Bridesmaid question

[salmoneous]

Another solution for an extra groomsman that I kinda like is to have the best man waiting at the front with the groom.

As for a bridesmaids/groomsmen dance - do people really do that? Personal opinion - ick - but whatever the bride wants she gets I guess. If you have one, I can guarantee you one of the guys would be more than happy to sit out (for the good of the wedding of course).

 

[MorganLeFey]

my ex dh and I got married 19 years ago. I had a maid of honor (my sister) and three bridesmaids (my sisters and his sister). he had a best man and four groomsmen.

we didn't have flower girls or junior bridesmaids.

atthe time I had only one living grandparent, my grandmother. none of his grandparents were still alive.

so we asked the "extra" groomsman to escort my grandmother down the aisle.

 

[Barb D]

My DH was an usher in a wedding in which one of the bridesmaids had an emergency at the last minute and couldn't be there. He danced with me during that dance. (Side note: he DOESN'T dance, and this was the one and only time in the almost 30 years we've known each other that we've danced together.)

 

[Jenn Lynn]

Maybe have the Bestman stand up with the groom while everyone else walks down the aisle.

 

[Caradana]

We have an uneven wedding party - one extra girl - and it hasn't been an issue at all. I agree w/PoohandWendy that at times, having an extra person at the end of the procession can look more formal and "put together."

 

[ckret01]

Thank you all for the replies. It really does make me feel better. As for the bridesmaid/groomsman dance....I might not have explained myself properly but what I meant is when we have our first dance, usually we start dancing and then in the middle of the song isn't the bridal party supposed to join us? So I was wondering how that would work if I am short one person. But some of you mentioned having the extra person dance with their significant other if they have one) which I didn;t think of

 

[ckret01]

IndieBride should have some good advice.

Great website! Thank you!

 

[tw1nsmom]

Thank you all for the replies. It really does make me feel better. As for the bridesmaid/groomsman dance....I might not have explained myself properly but what I meant is when we have our first dance, usually we start dancing and then in the middle of the song isn't the bridal party supposed to join us? So I was wondering how that would work if I am short one person. But some of you mentioned having the extra person dance with their significant other if they have one) which I didn;t think of

I think some of us were saying that it wouldn't be necessary for the wedding party to join you on the dance floor unless you wanted them to. Many people have an official dance with their wedding party, and just as many don't. Do it whatever way you wish, but it is okay for you and your new DH to have your moment in the spotlight without your wedding party.

 

[becjlek]

I had the same the problem and ended up asking a casual friend. It was a big mistake. Looking back I wish I would have had the guts to tell DH that one was going to have to be an usher or kept in uneven.

 

[diznygirl]

Thank you all for the replies. It really does make me feel better. As for the bridesmaid/groomsman dance....I might not have explained myself properly but what I meant is when we have our first dance, usually we start dancing and then in the middle of the song isn't the bridal party supposed to join us? So I was wondering how that would work if I am short one person. But some of you mentioned having the extra person dance with their significant other if they have one) which I didn;t think of

You don't have to have them join you during the song - you can have the song all to yourself. After, the DJ can invite all the guests to dance.

Don't sweat the details!!

 

[mtemm]

Thank you all for the replies. It really does make me feel better. As for the bridesmaid/groomsman dance....I might not have explained myself properly but what I meant is when we have our first dance, usually we start dancing and then in the middle of the song isn't the bridal party supposed to join us? So I was wondering how that would work if I am short one person. But some of you mentioned having the extra person dance with their significant other if they have one) which I didn;t think of

nope, its not necessary at all. I've been in 4 or 5 weddings, been to many more, and had my own, and have only seen this at two (one I was in, one I wasn't in...I had actually forgotten about it until just now). I say dance with your new husband and keep it to that.

another option is to do what some friends of ours did. they danced for a while, then they invited all married couples to the dance floor to join them. then the dj had people leave the floor based on how long they were married. I think he did 5 or 10 year increments, and in the end, there was the bridal couple (who I think danced the entire time, if I remember correctly) and one couple who had been married for over 50 years. It was very sweet and so touching. I think the bride gave her bouquet to the lady.

Happy planning, and remember, try not to sweat the small stuff.

 

[LindsayDunn228]

My husband was one person short on his side, so he had his good friend, who is female, as a groomswoman. She was also a groomswoman for my BIL.

 

[sugarpie]

If it were my wedding I would have the bride/groom dance & skip all the other "official" dances. I was at a wedding on Friday where there was the bride/groom dance, bride & groom dance with parents & grandparents, wedding party dance, and an all the married couples dance. The whole thing took about 30 minutes. A total waste of time, in my opinion.

 

[dcgrumpy]

there were more guys than girls in my sister's wedding party. Two of the bridesmaids walked down the aisle with two guys.

As for the first dance, some of the guys danced with their wife/girlfriend instead of their partner.

 

[kilee]

I only see the wedding party dance at about 1/2 the weddings I go to. Seems to be all about preference. W/ an uneven wedding party it would work just to not include that and then the whole thing would balance out.

 

[clarabelle]

I just wanted to add- Don't ask someone just to even up the numbers.
We did that and he wound up being a jerk and thought his main job was to play practical jokes thoughout the proceedings and really trash my car with over the top decorations.
We don't even speak now and I really regret that we asked someone we didn't know as well just to even out the numbers.

 

[Tazicket]

When DH and I got married, I had 2 MOH, 4 bridesmaids, and a flowergirl. DH had his Best Man, 4 groomsmen, and a ringbearer. It actually worked out pretty neat b/c DH's Best Man was his father. So...when we came into the church, the girls walked by themselves and met the guys at the front; and when we left, my 2 MOHs walked out together and Best Man stopped to get DH's mom. (My dad was the minister, so he stopped to get my mom on the way out, which was also pretty cool).

As far as dancing goes, DH and I danced together without the bridesmaids and groomsmen and then I danced with my Dad and that was it.

I was in a wedding this weekend and while there were even numbers, one of the groomsmen has MS and is in a wheelchair. The bride and groom danced alone, then she danced with her Dad, then he danced with his Mom. On a side note, the groomsman with MS rolled out on the dance floor while we were leading the guests in a rousing version of the Hokey Pokey and he put us all to shame!

 

[puffkin]

I echo other posters and say unless you have someone else you really want to ask, I would just leave the sides uneven.

As for the dance, we had a separate song for the wedding party. But if you don't want to do that, you could just dedicate a song to the wedding party and have it open for all the guests. That way everyone could dance with their significant other.

For the church (and almost all the weddings I have been to) all the men line up with the groom at the front of the church and just the women walk down the aisle. The only exception is the father who walks the bride down. Then on the way out of the church, the groomsmen escort the bridesmaids out. It would be fine to have 1 bridesmaid escorted by 2 groomsmen or to have the last groomsman bring up the rear.

 

[phisigprincess]

First of all, uneven is FINE!!! We started with an even party, but my SIL was too pregnant to make the trip. That left us with 5 girls and 6 guys - though one of the groomsmen was actually a groomswoman. I had 2 maid of honors and there was only 1 best man as well.

During the bridal dance I just had the extra person dance with their husband. That worked out completely fine and no one cared. Don't put someone in your party who you really don't want in there just for the sake of being even.

 

[WDWfan36]

I really honestly don't think it would look stupid.