inspired by my ex husband -- are cheerleaders "snobs"?

[snoopy]

I was a cheerleader, and I know I'm not now nor never was snobby. Some of the girls I cheered with were, some weren't. I think the ones that were really snobby cheered so they could get the attention, as opposed to us on the squad who just liked to cheer.

Congratulations to your DD, BR. Too bad her daddy is so negative all the time. I hope he didn't share his thoughts on cheerleading with his daughter.

 

[helenabear]

Congrats to your DD, BR! As for chearleaders being snobs? In my school I'd say half of them were and the other half weren't. I'd say the rest of my school was that way as well. So I guess you could say that the cheerleaders were no more of snobs than any other person could have been. I think it just has to do with an overall attitude that people can have. You don't need to be a cheerleader to be "full of yourself" and just because you were a cheerleader in my school didn't mean it either. I sure hope that made sense

 

[tc]

I was a cheerleader in Jr. High and freshman and sophomore in hs. I was not a snob, but was considered one. I was painfully shy and had emotional problems, but I am a performer. I know it's hard to understand, but cheering to me was acting. When I was on the floor, I was no longer "Shy Kelli", I was "Cheerleader Kelli" and could take on that persona. Off the floor, I talked little so was considered a snob. I thnk if you raise your kids to be sure of themselves, yet value other people, they can be popular w/o being snobs. It's unfair to classify a person just because of the group of people they hang with. That's a wrong as thinking a person of minority is a crook (just an example). People should be judged on their actions, reactions, thoughts, and morals, not on what job they do, class they take or friends they have.

Congrats to your dd, 24 out of 900 is great. She must have a lot of skill, and that's something to be proud of. I was 4 out of less than 100. Very, very small school.

 

[caitycaity]

at my school -- yes they were really snobby.

and my sister was one.

 

[cardaway]

Yes, as a rule they are snobby or seen as snobby. It doesn't become a cliche without some amount of truth.

IMO your ex was right about this one. Who knows what else he has been right about?

 

[marlasmom]

Jipsy - I don't think Robin meant to be elitist or snobby at all. She is excited and proud of her daughter's accomplishment. She has bragged about her kids many times. We all do.

 

[shep]

I think they get that image also..
But at my school they were always nice...

 

[Pin Wizard]

Speaking as a former cheerleader, there are some snobs out there, but there are nice ones also. I found the nice ones to out number the snobs.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by tc
I was not a snob, but was considered one. I was painfully shy

That was me also. One of my friends who I've known since we were 4 years old just told me in the past year or two that her friends (ie, soccer, field hockey, tennis, softball, etc.) thought I was stuck up. She explained to them that no, I wasn't stuck up, just shy. I was surprised to hear that because I was anything BUT stuck up.

 

[Briar Rose 7457]

I guess "snobby" is in the eye of the beholder.


if my ex ever says anything positive, Jason, I'll be glad to post it -- after I recover from my faint, that is.


Pollyanna, do you really think they pick cheerleaders on what their hair looks like? in order to be considered for the squad, dd had to be able to show that she could actually do the cheers, and that she could do a split or a cartwheel and other gymnastic feats.

interesting, cardaway, that you would label ALL cheerleaders "snobby". aren't they individuals?

 

[CBRorBust]

All of my friends were cheerleaders. Did I want to be a cheerleader? No. Why? Because I felt like I was above the whole clique thing in High School. I hung out with who I hung out with because they were good friends and fun to be around.

Did my other friends think my cheerleader friends were snobby?

OH yeah. They also thought a few other things about them too. It just comes with the "glow" that is around them. "oh she's a cheerleader she must be stuck up and stupid" When in reality these girls were really nice, and very smart.

I guess it just depends on how your daughters squad will carry themselves. In my high school it was more of a popularity thing rather than having actual talent.

 

[cardaway]

interesting, cardaway, that you would label ALL cheerleaders "snobby". aren't they individuals?

Actually I said this...

Yes, as a rule they are snobby or seen as snobby. It doesn't become a cliche without some amount of truth.

What I said is that yes, I have found many to be outright snobby. The other half of the statement refers to a perception, one where I think a majority of people do feel they are snobby. No where did I say ALL.

I do hope you didn't miss this because I agree with it

Posted by Jipsy

Just the way you worded that sounds elitist and snobby. Yes it is wonderful that your dd was chosen, but perhaps it's in the wording that sets off your ex.

hmmm...

 

[caitycaity]

i don't know about your dd's school, but at my school, physical appearance (hair, make up, etc.) was also a factor in the tryouts, sb.

 

[Briar Rose 7457]

she IS a very pretty girl, caity.

but I have to think that 7 years of dance class and 4 years of gymnastics and two weeks of hard work at cheerleading practice were more important to her being chosen than a few streaks of blonde in her hair.

 

[JAP]

On our high school squad there were some very pretty girls, about half. But I would say the other half were average. What set the average girls apart was the fact that they were talented and had good personalities. The pretty girls were the same way. You had to have some talent to be on the team.

There were teachers in our high school that choose the squads. It was not like in the movies where the squad chooses who they want. It takes a lot of skill to be on these squads and I am not sure if a teacher would really sit back and say, oh she is talented but just not pretty enough.

 

[beachbunny]

Congrats BR, that's quite an accomplishment. I cheered in both HS and college and know the hard work it took for your DD to come this far. I think your ex is just trying to hurt you.

As for the snob/not snob debate, I'd have to say that people will think what they want. That goes both in school and later in life. It's who they are, not who your DD is.

 

[Briar Rose 7457]

fankly I don't think I'd call any of the former cheerleaders who posted to this thread"snobs".

guess perception is everything, eh, cardaway?

 

[Dodie]

I'm going to go out on a limb here and guess that...

If you WEREN'T a cheerleader, you probably thought/think that cheerleaders were/are snobs.

If you WERE a cheerleader, you probably thought/think that cheerleaders weren't/aren't snobs.

 

[cardaway]

guess perception is everything, eh, cardaway?

Not everything, but certainly part of the equation.

fankly I don't think I'd call any of the former cheerleaders who posted to this thread"snobs".

And neither would I, in fact I don't think I said they were.


...but I have to ask, are you missing the posts where people said they have found some cheerleaders to be snobs or are you ignoring them for the purpose of respoding to me?

I don't think I'm the first person to wonder why you post these kind of threads when you just pick apart each post that doesn't agree with you rather than accepting the feedback. Maybe you should just post that you only want support and everybody else should ignore the thread.

 

[Saffron]

I have no idea if cheerleaders are snobs are not. In junior high I was more interested in boys than school or sports. I hated high school and never paid any attention to anything that went on there, expect the radio station and alternative school. LOL!!

I imagine there are as many different personalities as there are individuals that make up the team.