Cat people - Need advice

[MyManGoofy!]

I wish the other pic of her from the previous page could be posted. It's so funny. She's lying on my lap resting her head on her paw, just staring at me.

If you can upload it onto your Myspace - I can grab it from there again.

 

[Claire L]

Oh she is so adorable Shame we live across the pond!

Claire

 

[Sherri]

I wish the other pic of her from the previous page could be posted. It's so funny. She's lying on my lap resting her head on her paw, just staring at me.

Post those pictures to.
Also it sounds like some in NH showed interest in adopting her a few posts back maybe.

 

[boomhauer]

If you can upload it onto your Myspace - I can grab it from there again.

It's on there. 2nd page of my pics. The link is a page back.

 

[Laura]

It's not that bad. I'm over dramatic. My wife is a fantastic person and I love her more than anything. We have usually, an awesome relationship.

Like most couples, we have our issues. We both need to work better on how to solve them. I'm not the perfect picture of maturity by any means myself.

Every couple has issues. I do hope you can work it out so you can keep your kitty. If not, there are certainly a lot of DISers who are suckers for such a cute little fuzzy face. She's a sweetie!

Good luck!

 

[phorsenuf]

Post those pictures to.
Also it sounds like some in NH showed interest in adopting her a few posts back maybe.

That would be me! I'm a hop skip and a jump from Mass!

 

[MyManGoofy!]

It's on there. 2nd page of my pics. The link is a page back.

It is not there yet. Are you sure it posted?

BTW - your little guys are so adorable!!

 

[boomhauer]

It is not there yet. Are you sure it posted?

BTW - your little guys are so adorable!!

Thank you.

My bad - It's on the first page, second to last row. Kind of a dark picture.

http://viewmorepics.myspace.com/inde...mageID=2608551

 

[MyManGoofy!]

Here ya go. Tried to lighten it a little first. Tried to make it larger too, but it wasn't lookin' good.

 

[druidia]

I agree. That's why we don't have any.

BTW- If the cat's behind is on their bed then they will be laying where it's butt was.

I'll venture out on my flame-retardant limb here and state that I would bet that many toddlers are germier than most indoor-only housecats. After all, kids are the ones bringing home the viruses and germs from school for the whole family to enjoy.

Anyway, I wouldn't give up on this so easily, but I think I would change the subject. It is your house, too, and they are your kids as well. Moms do not always know best. After all, have you ever heard of an "old husband's tale?"

Maybe she's just looking for a little more help from you right now and more attention towards her and the kids while she deals with an overwhelming responsibility, and this is just her roundabout way of sticking it to you. If she's ok with laying on guilt, my guess is she's a little passive-aggressive. This may just be her way of getting your attention.

 

[druidia]

Can't speak for all cats, but I'd eat off my cat's butt it's so clean. Well, maybe not eat off it, but it's pretty darn clean.

Seriously, cats are (for the most part) VERY clean animals.

I wish I knew how to post pics on here so I could show just how beautiful she is.

I second mickeyboat. You may love that cat more than I originally thought. Now I REALLY think your wife has a jealousy thing going!

 

[Sherri]

That would be me! I'm a hop skip and a jump from Mass!

I knew I read it somewhere (lol).
I love NH by the way, my brothers live a place called Peterbourgho. I'm sure I spelled it wrong.

 

[MinnieMe2]

This kind of situation infuriates me. Cats and dogs aren't dirty. While I would never leave an infant alone with an animal, I certainly wouldn't get rid of the animal. We always had cats and dogs. When each of our four kids came home, everyone got acquainted and got along fine. I did find my mama cat in the baby's crib on more than one occasion. She would curl up at the foot and go to sleep, just keeping one eye on the baby.

Your wife may think she's protecting her babies, but in fact, she's being ridiculous! A house is not antiseptic, with or without animals, and it's a huge mistake to bring kids up in such an environment. Their immune systems need to develop properly and with reason.

I wish your cat well. Hopefully, someone will give her a loving, forever home where she is appreciated and allowed to be a cat. I live in Massachusetts, too, and there is a wonderful cat rescue not too far from me. Your cat would be given every opportunity to find a home, and because she's still young, she'd probably do quite well.

For what it's worth, my husband has always known better than to give me any options when it came to the dogs or cats, and my kids are animal lovers. I show and breed bassets, and the dogs (and cats) are important family members -- to all of us!

 

[phorsenuf]

I knew I read it somewhere (lol).
I love NH by the way, my brothers live a place called Peterbourgho. I'm sure I spelled it wrong.

I know Peterborough very well. We used to live and own a business in Jaffrey which is the next town over.

 

[chager]

I do pray you find a good home for your kitty. Just wondering how attached the stepson is to the cat. If he is attached to her, who gets to be the bad guy and tell him your getting rid of her because of his new siblings? Everything has centered around the wife's feelings really. I know my son sobbed when we had to rehome one of our cats, but he understood it was best for her because she hated our other furbabies and was not happy one day while she was here. (She is now very happy being an only kitty and not having to share her person with anyone. ) Oh, my son is allergic to cats too, but he takes he meds because he loves his furbabies. He hasn't had any issues with being around them.

 

[manning]

In my day, we had multiple pets, drank out of the garden hose, ate dirt, touched everything, shared drinking glasses etc.

And when we were too young to know better wrapped our mouths around the drinking fountain.


I basically said the same to a niece once when she was being over protective. She looked at me like I was nuts and said that's not true. Go figure.

 

[Sherri]

I know Peterborough very well. We used to live and own a business in Jaffrey which is the next town over.

When I went to Keene State I once went home with a friend who lived in Jaffrey. I love New England.

 

[phorsenuf]

When I went to Keene State I once went home with a friend who lived in Jaffrey. I love New England.

My sisters went to Keene State My neice is there now too. Where abouts in Jaffrey?

 

[Fionasmommy]

Add me to the list of people who has always had a cat. We lived on a farm when I was a baby, so I was constantly around goats, cows, horses, chicken.... cats were the least of our worries!

I'm really sorry to hear about this situation you're stuck in, it just sounds like it could end badly for everyone involved - especially the poor cat. My DD has always been around cats too. My Siamese was intensely interested in Fiona when she first came home from the hospital - and why shouldn't an animal be? It's a new member of the family, it smells different and it makes funny little noises! But my kitty's interest was just her mothering instinct kicking in. She was first to run to Fiona whenever she cried, and if I couldn't calm her quickly enough (like if I was making a bottle and it took a minute) the cat would meow at me to hurry me along and then even nip at my ankles if I didn't hop to it! It was pretty cute, and even now that Fiona is five, the cat always runs to her if she cries.

I've never heard of problems with healthy kids and cat dander, nor have I known anyone that had problems with their pets and babies. As a mother, I can totally understand that your wife is worried and concerned for the babies' safety, but - and this is a big BUT - considering that an animal's life is on the line here, she needs to take the time to research those concerns instead of hastily jumping to conclusions. That poor cat is part of your family. It's not the cat's fault that you had more children nor can she defend herself against any of this. If you can, put your foot down and tell your wife that you all made a commitment when you adopted the cat, and you need to keep that commitment and in time everyone will adapt. And they will, I promise! There are always growing pains when a family adds members, be it babies or furballs. Once everyone gets used to the new routine it will be fine.

 

[lisajl]

Why is it always, "Get rid of the cat" or "Get rid of the dog"?
Why on earth don't people discuss these things?

Funny story, when my DH and I were pregnant for our first child (now 21), my MIL said, "What are you going to do with that cat after the baby gets here?" I said, "If the cat doesn't like the baby, the baby goes!" Shut my MIL up and that cat looked after our DD like it was her baby. They played together, slept together and watched out for each other. When my little kitty was euthanzied 13 years later we all cried like babies, even my MIL.

We now have 6 cats and 1 dog, added two boys to our home, too.

Cats, dogs and kids get along together fine. Tell your wife if she needs someone to talk to about this, contact me.
I feel she is being selfish. I know she is probably tired, too. I would never, ever try to take a pet away from any of my family members. We are attached to them as soon as we see them.

Good luck! BTW, your kitty is a cutie!!
Lisa