Bridesmaid question

[ckret01]

I am getting married next year and are deciding on who we are having in our wedding party. Right now I am one girl short and don't know what to do. I am having my sister as my MOH and my 2 best friends (yes, I really only have 2 friends that I am close with). So I have a total of 3 girls and my fiance has 4 guys. There is no one else I can really ask. How silly would that look to be off a person? I don't know about not asking one of the guys to be in it as my fiance wants everyone he has to be apart of the wedding party and I do as well. Did anyone else have this problem?

 

[kejoda]

does your df have any sisters? How about a cousin?

 

[spazzyjazzy]

It would not look bad at all. If you haven't been to the www.theknot.com, you may want to give them a try. They were very helpful when I was planning my wedding. Look for your local messageboard. I got so much helpful advice from my local knotties. Even made some friends.

 

[ckret01]

does your df have any sisters? How about a cousin?

My DF does have one sister and I was planning on asking her until he sort of mentioned to her on the phone one day that we wanted her to be a part of the wedding. He told her I was going to ask her when we visited her last week(we live in NY and she lives in Florida) and she said she would rather not for several reasons ( money, distance and the fact that I don't think she really wants to)

I don't have any female cousins that I am close with to ask. Even though I will be inviting them to the wedding I haven't seen or talked to them in years.

This really stinks-lol

 

[poohandwendy]

Do what makes you feel comfortable...it is YOUR wedding.

I have been to weddings where there were extra groomsmen. They just followed the procession out, with the one of the groomsman alone, followed by the rest escorting the bridesmaids. It did not seem strange at all to me. Actually, it looked more formal for some reason.

 

[AuroraBorealis]

Uneven sides are okay and becoming quite accepted. Four out of the last five weddings I've attended have had an uneven bridal party. Nobody seemed to notice. If they did, it wasn't a big deal.

Besides, all eyes should be on you! (And your new hubby.) Not the wedding party.

Congrats and happy planning.

 

[ckret01]

Do what makes you feel comfortable...it is YOUR wedding.

I have been to weddings where there were extra groomsmen. They just followed the procession out, with the one of the groomsman alone, followed by the rest escorting the bridesmaids. It did not seem strange at all to me. Actually, it looked more formal for some reason.

How did it look when they all danced to the bride and grooms first dance? Did the one sit out or did they take turns dancing with a bridesmaid?

 

[piglet too]

At a wedding my DH was in, he escorted two girls. Maybe you could have one of the girls escorted by two guys?

ETA ~ See your dance question, and he danced with both at the same time. It was kinda funny since he had messed up his back the day before and was on pain killers. The girls were practically holding him up the whole time.

 

[poohandwendy]

How did it look when they all danced to the bride and grooms first dance? Did the one sit out or did they take turns dancing with a bridesmaid?

LOL, I don't even remember how they did it...he might have danced with a girlfriend or something? I guess it really must not be a big deal because I never noticed anything out of balance. Everything went as smoothly as any other wedding I have been to.

 

[Ginamarie]

We had an extra girl and she walked down the aisle by herself. My SIL had about THREE extra guys, so some of the girls got double escorts. There's really no faux pas about having an uneven number these days. I think it's more important to invite the people you're closest to to participate than worrying about whether it's even.

 

[poohandwendy]

I think it's more important to invite the people you're closest to to participate than worrying about whether it's even.

I totally agree. I think you are more likely to run into problems if you invite someone just to be a 'filler' than if you just go with the people you really want standing for you.

 

[LadyyRedd]

One of my best friends had 1 extra bridesmaid, so one groomsman walked with a girl on each arm on the way out. They actually didn't do that traditional bridesmaid/groomsmen dance, so I can't help you with that!

Kimya

 

[tw1nsmom]

If I were you, I would stick to the people who meant a lot to me, regardless of uneven numbers. I would also skip the official bridesmaid/groomsman dance.

Actually, we let the wedding party sit with their dates/spouses/parents (we had our nieces and nephews in the wedding party), instead of having everyone at a big long table. We had what I think is called a sweetheart table. Our wedding party enjoyed themselves much more than they would have if they hadn't been able to sit with their dates.

I can remember my brother's wedding when I was 20. I was a bridesmaid and paired up with a friend of theirs. We all had to sit at a head table, but I ended up alone most of the time. My groomsman had a very jealous girlfriend. She didn't even let him finish the official dance. I ended up sitting most of it out. I had no interest in him; it was just awkward.

 

[MareQ]

I had an "extra" guy in our wedding. My sister was my MOH. My brother's girlfriend(now wife) and DH's sister were bridesmaids. For DH's side he had his cousin as his B/M then my 2 brothers and his BIL. When everybody was paired up it left my youngest brother "alone" - I had my 2 nieces as flower girls so they were his "partners" - turned out just fine

 

[mtemm]

I've never heard of the bridesmaids/groomsmen dance. dh and I had our first dance, and then I danced with my dad, then he danced with his mom, but that was it for official dances.

 

[mkymouse1928]

We had one extra guy, so we had him be an usher. The rest were groomsmen. He sat guests as they arrived at the wedding and then he sat my mil (her son was best man and my DH wanted him to stay with him and the priest). When it came time to do the dance things at the reception, he was supposed to dance with a female cousin (he didn't have a girlfriend at the time) or his mom, but as it turned out my junior groomsman refused to dance so he ended up filling in (a little odd because he was in his late teens and my junior bridesmaid was about 10, but everyone thought it was cute and very gallant of him since the girl was crying because the boy wouldn't dance with her).

Oh and this was 10 years ago and no body thought that it was odd at all. At least noone said anything about it.

It is your wedding. Do what you want and have a great day and wonderful life together.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

If you are not close with anyone then keep it uneven. That way you won't have to stumble around trying to include someone in your parties that would rather not be there.

Heck this is your wedding! Relax and enjoy. Congratulations!

 

[VSL]

IndieBride should have some good advice.

 

[TiggerStac]

I have seen (and did it myself w/my flower girl) extra Bridesmaids dancing with their fathers or even their date. My wedding was off balanced, but I had a jr bridesmaid, who was like a little sister to me. My younger brother 18ish at the time, had no problem dancing with her..and her sister was my flower girl and I had asked her dad if she would dance with him.

My ex was actually in a wedding that all of the bridal party danced w/their dates...that was definately weird for me, as he didn't forwarn me about that one. I don't even think there were any Bridesmaids, just the MOH. The groom had 2 brothers and 1 other GM.

 

[golfgal]

If it were my wedding what I would do is have all the groomsmen stand with DH at the front of the church (DH first, closest to the aisle), have the bridesmaids walk down the aisle and to their "spot" in front and not have a groomsman "meet" them anywhere. Then when you come up the aisle have DH walk out to meet you and walk to where ever you will be during the ceremony. Then at the end, just have the last bridesmaid walk out with two groomsmen.