Do you lick your fingers?

[Pixiedustaway]

Based on the responses on this thread, I think that the people claiming to have the best manners are by far the rudest ones posting here. Some (not all) of them are coming across as just not very nice.

I guess we all have our priorities. As I said earlier, I'll take kindness over good manners anytime!

A-freakin-men!!!

I cannot believe the attitude of some posters. Unless your last name is Post, you are not to tell anyone what is considered good or bad manners.

 

[Luv2Run]

The people who are arguing for being able to blow their noses at the table are coming off deliberately obtuse and arguing only for the sake of arguing.

Come on, this behavior is vile. Even the wait staff at 50s Prime Time nag people for poor manners, so this is not new to you. Don't play dumb, you know for a fact that it's rude. So, if you're blowing your nose at the table next to me and it's making me retch up my dinner because it is disgusting, should I move tables away from you? No. Take some personal responsibility for your hygiene and go blow your nose in the restroom like an adult. I can't believe this even needs to be said.

 

[NAB]

The people who are arguing for being able to blow their noses at the table are coming off deliberately obtuse and arguing only for the sake of arguing.

Come on, this behavior is vile. Even the wait staff at 50s Prime Time nag people for poor manners, so this is not new to you. Don't play dumb, you know for a fact that it's rude. So, if you're blowing your nose at the table next to me and it's making me retch up my dinner because it is disgusting, should I move tables away from you? No. Take some personal responsibility for your hygiene and go blow your nose in the restroom like an adult. I can't believe this even needs to be said.

You are so wrong about that ....everything I said is true. I am not arguing for the sake of arguing I truly did not know. I will have to look up what obtuse means. And I am being honest about that too. I guess that makes me low class

 

[Luv2Run]

You are so wrong about that ....everything I said is true. I am not arguing for the sake of arguing I truly did not know. I will have to look up what obtuse means. And I am being honest about that too. I guess that makes me low class

I never said that. Do not put words in my mouth.

 

[goofy77]

What if your eating KFC isn't it FINGER LICKING GOOD

 

[NAB]

I never said that. Do not put words in my mouth.

Well that is how you made me feel...you didn't have to say it.

 

[Chocolate Cake]

Oh my goodness, are you freaking serious?

Do you honestly think anyone here is going to actually stop doing something that YOU find offensive simply because YOU tell them to?

That is so laughable! Maybe you should just get over yourself.

I am sure it is easier for me to sit anonymously on The DIS and try to explain basic manners. Yes. I do sound harsh and rude while trying to explain basic social norms that some of you are not aware of. But, I promise you, it is better than your HR department sitting you down and treating you like a child. How embarrassing would that be?

Our HR department has had to explain things to adults that should have been taught to them as children. Wear deodorant. Cover your mouth when you cough or sneeze. Don’t talk with food in your mouth. Don’t invade personal space. These are professionals, for crying out loud! But, their parents must have taken the “If it doesn’t bother me, it shouldn’t bother others” approach when teaching them manners.

We have had sales engineers with advanced degrees kicked off of teams because the others thought they jeopardized their chances with clients. Dinner meetings are very important in making connections. If you have a team member sitting at a table licking their fingers, belching, blowing their nose, etc. that is a deal breaker.

But, to be honest with you, there is a very tiny smug part of me that hopes you DISers that don’t care about table manners continue to raise your children like wolves. My son has a scholarship weekend next month. There are many intelligent students he is competing with. I hope that the competition is thinned out by students licking their fingers, elbows on the table, burping, and blowing their nose while dining with the president of the university

 

[deedeetoo]

The people who are arguing for being able to blow their noses at the table are coming off deliberately obtuse and arguing only for the sake of arguing.

Come on, this behavior is vile. Even the wait staff at 50s Prime Time nag people for poor manners, so this is not new to you. Don't play dumb, you know for a fact that it's rude. So, if you're blowing your nose at the table next to me and it's making me retch up my dinner because it is disgusting, should I move tables away from you? No. Take some personal responsibility for your hygiene and go blow your nose in the restroom like an adult. I can't believe this even needs to be said.

First, I don't agree that the behavior is vile. That is just your opinion.

Second, I do not know for a fact that this is rude. I am not playing dumb.

Third, someone blowing their nose at the table next to you should not make you retch up your dinner. That is ridiculous. Just mind your own business and you will be fine.

Finally, to say that people must leave the table and go to the to restroom to blow their nose or else they are not acting like an adult and taking care of their personal hygiene is just ludicrous. I'm not sure what else to say about that statement.

 

[Chocolate Cake]

You are so wrong about that ....everything I said is true. I am not arguing for the sake of arguing I truly did not know. I will have to look up what obtuse means. And I am being honest about that too. I guess that makes me low class

I find you to be very likeable and honest on this thread. If you truly didn’t know, then you truly didn’t know. I was raised by lower middle class black parents that insisted I act properly at home, in order to be taken seriously by others in society. But they didn’t teach me everything, because they didn’t know everything.

Case in point: Many years ago, when internet news groups were a new sort of thing (I was using a WebTV if that tells you how long ago it was) I came across a debate. This debate was about people who said “HUH?” instead of “Pardon me?” or “Could you please repeat that?”.

Now, this is not a major thing in the grand scheme of life. But I became very defensive. I always said “Huh?”. I, along with many others on that thread, fought the petty, prissy “Pardon Me?” people on that thread.

Who the heck would care if I said “Huh?” My parents never taught me any differently. "Huh?" was ok in our home.

The next day, I was on the phone with someone and they said “Huh?” and I automatically cringed Did I sound like that? It sure didn’t sound as nice as “Pardon me?” From that day on, when out and about, I used the phrase “Pardon me?”. I feel better about myself when I use it in a professional setting. I teach my children not to say “Huh?” when out and about.

Do I still use the word “huh”. Yes. I do. At home. Sometimes when I send a text to a friend. But, for the most part, I don’t use it anymore. All because of an internet discussion (that I initially resisted) that taught me something my parents didn’t teach, because they didn’t know any better.

So, I will say this kinder and gentler than I have in prior posts: You may not know it, but blowing your nose around people that are eating is extremely bad manners. Please don’t do it.

 

[Luv2Run]

First, I don't agree that the behavior is vile. That is just your opinion.

Second, I do not know for a fact that this is rude. I am not playing dumb.

Third, someone blowing their nose at the table next to you should not make you retch up your dinner. That is ridiculous. Just mind your own business and you will be fine.

Finally, to say that people must leave the table and go to the to restroom to blow their nose or else they are not acting like an adult and taking care of their personal hygiene is just ludicrous. I'm not sure what else to say about that statement.

Well then...

First, I do not agree that it is acceptable behavior. That is YOUR opinion.

Second, now you know that it is, in fact, rude. Look it up if you must, but regardless, it is rude.

Third, the sound is noise pollution, therefore it is that diner who is now making it my business. Perhaps they should "mind their own business" by taking their business to the restroom where they won't be disrupting other people's meals?

And lastly, yes, having proper table manners in public is a very adult thing to do.

 

[deedeetoo]

I just googled "Is it rude to blow your nose in public?" results reflected pretty much what is on this thread. Some completely puzzled by the question, (why would that be rude?), some certain that it is rude, and a lot somewhere in the middle ( Its OK, if you aren't too loud). As far as I could tell, i certainly isn't a fact that this is bad manners. Even etiquette forums were divided.

 

[Diznygrl]

How about looking up "Is it rude to blow your nose at the table?"

 

[Susiequsie60]

But, to be honest with you, there is a very tiny smug part of me that hopes you DISers that don’t care about table manners continue to raise your children like wolves. My son has a scholarship weekend next month. There are many intelligent students he is competing with. I hope that the competition is thinned out by students licking their fingers, elbows on the table, burping, and blowing their nose while dining with the president of the university

Thank you for that. Really. Thank you very much.

My son, raised by wolves, graduated in the top 5 of his h.s. class. President of National Honor Society. Recipient of numerous awards. Loved by teachers.

Off to a very competitive college - with a couple of very prestigious scholarships, for which he had multiple interviews. Graduated Magna Cum Laude (literally missed summa by .02 points.) Member of Phi Beta Kappa.

He's now in his first year of a super difficult PhD program, after having been accepted into 5 other equally prestigious programs. Again, lots of interviews, luncheons, dinners, overnight visits involved in the entire application process.

I've been told by professors, bosses, and friends that he is "the whole package."

Am I telling you all this just to brag? Nope. Just want you to know that according to your definition, he was definitely raised by wolves - me and his dad. I posted above about what I think really makes a "good" person. Doesn't have anything to do with teaching your kid NOT to blow his nose in public. And that's also not what makes a person successful. For goodness sakes. We taught him to be a kind and considerate person. (He's naturally intelligent, so I won't take credit for that!)

You sound so unbelievably pretentious and judgmental. You say things as though they are fact, when it's very obvious the you're just spewing your opinion. And not even doing it very nicely!

Hate to burst your bubble, but if your kid were up against my obviously poorly raised kid, and your kid has an attitude anything like yours, I'm pretty sure mine is going to win every time!

This thread is really sort of angering me now. You can probably tell.

 

[Jennasis]

Fine, I'll go to the rest room to blow my nose next time we're out to dinner...but I'm totally crop-dusting your table on the way.

 

[Gumbo4x4]

Fine, I'll go to the rest room to blow my nose next time we're out to dinner...but I'm totally crop-dusting your table on the way.

I promise not to lick my fingers. Everyone else's are fair game though

 

[Chocolate Cake]

This thread is really sort of angering me now. You can probably tell.

Awww Don't be angry. You are taking this so personally. Unless your children are displaying horrible table manners with your support, I am not referring to you.

I posted above about what I think really makes a "good" person. Doesn't have anything to do with teaching your kid NOT to blow his nose in public. And that's also not what makes a person successful.

I will add that nobody is talking about blowing your nose in public. People are talking about it being in poor taste to blow your nose at a dinner table while people are eating.

You can have your PhD and be very smart, but that won't help you if you display poor table manners to the point that your team no longer wants you dining with clients. You will be a person with a PhD in the human resources office being spoken to like a child.

Again, not referring to you. I am sure your son has impeccable manners because you taught him correctly.

 

[Chocolate Cake]

I promise not to lick my fingers. Everyone else's are fair game though

That reminds me:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kw0d7CezPmo

 

[goofy77]

LOL

That reminds me:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kw0d7CezPmo

 

[goofy77]

Susie just stop reading it then.

Awww Don't be angry. You are taking this so personally. Unless your children are displaying horrible table manners with your support, I am not referring to you.

 

[threeboysmom]

Fine, I'll go to the rest room to blow my nose next time we're out to dinner...but I'm totally crop-dusting your table on the way.

Haha, LOVE!!