Do you lick your fingers?

[purpledisneyprncess]

I don't generally lick my fingers. Kinda gross with all the germs on your hands. I think it's also gross when people separate papers or money by licking their finger than touching the paper. Yuck.

 

[Bluestars]

It seems like it's a matter of what people were taught by their parents while growing up. My family went out to eat once every few weeks and we were taught how to behave in a restaurant.

I realize some people don't think a thing of blowing their nose at a table while people are eating, but it is very rude. When people do rude things, I think they are often clueless that they are being rude.

I think we can all learn things. I had no idea about the proper way to eat a roll in a nice restaurant until I read the Dis. I didn't know that you put butter on the little plate and tear off small sections of the roll to dip in the butter. I always buttered the entire roll. I still do at casual places, but I am glad that I know better when eating out with business associates. I taught my son the right way to do it too so he will know better.

As for the lady who blows her nose that 8 to 10 times during a meal, I think she should stay home. I would never go out to eat if I was so sick that I did that. That's like going out to eat when you can't stop coughing.

 

[LBIJim]

What about reverse nose blowing? You know, instead of getting rid of the snot, the person inhales deeply thru the nose and sucks it all back in deeper. My father used to do this and it really POd my mother.

Or using your shirt sleeve as a Kleenex or napkin?

 

[PeterPanic]

Do not blow your nose while people are eating. You don't understand that? Excuse yourself and go to the bathroom. Blow your nose. Wash your hands. Return to table. This is basic manners.

I understand that for some reason you think it is not supposed to happen, but, frankly, that is your problem not mine. I don't find anything in the least upsetting if someone blows their nose.

What does bother me is someone that snorts it backwards every 2 seconds or has it running out of their nose. Something that everyone has to see until they "politely" dab it away from their upper lip only to have it continue because they thought that they shouldn't blow their nose at the table. It's just one more of the foolish little quirks that some people have. It stems from having a really nice life because in the grand scheme of thing it is a pretty minor thing. I would hate to think what would happen to you folks if something really disgusting were to happen. Life is full of very bad things, however, this is not one of them.

Someone mentioned earlier that they use hand sanitizer every time they return from a buffet. How about doing that before you go to the buffet or are you clear of any bacteria? I don't want yours either.

 

[mrsbicewdw]

This reminds me about the other night. We were out bowling and I was completely grossed out by the guy in the next lane who had buffalo wings. He would be eating wings, and then when it was his turn he would lick the sauce off, go bowl, come back and repeat . I made every attempt to avoid the ball he used. I'm all about the wet wipes.

I just have to point out that you have no idea who's hands were in your bowling alley ball before. The hundreds and hundreds of hands that have been in there. So yeah...hot wings hands guy is the least of your worries.

Honestly, I would be grossed out for HIM if he was licking his fingers and playing ball...he is the one ingesting germs, not you. Either way, his problem not yours unless you were going to also lick your fingers after touching a ball.

In general, people worried about germs shouldn't go to bowling alleys. Lol. Used shoes, used balls, seems like a recipe for worry!

 

[FairestOfThemAll37]

I I had no idea about the proper way to eat a roll in a nice restaurant until I read the Dis. I didn't know that you put butter on the little plate and tear off small sections of the roll to dip in the butter. I always buttered the entire roll. I still do at casual places, but I am glad that I know better when eating out with business associates.

Ok, I know the whole break your bread before you butter it. And that you don't butter your bread directly from the butter dish-you transfer it to your bread plate. But I've never heard that you're supposed to dip your bread in the butter?!? I always thought you were meant to use your butter knife for that.

This thread is very amusing

 

[tzolkin]

Just to go even more off topic...

Those who blow their nose in public and go about their business, don't you care if you have boogers or snot left hanging in your nostrils? Even if it wasn't disgusting or rude, I would just think people would prefer to go to the bathroom for the practical purpose of being able to look in a mirror. ???

Aside from the sound, this is also a big part of the reason I am so disgusted when people blow their nose at the table. I see stuff hanging and I just want to gag.

 

[Bluestars]

Ok, I know the whole break your bread before you butter it. And that you don't butter your bread directly from the butter dish-you transfer it to your bread plate. But I've never heard that you're supposed to dip your bread in the butter?!? I always thought you were meant to use your butter knife for that.

This thread is very amusing

Uh oh. Is that what you are supposed to do? I thought you were supposed to rub the bread against the butter. Do you have to use the knife for every piece and butter tiny pieces of bread? I seriously don't know. My parents taught me how to behave in a restaurant, but not the proper way to eat bread or which fork to use.

 

[Bluestars]

Just to go even more off topic...

Those who blow their nose in public and go about their business, don't you care if you have boogers or snot left hanging in your nostrils? Even if it wasn't disgusting or rude, I would just think people would prefer to go to the bathroom for the practical purpose of being able to look in a mirror. ???

Aside from the sound, this is also a big part of the reason I am so disgusted when people blow their nose at the table. I see stuff hanging and I just want to gag.

Plus, everything they touch will have their snotting germs on it. Yuck. Blow your nose in a restroom and wash your hands.

 

[Diznygrl]

Uh oh. Is that what you are supposed to do? I thought you were supposed to rub the bread against the butter. Do you have to use the knife for every piece and butter tiny pieces of bread? I seriously don't know. My parents taught me how to behave in a restaurant, but not the proper way to eat bread or which fork to use.

IIRC from the bread buttering thread, the correct thing to do is break off pieces of the bread and use the butter knife to butter each little piece as you eat it.

 

[Bluestars]

IIRC from the bread buttering thread, the correct thing to do is break off pieces of the bread and use the butter knife to butter each little piece as you eat it.

I knew I should have taken notes. Here I thought I was all prim and proper tearing off little pieces of bread and rubbing it against the butter in such a delicate way. haha. Hopefully, none of the people who I was dining with read the Dis thread and found out the proper way.

 

[Susiequsie60]

To the original question from the OP:

I think that being at a swim meet (or a soccer game, or a cheerleading competition, etc.) is very very different than dining at a restaurant. I would definitely lick my fingers at any type of very casual activity like those mentioned in the first group. I probably wouldn't at a restaurant. (Part of it is that at a restaurant I would be much less likely to be eating cheetoes or an ice cream sandwich or something that really gets on my fingers.)

I do have to add, though, that it doesn't gross me out if someone else does it. Unless, of course, he/she is sticking each individual finger totally in his/her mouth, or lovingly running their tongue over his/her entire hand! At that point, I might find it a little gross, but probably just more amusing and entertaining!

As a side note: I find the posters who think they have such perfect manners to be a very judgmental, harsh bunch. Lighten up. Do you really want to judge people by whether they put their elbows on the table or blow their noses in public or don't put a napkin on their lap? I raised 2 very polite young adults. They will always hold the door for people. They've given up their seats on public transportation for others. They write a wonderful thank you note. Honestly, people tell me all the time how polite they are. Here's the difference: I taught them that they should be kind and they are very aware of the types of actions that directly affect others. If someone is offended because they put their elbows on the table? Not someone really worth their time.

Just my thoughts . . .

 

[Pixiedustaway]

IIRC from the bread buttering thread, the correct thing to do is break off pieces of the bread and use the butter knife to butter each little piece as you eat it.

I break my roll into several small pieces. I then rake each piece thru the butter that everyone shares. Sometimes more then once with each piece.

 

[FairestOfThemAll37]

I break my roll into several small pieces. I then rake each piece thru the butter that everyone shares. Sometimes more then once with each piece.

Hahaha this thread makes me want to pull a stunt from the show 'king of queens'

Doug was trying to avoid making new friends with people from his wife's new office so did all this crazy stuff like lifting his shirt and asking them to touch his chest hair.

In one scene his wife was in the restroom at the restaurant and he picks up the coworkers' plates after they're finished and starts licking them clean!

 

[already]

Only Kentucky Fried Chicken which is Finger Lickin' Good. (Only kidding.)

Unless the finger licker was actually touching me, I would not be grossed out about it. It is none of my business what other people do. As shown on this thread, everybody has different ideas if this is a gross behavior or not. If I don't like the behavior, I have every opportunity to watch the swim meet rather than the person that is offensive to me.

Personally, I find it far ruder and a far bigger etiquette breach for the OP to be gawking at the lady so much as to notice she licked her fingers 5-6 times and to be paying so much attention to a stranger that she knows that she is playing Words with Friends on her 4" x 2" screen.

 

[Chocolate Cake]

I understand that for some reason you think it is not supposed to happen, but, frankly, that is your problem not mine.

OK. Here's the deal. For some reason, your parents didn't know any better and never taught you it is disgusting to blow your nose while others are dining.

Did they teach you not to loudly belch at the table? Did they teach you not to pass gas loudly at a restaurant and then proclaim "Smell that"?:

Surely they taught you the above.

Well, blowing your snot while others are eating is just as bad. You just were never taught that. You just don't know any better, because your parents didn't know any better.

Consider yourself taught. Do not blow your nose where others are eating.

 

[MIGrandma]

OK. Here's the deal. For some reason, your parents didn't know any better and never taught you it is disgusting to blow your nose while others are dining.

Did they teach you not to loudly belch at the table? Did they teach you not to pass gas loudly at a restaurant and then proclaim "Smell that"?:

Surely they taught you the above.

Well, blowing your snot while others are eating is just as bad. You just were never taught that. You just don't know any better, because your parents didn't know any better.

Consider yourself taught. Do not blow your nose where others are eating.

Oh my goodness, are you freaking serious?

Do you honestly think anyone here is going to actually stop doing something that YOU find offensive simply because YOU tell them to?

That is so laughable! Maybe you should just get over yourself.

 

[NAB]

Plus, everything they touch will have their snotting germs on it. Yuck. Blow your nose in a restroom and wash your hands.

Boy I guess I do not have the nose blowing thing down since I do not wash my hands after I blow nose unless I have a cold and it is really wet etc. I really don't know what you people did before hand sanitizer either. How many times have you cleaned your child's nose with a Kleenex while out shopping or something , do you run to the bathroom after.

Same as boogies hanging out of my nose after I blow it. If that is the case I didn't do a good job of blowing my nose with a Kleenex. Don't think I have ever had this and if I did I'm sure someone would have told me but have never been told that. Won't even get into the nose pickers....

I hate when someone sits there and sniffs not suck it back but just sniffs. Get a Kleenex.

There are germs everywhere I get it.

 

[deedeetoo]

OMG, this thread is hysterical.

For the record, I will occasionally lick my fingers if I am eating finger foods (yogurt is not a finger food). I will occasionally blow my nose at the table if I need to. Others in my family will do this too. I see nothing wrong with this and do not consider it to be bad manners.

Someone on a message board telling me that my behavior is bad manners is not going to change my behavior. It is going to make me wonder about the person who posts this though. Why do you care what other people do? Why? I have never noticed what people at other tables are doing in a restaurant, unless they are very loud about it and I can't really ignore it. Even then, I just wish they would be quieter. I try not to judge or control people. To me, that is bad manners.

 

[Susiequsie60]

Based on the responses on this thread, I think that the people claiming to have the best manners are by far the rudest ones posting here. Some (not all) of them are coming across as just not very nice.

I guess we all have our priorities. As I said earlier, I'll take kindness over good manners anytime!