inspired by my ex husband -- are cheerleaders "snobs"?

[Briar Rose 7457]

my 7th grader goes to school with about 900 other kids. a grand total of 24 girls are chosen to be cheerleaders. my dd was one of the 24 this year and she's thrilled to death. you can tell from my clipart that I share her enthusiasm.

just the other night, though, at "Meet the Teacher", a friend of mine told me "MY ds really likes your dd, thinks she's such a nice girl, so real, not phoney."

my ex told me tonight that "cheerleaders are snobs" and that I'm encouraging the dd's to be snobby. I suspect my ex would say anything to make me look inadequate as a mother, and he's just picked up on this issue because it's convenient.

but it does raise the issue -- do you think cheerleaders are "snobby"?

 

[Serena]

I wasn't.

 

[browneyes]

They can be. I was never a cheerleader, but that's because I had thunder thighs.

 

[JasonLyons]

if he ever says anything nice be sure in post it

 

[Beauty]

No I don't think all cheerleaders are snobs.....I was a cheerleader for one year. I think deep down all parents want their children to be popular (there is a difference between being popular and being a snob!). Just as long as we raise our children with good morals then they can choose their own path from there.....

 

[#1 Disney Fan]

I try not to stay away from classifying anything into generic groups as much as possible, as there are exceptions to most classifications. I'm guessing that there are probably cheerleaders who are snobby, but I'd also think that there are probably lots of cheerleaders who are not snobby. I would certainly think that just being a cheerleader does not instantly make you snobby, but our school didn't even have cheerleaders so this is all JMHO. From your posts sounds as though you're bringing your daughters up well with good morals and I would think that things like that could have a lot more to do with how they act.

Congratulations to your DD on making the cheerleading team. I hope that she has a ton of (non-snobby ) fun.

 

[Cindy B]

It all depends on how the kids are and the type of school it is.

My high school, yes they were. Although, some said I had courage for being out of the mainstream and not caring what others thought about them (of course this is over 10 years later)


The urban school I was supposed to go to before we moved, they were more REAL. I think it was due to the surroundings, and that everyone was in the same socioeconomic bracket, and the uniforms were more down to earth, and the cheers well it was thier style versus cute suburban stuff.

I never was one, had no desire, and it was never me.

 

[Serena]

BR, I forgot to congratulate your daughter on being a cheerleader. I hope it's as much fun for her as it was for me.


Shannon, at my school you would have been a cheerleader. They didn't so much care about the cookie cutter look that most schools want. All we needed was people who could do the cheers. We had a blast!
(The boys coach was gorgeous too.)

 

[jipsy]

BR if you read your own post:

my 7th grader goes to school with about 900 other kids. a grand total of 24 girls are chosen to be cheerleaders. my dd was one of the 24 this year and she's thrilled to death.

Just the way you worded that sounds elitist and snobby. Yes it is wonderful that your dd was chosen, but perhaps it's in the wording that sets off your ex.

 

[Mermaid02]

Some are snobby- some aren't and it sounds like your ex is just trying to pick a fight.

Make sure they (the squad) has proper supervision and instruction.... recently a little girl I know was not caught during a cheer and broke both arms, her nose, her 2 front teeth were knocked out and she has already had 1 surgery. She's 13- it's gonna be a long year for her.

 

[olena]

At my schools, they usually were. There were always exceptions though.

 

[Mamu]

I think it depends on the school, but in most cases I think they are.

 

[dianeschlicht]

Yep, they always were here!

 

[becka]

I went to 4 high schools and at each school there was maybe 1-2 that were not snobby but the rest of them sure did seem to be.

 

[pollyanna]

I guess Highlighting her hair did the trick.

The Girls at my son's High School were his friends,and were in a sort of "clique". The also ranked in the top 3 schools in the Championships held each year at Orlando. It takes lots of gymnastic skills, hours of daily rehearsal, and lots of hard work.

 

[Lars624]

I think that making the cheer squad is quite an accomplishment for a girl & that you have every right to be proud of her. My DD13 also made her school's squad and she worked very hard for it.
I don't think that being a cheerleader makes a girl a snob any more than being quarterback makes a boy a snob or wearing the "right" clothes makes a kid a snob. Some kids will be snotty & snobby whether they are cheerleaders or not & some kids just aren't that way no matter what they accomplish.
Don't let your ex's words dampen your spirits or hers, he should know his own child well enough to know that she isn't that type of kid.

 

[Nikki_Nikki]

I wasn't a cheerleader but all of my friends were. I don't think they're snobby at all! I think people confuse being popular with being snobby. In school, there are many "cliques" Most of the time, jocks, cheerleaders & homecomming queens are in one clique. I remember in school being considered "stuck up" because I was in that clique. I think it's just one of those things where if people don't fit into the clique then you're considered snobby.

 

[JAP]

Not all girls on the squads are snobby. It depends on how much importance any given school puts on the cheerleading gig. In High School the girls were not so much snobby as I think shy. Some also had really great personalities.

Now College was a different story. I went to a small school and those girls definitly had the snob thing going.

Congrats to your DD Briar Rose. I think it is great that any child that trys out for any activity and makes it takes a lot of courage.

 

[Blondie]

Well, waaaaay back when I was in school, yes they were snobs.

I think it depends on the personalities of the girls in the squad. If you have a bunch of stuck-up snobby girls to begin with, then the outcome is going to be as such. Some girls love having the "I'm a Cheerleader" label, and use it to their advantage within their circle of friends. Some girls are mean spirited and use it to have power over the other not so fortunate girls. At least that's my memory of the way cheerleaders in my school were.

Congrats to your DD!

 

[Pam]

Congratulations to your DD for making the squad.

Anyone can be a snob and so, yes, there are some snobby cheerleaders. BUT there are also some very nice, sweet ones. Cheerleaders do have a tendency to be labeled - but so do the kids who play sports (Jocks), studious and intelligent kids (Nerds), etc., etc.

As the Mom of a cheerleader and now a member of the HS dance line, I can honestly say that yes, at times, my DD can be a little snotty snob. But she also has friends in every "category" of "cliques" at school and the teachers have often remarked to me that she can be friends with just about anyone.

Pam