Parents/Grandparents kissing kids on the lips?

[tzolkin]

i kiss my kids on the lips.

my mother's family is very affectionate-- lots of hugs and kisses (on the cheek) to everyone, even strangers who may come over for dinner. i'm sure my parents did kiss us on the lips when we were babies (i can't remember when i was that young). i do know that i had one sister who from a very young age would insist on being kissed on the lips and would get very offended if someone kissed her cheek instead. i have one DD that did the same thing. she would grab grandma/grandpa/aunt's face and turn their head so she could kiss their lips. we have discussed this (she's 4 now) and she no longer kisses anyone on the lips except DH, me, little brother, or baby cousin. we told her to stop because i did not want her to make other people uncomfortable and also i just really don't like my kid kissing other people on the lips. not really sure why other than "she's my kid". there is only one child in our extended family so far (niece 18 mos) and i have never kissed her on the lips. i guess just because she's not my baby.

as far as how long it's appropriate, i think that depends on the child. i have a nine year old that i havent kissed on the lips since she was maybe 3 or 4. i don't think that's the cut-off age, she's just not as affectionate as my other kids. my little ones initiate the kisses much more than i do, so i will probably take their cue about when they're too old

 

[The Moonk's Mom]

We are big kissers here. I came from a house of non kissers and so did DH. I was always jealous growing up of kids that got lots of affection from their parents, so I always knew I woould love on my kids tons! And we tell each other "Love you" all day and give kisses all day. They may not like it as they get older, so I love on them now! And yes, GP kiss them on the lips to. No problems!

 

[dogluva]

Seriously? You skeeve your own kids?

Nothing about my kids skeeves me out (is that actually a word?) and probably never will.

 

[PrincessTiffany]

Nothing about my kids skeeves me out (is that actually a word?) and probably never will.

The only thing on this thread that "skeeves" me out is people saying that innocent kissing on the lips has to have some kind of sexual undertone to it. Now, that "skeeves" me out. There is nothing so sweet as my 6 year old baby girl walking up to me and giving me a little kiss and telling me she loves me!

 

[dogluva]

Yes, seriously. In my opinion, there's no need for an adult to kiss a child on the lips. Skeeves me out to see other people do it with their own kids. I personally don't see any reason for it. But to each his own.

wow.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Nothing about my kids skeeves me out (is that actually a word?) and probably never will.

I completely agree! Oh and if you are Italian (we are) - skeeve is used as commonly as hello!

The only thing on this thread that "skeeves" me out is people saying that innocent kissing on the lips has to have some kind of sexual undertone to it. Now, that "skeeves" me out. There is nothing so sweet as my 6 year old baby girl walking up to me and giving me a little kiss and telling me she loves me!

Glad I am not the only person who thought that too.

 

[roliepolieoliefan]

wow.

Yes, seriously. In my opinion, there's no need for an adult to kiss a child on the lips. Skeeves me out to see other people do it with their own kids. I personally don't see any reason for it. But to each his own.

Yea I also have to agree with a pp, when he/she responded, Wow, to this quote!

 

[roliepolieoliefan]

The only thing on this thread that "skeeves" me out is people saying that innocent kissing on the lips has to have some kind of sexual undertone to it. Now, that "skeeves" me out. There is nothing so sweet as my 6 year old baby girl walking up to me and giving me a little kiss and telling me she loves me!

Totally agree!

My 9 yo DS walked up to me at the public pool today gave me a kiss and told me he loved me. For no reason....Best feeling in the world!

 

[PrincessTiffany]

Totally agree!

My 9 yo DS walked up to me at the public pool today gave me a kiss and told me he loved me. For no reason....Best feeling in the world!

Just doesn't get any better than that.

 

[MATTERHORN]

I completely agree! Oh and if you are Italian (we are) - skeeve is used as commonly as hello!



Glad I am not the only person who thought that too.

Nope, here's another who thought the same thing!!! We are a big lip kissing family and that's just the way it's always been and the way I hope it always will be. No reason to be weirded out!!!

Andrea

 

[5 for WDW]

My husband and I both kiss our kids on the lips. Our almost 11 year old gives us his cheek in public, which is fine of course. But at home he has no problem giving us a kiss. My 8 and 4 year olds have no problem at all either. My daughter walks up and kisses me throughout the day, on the lips. Followed by "I love you to the moon and the stars and back, Mama". I have said that to the kids since they were born. She is the only one that says it to me each and every time she tells me she loves me. Breaks my heart every time!
We are all huggers, smoochers and squeezers. We love our kids to pieces and have no problem at all showing them affection.

Both sets of grandparents kiss the kids on their cheeks.

I find it sad that someone would actually be uncomfortable seeing me kiss one of my kids on the lips. THAT is weird, and sad, to me.

 

[Shagley]

I am uncomfortable with lip kissing kids (for me personally), but for a totally different reason. I am a foster parent, so in my world, lip kissing the kids would be very inappropriate. It doesn't bother me when I see other families that do it, but none of my kids are allowed to lip kiss anyone.

For any other family I think it is just whatever your family prefers. I don't see it at all as a sexual thing at all.

 

[ALittleDisneyFan]

My daughter kisses us on the lips. She has recently started making her kissyface towards my mom, brother, and her cousin Lexi. It has gotten awkward. We've told people (my mother just doesn't listen) not to kiss her. She has attachment issues - and kissing is a trigger for her to regress.

 

[RumpleMom]

I come from a family of cheek kissers. Dh's family are lip kissers.

I stopped the inlaws from lip kissing the grandkids when grandpa was going to the periodontist for gum disease treatments. They didn't figure this out on their own. They had to be told that you could be passing on gum disease to the kids. IMO

Fortunately, they took this very well and changed.