Would you leave your child overnight to get a tattoo?

[Colleen27]

I never said i called on them that was your assumption. You wanna hate me go ahead but don't say i said something I didn't.

I have filed several 51As because I am a mandated reporter. If I even hear a kid in the grocery store get yelled at I have to report but I know the system enough to know what gets done and what doesn't.

No one here will agree with me because its taboo but bottom line is that it was irresponsible. I needed to vent. Done and over. Carry on.

That is in no way what "mandated reporter" means, and interpretations like that ("OMG, those people aren't parenting just like me! I must report them!") are a big part of the reason protective services is so overworked and understaffed that real cases of abuse fall through the cracks.

 

[Queen2PrincessG]

Did you hurt yourself taking that leap?

Not a leap. SIl and both of her sisters are high school drop outs so is BIL.
They don't value education. So it's not that big of a leap that their children will be the same.

 

[ccgirl]

This is getting good.

and last but not least

OP - how old are your children and what do you to that makes you a mandatory reporter?

You seem to not understand what abuse is. Abuse is not someone who just doesn't subscribe to your parenting techniques.

As much as you don't like it, leaving a child with an ear infection with their grandparents doesn't constitute abuse.

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

Not a leap. SIl and both of her sisters are high school drop outs so is BIL.
They don't value education. So it's not that big of a leap that their children will be the same.

It really is though...

 

[ccgirl]

Not a leap. SIl and both of her sisters are high school drop outs so is BIL.
They don't value education. So it's not that big of a leap that their children will be the same.

It's usually "perfect" families like yours that have the "good" skeleton's in the closet. Your poor DH. So judgemental of his family.

 

[Queen2PrincessG]

It really is though...

It really isn't. But believe what you want.

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

It's usually "perfect" families like yours that have the "good" skeleton's in the closet. Your poor DH. So judgemental of his family.

No skeletons in their closet...The doors probably have to stay open all of the time!

 

[RitaE]

sick and doing nothing?

Who diagnosed the ear infection?

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

It really isn't. But believe what you want.

Okay...I'll even give you the "They don't value education"...crud, but why the pregnant comment?

Oh I KNOW!!! Cause they'll let her close her bedroom door right?

 

[mdsoccermom]

But don't you work? I mean, you must have some sort of job if you are a mandated reporter. Does your daughter go to work with you? ..... since you'd never pawn her off on somebody else to take care of her and all that.

She leaves her daughter, or at least used to, with her MIL (who she can't stand) at least once a week.

 

[Queen2PrincessG]

It's usually "perfect" families like yours that have the "good" skeleton's in the closet. Your poor DH. So judgemental of his family.

Poor DH are you serious? There's nothing poor about him HA! No he hates them too. If he had it his way we would never have to interact with them but we have to because otherwise his mother cries and complains that her 'babies" aren't getting along and then we look like the bad guys when we isolate them.
DH is VERY different from his family.

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

Poor DH are you serious? There's nothing poor about him HA! No he hates them too. If he had it his way we would never have to interact with them but we have to because otherwise his mother cries and complains that her 'babies" aren't getting along and then we look like the bad guys when we isolate them.
DH is VERY different from his family.

Except when you ask them to babysit? Or go to parties at their house?

If they're that bad, WHO CARES what she says or cries about?

Oh right...then there would be no drama in your life.

 

[Queen2PrincessG]

Okay...I'll even give you the "They don't value education"...crud, but why the pregnant comment?

Oh I KNOW!!! Cause they'll let her close her bedroom door right?

Because that's what they do. They all had babies out of wedlock before 20. One had a kid with a guy who is/was a meth addict that beat her in front of the kid. Now the little girl has anger issues and hit kids of they make her mad. She isn't in therapy though because they think "it's cute, she'll grow out of it".

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

Because that's what they do. They all had babies out of wedlock before 20. One had a kid with a guy who is/was a meth addict that beat her in front of the kid. Now the little girl has anger issues and hit kids of they make her mad. She isn't in therapy though because they think "it's cute, she'll grow out of it".

Okay then...

 

[Queen2PrincessG]

Except when you ask them to babysit? Or go to parties at their house?

If they're that bad, WHO CARES what she says or cries about?

Oh right...then there would be no drama in your life.

We tried that, that's how I know what will happen. They are never allowed to watch my kid again. I've learned my lesson there.

 

[Metsfan520]

I still don't know why you are a mandated reporter OP. I'll admit to being curious.

 

[mjkacmom]

I wonder if the OP has any friends IRL. Hard to believe, with such an extreme narrow minded view of parenting and children.

 

[ccgirl]

Poor DH are you serious? There's nothing poor about him HA! No he hates them too. If he had it his way we would never have to interact with them but we have to because otherwise his mother cries and complains that her 'babies" aren't getting along and then we look like the bad guys when we isolate them.
DH is VERY different from his family.

The way you talk in your posts you definitely look like the bad guy.
I guess you and your DH never had premarital relations then. If you did; it could have just as easily have been you that had a baby out of wedlock. Nothing is 100% effective except abstinence.

I hope your DD doesn't grow up to be disrepectful of her parents.

I still don't know why you are a mandated reporter OP. I'll admit to being curious.

She still hasn't told us. I have to admit....I am kind of anxious to know.

I wonder if the OP has any friends IRL. Hard to believe, with such an extreme narrow minded view of parenting and children.

But, you only have 5 kids so you know nothing about parenting.

 

[HS3kids]

Wow! Just came on the disboards to see if its busy at WDW in early-mid November and look what I found!

 

[HS3kids]

My oldest DD had recurring strep throat, which never truly went away (antibiotic tolerance buildup?) when she was little, until age 5 when her tonsils/adenoids were removed. She hasnt been sick since (except a stomach bug or mild cold, and they were few and far between) and she is nearly 19 years old now.
My youngest had pertussis (whooping cough) as a newborn, and I was all over the doctors case until properly diagnosed and treated (PICU for a week).
Would I leave my kids with another responsible adult (hubby, grandparents etc) with an ear infection or other common childhood illness? Yes. And I have.
Would I be partying every weekend? No, but thats just not how I roll. (that and I am old lol) Not going to call CPS on someone who does either. Just my $ .02