Any other DISers trying to concieve? Reread OP for the QOTD!

[mickeybar]

OK, I have another quick question.

If I think I O'd on Friday or Saturday, then why am I having EWCM today (Tuesday)? Should I be doing the BD tonight then? I thought I was in my 2WW now! Help please!

 

[DMickey28]

mickeybar ~ How do you know you o'd? are you temping? I always had EWCM a few days before O, never the day of! And certainly never after until I got PG. Now I sometimes get it but it was after the two week wait. I would BD if you can to be safe!! Why not!

Michelle???

Becky... HUGS... I hope you can find the sex on Thursday, you deserve it!

I got my doppler today and of course DH is traveling. I couldn't wait.. I FOUND THE HEARTBEAT!! Absolutly amazing. I emailed it to DH!! I keep listening to it (the recording!)

 

[mickeybar]

mickeybar ~ How do you know you o'd? are you temping? I always had EWCM a few days before O, never the day of! And certainly never after until I got PG. Now I sometimes get it but it was after the two week wait. I would BD if you can to be safe!! Why not!

I know I O'd because I took an OPK Friday and it said I was, then on Saturday afternoon I felt O pains. I'm totally confused now because I thought we were through trying and I am confused by the EWCM.

 

[beckmrk04]

I know I O'd because I took an OPK Friday and it said I was, then on Saturday afternoon I felt O pains. I'm totally confused now because I thought we were through trying and I am confused by the EWCM.

Don't put too much stock into your CM alone. Some women have ewcm all the time; some (like me) NEVER had ewcm. You have to take all factors into account.

I stressed and stressed about my lack of EWCM, and apparently, it wasn't the all-important thing because I still got pregnant.

So, relax and conisder yourself in the 2ww. (BTW- keep having sex if you feel like there might still be the possibility- won't hurt anything!).

 

[DisneyGirl4188]

I have spent the past couple days reading this thread. to all of you.

DH and I just started talking about TTC. I haven't told anyone in RL. We don't want to make a big deal of it, because we are just going to try to see what happens.

I have to say I am terrified though. Was anyone scared and if so how did you get over it? I know that I want a child, but I just can't get past all that can go wrong.

 

[PoohPrincess76]

I have to say I am terrified though. Was anyone scared and if so how did you get over it? I know that I want a child, but I just can't get past all that can go wrong.

Welcome Amber!!! I am scared too. Especially after reading on here how many women have problems. I didn't plan to get pregnant with DD. I have never "tried" to get pregnant before. What if seems so huge at this point. I haven't really gotten over it, but am just waiting to see what happens. But, we aren't really going to start TTC for another 39 more days.

 

[DisneyGirl4188]

Welcome Amber!!! I am scared too. Especially after reading on here how many women have problems. I didn't plan to get pregnant with DD. I have never "tried" to get pregnant before. What if seems so huge at this point. I haven't really gotten over it, but am just waiting to see what happens. But, we aren't really going to start TTC for another 39 more days.

DH and I just going to let nature take it's course. If I can't get pregnant, we'll deal with it. I'm not going to even chart. At least for now, we don't want to put too much pressure on it.

I can't imagine having to go through all the treatments. Everyone that has to has my complete respect and are much stronger than I could ever hope to be.

I am just scared of actually being pregnant and giving birth; there is just so much that can go wrong. I told DH that it would be one thing if it just happened, but to actually plan it I can't really talk to anyone about it, because we don't want to tell people we are planning.

My mom had trouble with us. She also most died with me (started to hemmorrage; they had to do a c-section). They had to do an early c-section with my brother (she woke up with severe pains). She was really ill with all three of us.

 

[PoohPrincess76]

I was definately not the norm with my pregnancy with DD. No issues. No swelling feet. 24 hours of labor, no pain medication (I wanted it, but, DDs heartbeat was steady at 144, not fluctuating, so they wouldn't give me any) and she was 10lbs 6.4oz. I would definately be open with the girls on here about your fears. Seems they have been through it all.

 

[mrs.explorer1977]

I have to say I am terrified though. Was anyone scared and if so how did you get over it? I know that I want a child, but I just can't get past all that can go wrong.

Gah! I was soooo scared to just go off the pill! It felt way too grown up for me...

But I dealt with it. And then I watched the season premiere of ER and spent the whole episode bawling and decided after that I didn't want to try anymore and we could adopt...

But, I dealt with that too.

We haven't told anyone really either, except on here, and one of our neighbours who is going down to Disney in a few days (we want to give my parents Mickey ears embroidered with "Nana" and "Papa" when it happens...) We're trying to keep it under wraps though, because there's been some pressure about when are we going to start etc, and it's just too much!

Hang in there.

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Everyone else -- been a bit MIA lately...busy at work and have been getting home late for nearly a week! CD23 for me today...not sure if I am or not, but whatever...just keep waiting and see. I guess that's why they call it the 2ww!! (Which, by the way, sucks!)

 

[mickeyboat]

It is only natural to be afraid. I won't lie Pregnancy and childbirth are scary and tough, so is having a child be completely dependent on you and raising him or her to be a good and productive member of society.

The benefits you get from having children far outweigh any negatives I can think of. I give being a parent a big .

I agree with just having fun and relaxing if you are just starting TTC. If you are in no hurry, and don't know of any problems such as irregular cycles or advanced maternal age, that is the best way to go if that is what will make you happy. There are some people who are comforted by the temping and charting, so that might make them happy. There isnt't one right way, only the right way for you.

Don't be afraid of the stuff you see on this thread. For most people, it doesn't even come into play. But the people on this thread are VERY well-versed in a lot of fertility issues, so if you have a question, we are all more than happy to help out.

Every pregnancy and delivery is different, and obstretical health care is much more advanced than it was when our parents had us. You should definitely mention your mother's problems to your OB, and ask your mom (once you tell her) if she knew what caused her problems, so your doctor can monitor you more closely.

Good luck!

Denae

 

[exwdwcm]

hey ladies

becky- first off- glad you are okay- how scary! here's hoping for no more hospital visits, other than to deliver that baby!

well BFN.....it can go to, well you know where. tested yesterday morning. used the clearblue digital test. even tested a second time last night ust to be sure- negative again. today is CD 29, still no AF either. but i am very irregular, so that's nothing new. having my period actually start on CD 28 is rare for me. one month it comes on CD 24 and the next on CD 35. so i guess AF is taking her sweet time. no bother though since we won't be trying in october anyways.

sorry i didn't post sooner, i am in san diego working a 3 day tradeshow and forgot my charger and so i couldn't get online until i found the business center at the hotel. i was so busy at the show yesterday plus hosting a reception at night, that i didn't have time to be that upset. i got a good cry in, alone in my hotel room in the am. that's it. nothing else i can do. worrying or being pissed isn't going to help anything.

so i called and scheduled the lap surgery- for oct 13th, two weeks basically. i have to rearrange a flight for another business trip in order to get back on the 12th early to do pre surgery bloodwork. oh well. so october is out. we will be doing the lap after my ovulation period, so we will have to wait til november to do another IUI. i am really hoping i have endo and that the scar tissue is the problem. i know injectibles won't help as a next step, since i am producing lots of follies/eggs (7 follies both month! and ovulated 4 egg both months). so that isn't the issue. perhaps implantation is? who knows. hopefully this helps. i've never had even minor surgery before or even been put under, so this will be all new to me, even though this is minor too. any experiences on the lap? how long will i be sore? I have a wedding the next night i have to go to.

So in november we will give it another shot with the IUI #3 with clomid (which works for me apparently even at low doses!). i think i have decided i'll do as many as 6 IUI's total. if none of those work, then i think it is time to consider our other options more seriously. and maybe adoption is one of them. if implantation is the issue, the in vitro won't necessarily help either. so who knows. we'll cross that bridge. but i am hoping we won't have to go there. anyways- hate to bring everyone down. it is very disappointing after a year and a half, 6 months on clomid spread out in that time, and 2 IUIs. ugh!!!


well gotta get back to the show. thanks for listening guys!

 

[mickeyboat]

Michelle - I am sorry about the BFN!

Denae

 

[Minnesota!]

(((((Michelle))))) I am so sorry about the BFN!!! That stinks. SIGH.

Welcome Amber - it is a big step, and pregnancy and childbirth ARE scary. But, like Denae said, so is raising a child. It's a wonderful wonderful thing, though. As hard as it has been for me to get pg with a keeper, I would do it again in a heartbeat to have my beautiful son. And now this sweet baby growing in me!

mrsexplorer (blanking on your first name) - the 2ww DOES suck!!! Hope it flys by for you..

 

[beckmrk04]

Michelle- sorry about the BFN! I'll keep my fingers crossed.

Amber- I'm still scared about getting pregnant. And I'm already pregnant. I NEVER in a million years dreamed I would have so many problems during my pregnancy, but EVEN when I wanted to give up, I knew I couldn't. Even at my sickest, I knew that I was going to bring this child, the tiny human my husband and I created, into this world come hell or high water: and once I hold this baby in my arms, I know that I will do whatever it takes to be the best parent I can be.

PS girls- I have my ultrasound tomorrow morning at 9:15!!! I'll find out if it's a girl or boy and then I will rush out to buy something pink or blue as quickly as possible!

 

[LisaB]

Good luck with the u/s Becky. MIchelle sorry about the BFN and welcome to all the other
ttc

 

[Pollito916]

Good luck tomorrow Becky! I just had my big u/s yesterday, and found out it's a boy! The chinese calendar said it was a girl for me, too, but it was wrong. This site, gender predictor was right, though. Give it a try and see if it agrees with the chinese calendar. Both methods said I would be a girl, so they were right at least once!

 

[beckmrk04]

I tried but the link won't work.

 

[Pollito916]

Sorry - I just fixed it!

 

[beckmrk04]

It says girl! Guess we'll see...

I had to call today to ask just how full my bladder needed to be for the U/S... 9:15 am isn't a good time, because by then you've already HAD to pee... So, I'll have to try to refill very quickly.

 

[DisneyGirl4188]

You all have calmed my fears a bit. DH says I need to stop reading so much, but I can't help it. I want to well informed of what can happen. There are times I think maybe we should start trying now, just to get it over with. However, we are waiting until after our Disney trip.


Becky, I hope you get to find out what the baby is. Our friends just had a baby a couple months ago and didn't find out what it was until he was delivered. Everytime they would try to find out, he would turn away.