Relationship Advice Needed - WWYD? - UPDATE - Pg. 4

[poohandwendy]

I hate to say it, but I am thinking some other interest didn't pan out. (the female kind) Just a gut feeling.

 

[AprilShowers]

Sorry , I just can't believe that someone can be that busy that they can't take 2 mintues of their time to call you. Just seems like you were not a priority.

I totally agree with this poster. NOBODY is that busy. With communications the way they are these days, heck! I passed 7 people on their cell phones on my way home from work today! He could have called you on his drive home.
I think you are doing the right thing by letting HIM call you back. I also would not let him get away with the "I was too busy to call" routine. It's been played. If he likes you, you'll know it. There won't be any guessing.
Don't settle........for everyone, there's a Prince Charming out there.

 

[Disney Doll]

OK...time to change your reaction to him. Don't call him back...if he's that interested and less "crazy busy", he'll call you back. And I'd be a bit less warm and fuzzy...I might say something to the effect of "Wow...I'm amazed you called. I thought I had gotten the big blow off" and let him squirm a bit. I'd also have "plans" once in a while if he called, and I'd be out there not considering myself tied to this guy, but more like I was casually dating him and could also casually date others.

 

[LadyyRedd]

I hate to say it, but I am thinking some other interest didn't pan out. (the female kind) Just a gut feeling.

Hate to say it, but this was my first thought too. I agree with the other poster who said that someone should have 2 minutes to call and tell you they are busy. No matter how busy I ever get in my life, I can ALWAYS make time for someone who is important to me, even if it's just a few phone calls to make it through the busy time.

Kimya

 

[Frantasmic]

Don't play the game others are suggesting. You need a serious heart to heart and face to face talk with the guy. You obviously have different and perhaps deeper feelings for him than you think he has for you. However, neither of you apparently know how to convey what your feelings really are toward each other in this case. In the period of a week, he has gone from pretty good to almost a cad because he didn't call you. Not exactly cool, but believe it or not, especially for younger people trying to get started in a business, they can get busy. And I think neither of you have progressed to handing out your work numbers to each other right? That's not as serious a relationship as people are implying, definitely, not IMO, for you to start playing games with him. You've all already assummed he was after someone else in the period of one week and he's gotten shot down by some other woman in that time. If you liked him before, and the only problem has been this one, I think the guy is worth another shot, if you have some converstations along the lines of what you expect from each other from this point on. And both of you need to be prepared for the other not being at the same level of interest with each other right now and figure out how to proceed, if to proceed from there.

But, you may both really like each other and if you react as many have suggested in this thread, you are ready to dump him when it may not be as bad as people here have suggested.

Give the guy a second chance, but explain what you thought about him and what you expected and then ask him what he expects from you as well.

 

[MagicalMom]

I'd wait a week, then I would run over there(dressed to kill) without calling first. I'd grab the DVD while excitedly explaining that you have search all over for it because you are getting together with some friends tonight to watch it because you friend says it's one of HIS favorites. You just knew you left it at someones house, but weren't sure who. Then run right back out the door apologizing for not being in touch with him but you have just been so busy.

 

[Missy Mouse]

I would use this chance, at minimum, to at least get your DVD back. To me, this situation isn't worth it. If you're looking for something serious you want to be with someone who is on the same page as you. It doesn't feel good to be on the bottom of someone's priority list. When you care about someone they're on the forefront of your mind most of the time. And if he needed time to think about his feelings for you because they scared him or some excuse such as that then it's still not worth it. To the right man you're worth any risk that may be involved. You don't want to be something someone has to think about, you want to be something they can't stop thinking about. My feeling is you deserve much better. I hope you find your happiness.