Question about step children and vacation plans

[dmked]

Not being invited on family vacations still hurts as an adult too! For the last 10 years (some of which I was not an adult) I have not been invited to my step-mom's family trips. They just go and pretty much don't mention anything to me or my bio-siblings and take my step-sisters. This year they invited me (pretty sure just because I have kids now) but not my brother or sister. Even though they don't want to go, it is still nice for the invite! Our family is just seperated so much by all the "certain people" family vacations it really gets irritating. And as a kid, it made me feel even worse to not be invited and then hear about the trip later. (and I lived full-time with my Dad so we all lived together, it wasn't even an every other weekend thing)

 

[MomtoAlexnWilliam]

I know this is an old thread, but I thought I would add my 2 cents since it is a situation we are facing in the future. We have did WDW in June 2002, DL April 2005, WDW November 2005, and WDW July 2007 with all of the kids (ages now dsd 14, dss 13, ds 5, ds almost 3). This next trip in March of 2009 will likely be with just the 2 little boys. Not because the older 2 are step (who btw live with us and have visitation with their mom) but because they have whined through the last 2 Disney trips about everything we have done and declared on the last trip that was the last time they wanted to go back. We just took our first weekend vacation without them last month and only because they were on a 2 week vacation with their mom. Dh and I have been together for 8 1/2 years, married for 7 1/2.

We will not hide it or lie to them about it. I think that they are at a point right now where this kind of vacation is not fun for them (or anyone else with them for that matter). We have planned a different kind of vacation (non-theme park related) this summer and will do the same again for next summer with everyone involved.

That is different. Your step-kids said they didn't want to go and said they had a miserable time on the last trip.

 

[parmtoo]

My daughter is a step-parent to an amazing alomost 3 yo boy. We would never take a vacation with out him. He is truly a member of this family. That being said, my SonIL and his ex have worked very hard to make things easier for their son. They don't always like it, or agree, but they decided early on that HE comes first. My daughter considers him as much her child as she does her biological son, 4mos, and wouldn't dream of leaving him out of family plans. Just my tow cents.

 

[tlbwriter]

Not being invited on family vacations still hurts as an adult too! For the last 10 years (some of which I was not an adult) I have not been invited to my step-mom's family trips. They just go and pretty much don't mention anything to me or my bio-siblings and take my step-sisters. This year they invited me (pretty sure just because I have kids now) but not my brother or sister. Even though they don't want to go, it is still nice for the invite! Our family is just seperated so much by all the "certain people" family vacations it really gets irritating. And as a kid, it made me feel even worse to not be invited and then hear about the trip later. (and I lived full-time with my Dad so we all lived together, it wasn't even an every other weekend thing)

You mean you were a child, you lived with your father, and he went on these trips without you??? Or was it your stepmother and her family, and your father stayed home?

 

[mickeyluvr004]

I'd say that with the given information the dad is a miserable excuse for a human being.

Yep unfortunately I also have one of those losers except my ex does this with his OWN son pretty sad. He treats his girlfriends son like his own and took him to disney and never asked his own son and we have been divorced all my son's life, he's 18 now and he sees what a loser his father is I don't think i will ever understand how any REAL MAN could do this to his own child. even step child he's still a child and will remember this forever sooo sad