I can relate to what you’re saying. I became a vegetarian back in the 90s when it was still considered radical and people always wanted to challenge me about it for some odd reason. Almost nobody accommodated that type of diet. Not restaurants and certainly not schools. My high school had about three garden salads available per day, minus the weeks they just didn’t have them available at all, and if I wasn’t able to snag one before they sold out, I just went hungry. Restaurant servers sneered and shrugged when I asked if their side dishes could be made vegetarian. People were openly hostile to the idea of veganism.
Have you ever heard the saying, “The only people who truly have to hunt for their food anymore are vegans?” Boy, was that true for a long time. But wow, how things are changing! When I started dating my husband, I was the only person at the family gatherings with a dietary restriction. They were kind enough to make sure they had
*a* vegetarian option for me. Now, in this small family of about twenty, there are three vegans, two vegetarians, one egg allergy, and one medically necessary gluten-free diet. Everyone is accounting for dietary restrictions when they cook and vegan dishes outnumber regular dishes 2:1.
Over time, the small specialty sections of our grocery stores have expanded to a specialty aisle, expanded again into multiple specialty aisles, and now the specialty food options have outgrown even that space and are now being shelved alongside the regular items. Which, admittedly, has made my grocery shopping harder. Instead of having all my vegan items shelved together, I now have to go to the meat display, and the dairy section, and the condiment aisle... like a normal person.
When we go to restaurants, servers don’t even bat an eye when we say we’re vegan and they more often than not know what we can and can’t eat off the top of their head. At the very least, they’re happy to check with the kitchen what they don’t know. Last month I walked into a local restaurant I’d been wanting to try and, to my complete surprise, found out I’d shown up on “Vegan Night.” Choose app, entree, and dessert from an entirely vegan menu for a set price.
Okay!
When I went to Disney as a vegetarian six years ago, I had to mark all my reservations as “allergy,” then call two weeks in advance to notify them of my vegetarian diet, and again notify them upon arrival so the chef could come speak to us. Fast forward to now and their official policy is that every restaurant on Disney property can accommodate vegetarian and vegan diets without any advance notice. (Admittedly, some do a much better job than others, so there’s still quite a bit of research required.) There are now vegan options on many of the menus, they sell vegan hotdogs on Main Street, and while in EPCOT we stumbled into a vegan seminar — a tasting of the vegan cookie dough they’re launching in the parks. Universal just rolled out a slew of vegan options throughout their parks.
I feel like the last two years especially have been a watershed moment for veganism. The variety and quality of vegan products are booming, it’s becoming more mainstream than ever, and people are much more open to it than they used to be. I know not every region is going to move at the same pace, and perhaps you live in a smaller/more rural area than I do, but just know the tides are changing.
As for those who are passive aggressive and/or purposely deceitful about your food choices, don’t waste another minute of your time on toxic people. The only people in my life who were intentional jerks about my vegetarian/veganism were my parents, and they were jerks about everything.
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To the posters who mentioned being intimidated to try cooking a vegan meal for someone, just google vegan recipes. Resources and vegan blogs abound that will take the guesswork out of it for you.