Yea, I'm not quite sure why it's hard to understand why 35% now feels like a normal crowded day pre-Covid.
Maybe expectations is why it's so hard to understand ?
35% sounds like so "few" people that folks imagine something akin to an after hours event - rather than 35% of CAPACITY (imagine "Christmas or New Years" crowds).
Then, without taking into account that when the parks are at capacity there are lots places for people to go: shows, dining, character meets, etc.
AND without taking into account that with socially distanced lines - they spill into the walkway PLUS the FP que is not absorbing people. So, in "normal" times the line density is basically "doubled up" with people waiting in both the FP and Standby ques.
THEN you combine the expectations of an empty park and low wait times (like it was in the Summer when it first opened) WITH all the worries around exposure to people you don't live with that the crowd
feels even MORE crowded that we would have felt it back before COVID.
I'm not trying to be argumentative at all nor diminish anyone's experiences. It's just a lot of how we experience life in general is a combination of our expectations and own personal comfort zone.
I've been twice post COVID and am happily going again this next week. I still believe that Disney is being true to their word of 35%.
Does that mean that I don't think areas feel crowded to ME? Not at all - the areas near Small World, Aloha Isle, Galaxy's Edge, Pandora, Epcot World Showcase on a weekend evening, and around the entrance of every single QS place at popular meal times does feel crowded. And I try to avoid those areas as much as possible.
I just go into the trip with the expectation that at times when /if I will feel uncomfortable I have an escape plan. I make ADRs, am happy to leave the parks mid-day for a break even if it's to hop over to a nearby resort, or go back to my own resort for the day - which is something I did on my last trip returning to my resort at 4 PM in the afternoon (I am staying off site).
I live a very quiet life - just DH and I in our home, none of our family lives in our state, I've worked from home for 10 years, and DH hasn't been into the office more than 3 times since March 2020. So, being around people is not my norm at all.
It's going to have to be all risk assessment for each family.
I know a lot of people are "decision fatigued out" these days because we've been in survival mode for almost a year now. A lot of people that never experienced anxiety or stress with crowds before now have been conditioned that crowds are dangerous. So, a previous comfort in crowds may not exist for every family member.
We hope that a Disney trip helps us feel "normal" and I certainly had moments every single day of each trip that made me feel hopeful or normal when I was at Disney in October and January.
But I wouldn't tell you that I was 100% comfortable every moment. Then again, life is never 100% comfortable every day in daily life no matter who we are or what we do.
Forgive me on my soap box. I've spent the last decade working as a life coach and many of my clients are dealing with anxiety and PTSD they haven't experienced before.... for some, a getaway to somewhere familiar, even with the COVID changes, is a life line. But not, of course, everyone.