Parents/Grandparents kissing kids on the lips?

[3goofyboys]

My sons kiss me on the lips, but if I initiate the kiss, I kiss them on the cheek. I figure, this way when they aren't comfortable kissing me on the lips anymore, they'll stop.

Kind of OT, but when I got married, my dad was getting ready to walk me down the aisle and went to kiss my cheek and I turned my head and we ended up kissing on the lips, a little open mouthed . It was startling and still kind of skeeves me out to think about it. Needless to say, we were not normally a lip kissing family !

 

[Tissa]

We kiss on the cheek, I'm not into the whole lip thing unless I'm dating someone.

 

[rt2dz]

Many Latin and European cultures kiss on the cheeks as a way of greeting and saying goodbye, to friends & family and even to strangers—quite similar to the way Americans shake hands. I have lots of friends who are Hispanic (various countries) and never has kissing on the lips been a “BIG no-no”. I really think that it is more those individual families that it is a “BIG no-no” to and not the culture in general.

In our family, we really don’t seek out kissing on the lips with our kids (currently 7, 4, & 2). DS2 tends to prefer to kiss on the lips at times, grabbing our faces to kiss on the lips v. the cheek. We used to kiss DS7 on the lips until he was about 3, but then switched more to the cheek and forehead as he was no longer “a baby”. It wasn’t a conscience decision, just sort of happened. DS4 was never kissed on the lips, as he wasn’t a healthy baby and we didn’t want to take the chance of him getting sicker—so always cheeks and foreheads. We do hug and kiss our kids a lot.

 

[bookgirl]

My father will still give me a quick kiss almost an air kiss on the mouth sometimes. I ususally kiss on the cheek. My mom kisses me on the cheek but I think they both kissed my "lips" until I was a teenager. They did not kiss my brother as much (boy thing).

The twins (my nine year old nephews) would kiss all of us on the cheek or mouth as little little boys but they hit four and a half and that was it on the kissing thing. I still wrestle them to the ground occasionally and force the dreaded cheek kiss on them, which cracks them up, screaming and laughing the whole time, then they have to immeditatly get up wipe it off and say "oooo gross". They do not ever offer up kisses. They will lean against me, or wrap thier arm aroung me, or raspberry me, and I'm allowed to kiss them on top of the head or maybe the forehead.

I've seen them kiss thier mom and that is when she said "give me a kiss", but she is not very affectionete and is in fact very much NOT a tactile person. They do hug and touch thier dad and he kisses thier heads and they are comfortable with that. She does not often hug or kiss them either. We understand the boys wanting not to kiss and we don't really force it but we continue to hug them or if they come snuggling up to me on the couch I play with their hair or pat thier hand or back. I figure that as long as they are still comfortable with the hugs and wrestling and letting us kiss them that they will eventually figure out thier own level of "kiss comfort".


I don't have a problem with quick lip kisses among relatives, seems like I see it a lot at least with girls. We're the midwest....boys grow up to be way tough he-men....no PDA allowed. LOL

 

[Feralpeg]

DD and I kiss each other on the lips. I see nothing wrong with this. When I try to kiss DD on the check, she always insists a kiss on the lips as well.

 

[roliepolieoliefan]

Seriously? You skeeve your own kids?

Yea I thought this too and I too am......




DH's family(mom dad) show almost no emotion. My family are big huggers and kissers. it took dh a long time to get used to it. my family just grabs him and hugs or kisses him . After 20 + years, he used to it.

As far as our kids, I kiss both kids on the lips (DS 9,,, DD 4) . DH kisses DD on the lips and used to kiss DS but now just hugs him since he's gotten older.

The kids great grandmas (on DH's side) kiss the kids, and DH and myself) . DH's parents no kisses just hugs (when we see them ) and my mom hugs and kisses everyone.

 

[hoosiergirl7]

I'm so going to be the oddball on this. But for me it's a cultural thing and as the child of immigrants it's just the way it is.

Do you do it? Yes, we kiss DS 4 on the lips all the time - when we tell him we love him, especially after he's gotten in trouble, at bedtime, and even when he's running around the house he'll come up to us and say, "I love you," and plant a kiss on us. I still kiss my parents and siblings on the lips. I kiss aunts, uncles, cousins, nieces and some friends on the lips. All of my immediate and extended family is Eastern European and it's just the way it is. Most of my closest friends are also of the same culture and that's just what we do when we see one other. For us it's normal!
At what age (if any) do you stop? If and when the kids decide they don't want to kiss on the lips anymore.
How do you handle it if you were raised no and spouse was raised yes? I was raised as a yes and DH is a no family. We've gotten them to warm up to kissing on the cheeks and occasionally they'll kiss their grandkids on the lips. DH loves kissing so he has no problem with it and actually thought it was cool to marry into a family that thinks that it's OK to exhibit love for one another with a peck the way we do. He actually wishes his family showed love for one another a little bit more.

I guess I'm just not used to the whole idea of a kiss being something sexual. I know there are bad people in this world but kissing is not a bad thing.

 

[nessz79]

Nevermind this post...I managed to turn it into complete blabber! LOL

Every time I thought of something from a different point of view, I edited, until I came around full circle.

 

[ajk912]

Yes, definitely skeeved out to kiss my kids or relatives on the lips. Mostly from a germ aspect, though. Oooh..cooties! Usually not a big fan of kissing DH on the lips either..unless it's foreplay to !

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Yes, definitely skeeved out to kiss my kids or relatives on the lips. Mostly from a germ aspect, though. Oooh..cooties! Usually not a big fan of kissing DH on the lips either..unless it's foreplay to !

Well to each their own
We are kissers, mushers, huggers, and squeezers! I love my kids to pieces and so does the whole family!

 

[lucigo]

Yes, definitely skeeved out to kiss my kids or relatives on the lips. Mostly from a germ aspect, though. Oooh..cooties! Usually not a big fan of kissing DH on the lips either..unless it's foreplay to !

I'll never be able to look at this banana guy the same way again LOL

 

[PrincessTiffany]

Well to each their own
We are kissers, mushers, huggers, and squeezers! I love my kids to pieces and so does the whole family!

I'm 36 and my Grandma still kisses me on the lips when she sees me. It doesn't bother me a bit. I have always kissed my kids on the lips, but my son now just likes me to kiss him on the head and that's fine with me too.

 

[lucigo]

Ok so this isn't exactly the same but I read the title of the post and I had to laugh. We kiss boo boos here. DS5 came home from camp today with a boo boo on the tip of his tongue...someone had to do it

 

[matthew&haleysmom]

I grew up in a household that didn't kiss or hug. NOT in my house! I kiss my DD 8 and DS 4 all of the time - on the lips, cheeks, and forehead. My DD did tell me I am not allowed to kiss her in front of her softball team about a month ago. Then, the next day she was upset because I didn't give her a kiss before a game.

I let them lead the way.

 

[ajk912]

Ok so this isn't exactly the same but I read the title of the post and I had to laugh. We kiss boo boos here. DS5 came home from camp today with a boo boo on the tip of his tongue...someone had to do it

We kiss ****oos, here, too! I remember once when ds had a ****oo on his butt..told him I would blow him a kiss for that one! We are more of a huggy family than a kissy family. I especially love to squeeze my kids, not a huge kisser.

 

[dreamin_disney]

we dont kiss on the lips. I remember when my sis would kiss my l;il newphew on the lips(her own son) my mom would say not to do that because germs.
We kiss on the cheek .I guess it depends what your acustom to. Me its to much in my personal space

 

[chicagodisneyfan]

We are one big kissing family. It took my husband a while to get used to it.
All on the lips - grandparents, babies, uncles, cousins.

Never really thought anything of it until a girl in college said she was "saving her lips" for her husband. So no lip kissing with anyone including relatives.

 

[vcgirl925]

My husband is hispanic as well, and I have never heard of this being a "no-no" in their culture. Actually quite the opposite. Maybe that was just your husband's family. I wouldnt group that as a cutural thing.

I think your husbands family is a rarity. My husband is hispanic as well and kissing on the lips is a no no amongst anyone but your spouse gf/bf. All of his family is like that and all the other families they assiciate with are the same way. It wasn't just her that said that about her husbands family, there were a bunch of us that said it too.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Just a thought for those who are worried about germs....you are aware of the way that babies enter the world right?

 

[Shagley]

Just a thought for those who are worried about germs....you are aware of the way that babies enter the world right?

Not through my lips they don't