping 2 year old. Not a single person offered their seat to me. I can't even begin to tell you how much fun it was to try and hold on to the rail while holding a 25 lb sleeping child.

Of course, I also believe in the old southern traditions of men opening the doors for women and such. Guess that puts me in the minority.

Now if I would have saw you with those kids I would have gladly given up my seat. I am not just going to give up my seat to give it up. If an elderly woman or a mother with a child or kid are there I will.

 

[dominiondad]

If a man is able, he should give up his seat to a woman or child, Disney or not.

 

[Deb & Bill]

Our last trip, I was the healthy 30 year old mom holding her sleeping 2 year old. Not a single person offered their seat to me. I can't even begin to tell you how much fun it was to try and hold on to the rail while holding a 25 lb sleeping child.

Of course, I also believe in the old southern traditions of men opening the doors for women and such. Guess that puts me in the minority.

You could have waited for the next bus and gotten a seat.

 

[Canooknic]

Isn't it just common courtesy to give up your seat to someone that needs it more than you do, regardless of your gender/age etc??

 

[donaldlovesdaisy]

You could have waited for the next bus and gotten a seat.

So you would be OK just seating or having your husband sit and not give her a seat while she is trying to hold her sleeping child or for a pregnant women or an elderly person in need of a seat? I am however assuming you are both healthy and could stand for a few minutes.

TO answer the original question my husband and I will almost always give up our seat on the bus for someone who needs it and we will make our kids do the same or share a seat with each other to make room.

 

[mm1971]

As a female and a mother of a son I absolutely disagree with that. For elderly, and women who are pregnant or some obviously ill, absolutely. However I want my son to grow up treating women as equals. I believe that teaching them that women are a weaker class of people is counter productive.

Teaching them to give up their seats (or anything for that matter) to someone solely based on gender is a bias I don't want him to have and don't want my daughter to expect.

Being originally from the south I find that these types of "common decency" acts do more to reduce women's equality than they do to show that someone was "raised right".

Stacy

Really? So if a man gives up his seat to a woman it means he thinks the woman is weaker? I give up my seat for women because I respect my mother, my wife and my daughter and was raised properly. It is not because I feel they are weaker than I am. Your attitude is what's wrong with this world nowadays. No one would ever give up a seat without thinking ill of another. Absolutely ridiculous. You keep standing so you can prove your my equal and make your point. I'll give my seat to someone who appreciates a polite gesture.

 

[talulabelle]

You could have waited for the next bus and gotten a seat.

you must live a very unhappy and lonely existence. I just can't even understand this thinking. It just makes me very sad. How could you not care about a woman holding a 25lb child? I've been there and done that and believe me, all the people around me that are like you - I was just knowing there would be some sort of payback in this life or the next for them. One day - and it may not be on this Earth - they will realize how miserable I was.

 

[deserrai]

I appreciate it when it happens, but I don't expect it. Many, many people have offered to give up their seat for me usually because I was holding my now 3 year old. I would give up my seat for an elderly or pregnant person. I don't mind standing at all.

 

[Srbright]

Your attitude is what's wrong with this world nowadays. No one would ever give up a seat without thinking ill of another. Absolutely ridiculous.

I wasn't aware I was that well known. I will use my power to destroy the world wisely.

Stacy

 

[lucyem]

To me it is less about gender and more about what the situation is. I will, and expect my kids to, give up a seat for anyone the needs it no matter if they are male, female, young or old. A healthy 30 year old man holding a sleeping child needs the seat far more than I do. For me it is just a matter of courtesy and doing whats right, not whats expected. Everyone on the bus would prefer a seat, but there are some people that NEED a seat.

 

[donaldlovesdaisy]

I wasn't aware I was that well known. I will use my power to destroy the world wisely.

Stacy

I am sorry I do not agree with your original post but this one is really funny!! Thanks for the giggle!!!

 

[deserrai]

Really? So if a man gives up his seat to a woman it means he thinks the woman is weaker? I give up my seat for women because I respect my mother, my wife and my daughter and was raised properly. It is not because I feel they are weaker than I am. Your attitude is what's wrong with this world nowadays. No one would ever give up a seat without thinking ill of another. Absolutely ridiculous. You keep standing so you can prove your my equal and make your point. I'll give my seat to someone who appreciates a polite gesture.

 

[Deb & Bill]

you must live a very unhappy and lonely existence. I just can't even understand this thinking. It just makes me very sad. How could you not care about a woman holding a 25lb child? I've been there and done that and believe me, all the people around me that are like you - I was just knowing there would be some sort of payback in this life or the next for them. One day - and it may not be on this Earth - they will realize how miserable I was.

How do you know the others didn't already wait for the next bus just to get a seat? If someone has a sleeping child, maybe they should have left the park a bit earlier so they wouldn't have to carry the sleeping child?

There are all sorts of ways to ensure you get a seat on the bus instead of waiting for someone to give you theirs. You just can't depend on the kindness of strangers when everyone coming out of the park is tired or have a problem standing.

I have two total knee replacements and arthritis in my hip so standing is very difficult for me, but I do it if I want to get on a bus that has no seats left. Otherwise I wait for the next bus.