Would you leave your child overnight to get a tattoo?

[Colleen27]

I'm probably a heartless mom, but I would and have left my kids when they were sick because of plans I'd already made. DH is just as capable of caring for them as I am. Now, I wouldn't do that if they were seriously ill but to me "fever, cough, ear infection" isn't serious. That's the kind of thing that kids tend to pick up every winter or two and pass around to all their friends & siblings.

 

[la79al]

I would totally rather take my kids with me to get a tattoo than to the grocery store, does that count for anything? As long as someone else was getting the tattoo.... And yes, kids can be sick for most of 3 months, especially this time of year and especially if they are in daycare (or have bigger siblings in school). Oh and it doesn't sound like the pedi is missing something per se, if the doctors at the hospital didn't make a diagnosis either.

 

[cornflake]

You say her parents aren't taking care of her.

However, it doesn't seem as if you're saying both left her, just that one went out. I don't see the problem with that, wherever the one went.

How are they not taking care of her if she's been to the dr., been to the hosp. when she needed more care, etc.? Because YOU think the dr.s they see don't know anything doesn't actually mean you're right. The dr.s they've seen could actually know what they're talking about.

In addition - if she's been ill for three months, are both her parents just supposed to stop living their lives? She's apparenty got cold symptoms. Are they both meant to not go out, by themselves, ever, while she's got a cold?

 

[Queen2PrincessG]

Oh let me clarify:
My SIL went out and got a tattoo then stayed home and drank with her friends. My BIL who stayed around for a bit left at 4 to go get his tattoo and then went home to do I don't know what.

My MIl was watching the kids she was also throwing a party at the house and it was loud, not many people and three were other kids there, including mine, but not a environment a sick kid should be in.

I'm not sure why BIL couldn't keep his kid at home since he is unemployed through the winter and chooses to not find a job so why not keep your sick baby girl at home with you and send you healthy son over to play and hang with other kids.

I just needed to vent because i have suggested time and time again that she see another doctor and the fact that the child had to be rushed to the hospital because she stopped breathing and they NEVER looked into it further bother me. I've been quiet about it. Like I said I hate to see sick kids especially when there is no need. Every weekend for the last month those kids have been at my in laws they enable them to be bad parents. They can't handle having two kids around them. She is constantly posting "ugh I need sleep these kids are driving me crazy" on Facebook. She's very young and not worldly at all and I have to keep in perspective that she was not allowed some of the advantages that many of us were so she is pretty young and stupid for lack of a better word. Yes, at 24 all I did was party with my girlfriends and drink but I had finished college and was kid-less so there were no responsibilities KWIM. She should have thought about that BEFORE getting pregnant and then getting married and then having another child.

My MIL enables her and THAT pisses me off too! I know I can't change any of this and it just sucks that my niece and nephew suffer for it and the MIL thinks SIL is some amazing person and can't see she isn't. Also pisses me off that she said she can't save for a Disney vacation for her kids but she can afford tattoos every few months? What the HECK!

 

[FigmentFinder]

Tattoos on the same day? Did they match?

 

[RitaE]

Wow. Your in-laws won't take your suggestions.

You've TOLD them that their Doctor is wrong.

TOLD THEM TOLD THEM TOLD THEM!!!!!!!!

Really call CPS and report "I'd like to report my sister in law for abuse because I disagree with the licensed medical professional they've chosen to treat my niece's illness and they keep listening to that Doctor instead of me. Plus, they choose to get tattoos instead of saving for a Disney vacation AND my Mother In Law likes them better than me."

That should be fun for you.

As for the question - if an ear infection meets your definition of "severely ill" then yes, I have left my child in the care of somebody else when he was "severely ill."

 

[WowLookAtThat]

Wait...she complains about her kids on Facebook?! How dare she!


Seriously, myob. I think you are looking for something to gripe about in terms of your SIL. Also maybe they just didn't want to go on the vacation and needed to make up an excuse.

 

[Queen2PrincessG]

Wow. Your in-laws won't take your suggestions.

You've TOLD them that their Doctor is wrong.

TOLD THEM TOLD THEM TOLD THEM!!!!!!!!

Really call CPS and report "I'd like to report my sister in law for abuse because I disagree with the licensed medical professional they've chosen to treat my niece's illness and they keep listening to that Doctor instead of me. Plus, they choose to get tattoos instead of saving for a Disney vacation AND my Mother In Law likes them better than me."

That should be fun for you.

As for the question - if an ear infection meets your definition of "severely ill" then yes, I have left my child in the care of somebody else when he was "severely ill."

I could give two bags of you know what if MIL likes me. It's not a popularity contest and at this point if she likes them over us it shows who she is. And I'm sorry any good parent with a child who's been constantly sick for 3 months straight, no kids in daycare or school, should be a little curious as to what is going on and not going out partying every weekend. I'm not saying I'm smarter than the doctors but sister in law hasn't asked for any test or bought up and queries. When the little girl was rushed to the ER they called child services on sil because she wanted to leave because she forgot food. Where was BIL at home sleeping, she didn't want to bother him. WHAT THE HECK! NO and Ear infection does not equally severely sick but if you read my statement you would see that it wasn't just an ear infection going on.

They are just bad parents and CPS won't do anything because it's not the type of bad that gets your children taken away. The are just neglectful and immature.

 

[laughinplace199]

Wow. Your in-laws won't take your suggestions.

You've TOLD them that their Doctor is wrong.

TOLD THEM TOLD THEM TOLD THEM!!!!!!!!

Really call CPS and report "I'd like to report my sister in law for abuse because I disagree with the licensed medical professional they've chosen to treat my niece's illness and they keep listening to that Doctor instead of me. Plus, they choose to get tattoos instead of saving for a Disney vacation AND my Mother In Law likes them better than me."

That should be fun for you.

As for the question - if an ear infection meets your definition of "severely ill" then yes, I have left my child in the care of somebody else when he was "severely ill."

and

If ear infections mean "severely ill" then count me in as a bad parent. DH & I went to WDW once and left the kids home with my parents when DS had an ear infection. Somehow, he survived!

 

[debster812]

A combination of all three.

I'm staying mum but it just infuriates me that she isn't taking care of the little girl.

Unless you are at every appointment, you really don't know, do you. When DS was 5 or 6 he had the WORST recurrent ear infection. We were at the point where we were having discussions about ear tubes. He would get the infection, take the course of antibiotics, looked like we were in the clear, and 3 days later, it was back. At one point, we were at the doctor's for 7 days straight (they keep weekend hours for sick kid visits). What finally did the trick was a very low dose of antibiotics for the entire winter (November through March)

He is now nearly 15, healthy as a horse, and has not had an ear infection in probably 6 years.

Sometimes little kids are just sick, a lot. Many of them will grow out of it.

 

[RitaE]

I could give two bags of you know what if MIL likes me. It's not a popularity contest and at this point if she likes them over us it shows who she is. And I'm sorry any good parent with a child who's been constantly sick for 3 months straight, no kids in daycare or school, should be a little curious as to what is going on and not going out partying every weekend. I'm not saying I'm smarter than the doctors but sister in law hasn't asked for any test or bought up and queries. When the little girl was rushed to the ER they called child services on sil because she wanted to leave because she forgot food. Where was BIL at home sleeping, she didn't want to bother him. WHAT THE HECK! NO and Ear infection does not equally severely sick but if you read my statement you would see that it wasn't just an ear infection going on.

They are just bad parents and CPS won't do anything because it's not the type of bad that gets your children taken away. The are just neglectful and immature.

Your obsession with proving that you are superior to these people is way beyond the norm. Your anger at your MIL for not "taking your side" for whatever reason is just so far out there it is rather scary.

Frankly, if you were my Sister in Law you wouldn't have a clue about anything that went on in our lives because I would have issued a gag order on all concerned long, long ago. It wouldn't surprise me in the least to discover your in-laws have done exactly that.

You don't like them. They don't meet your standards. We get it.

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

Knew it was a complaint about the inlaws again before I even finished reading.

Me too...

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

Your obsession with proving that you are superior to these people is way beyond the norm. Your anger at your MIL for not "taking your side" for whatever reason is just so far out there it is rather scary.

Frankly, if you were my Sister in Law you wouldn't have a clue about anything that went on in our lives because I would have issued a gag order on all concerned long, long ago. It wouldn't surprise me in the least to discover your in-laws have done exactly that.

You don't like them. They don't meet your standards. We get it.

As is her INFINITE knowledge on rasing children.

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

They are just bad parents and CPS won't do anything because it's not the type of bad that gets your children taken away. The are just neglectful and immature.

Actually...What's in red is one of the MAIN reasons CPS DOES step in.

 

[mjkacmom]

Sometimes little kids are just sick, a lot. Many of them will grow out of it.

The great thing about having sickly little ones is, by the time they're old enough for elementary, they rarely get sick, because they've had it all! Even before my kids went to preschool, they were sick all of the time. My sister, who only had one at the time, questioned why they were always sick. Then she had #2 and #3, and made a point of letting me know she gets it now.

 

[Queen2PrincessG]

CPS doesn't step in trust me I have made several reports and your child doesn't get taken away. The actions of my SIL would lead to nothing more than a interview. There are many more cases on the CPS radar that need urgent attention.

I don't understand people having kids and pawning them off on other people. Don't have them if you aren't willing to commit to them.

Also I am better than them. I don't need to prove it Rita, facts are facts. Also shes to much of an attention____ not to put everything on Facebook. So we just pretty much make fun of it here because she is just so pathetic. You can't complain that you need sleep and the kids need to be quiet the day after you go on a drinking binge with your sister.

My post had nothing to do with meeting my standards. I knew they didn't the minute I meet them. As everyone that encounters DH and finds out about his family, mainly his brother, they ask how did he turn out so well he always shrugs and says he ignored the crap and realized his parents really didn't care about him.

 

[WowLookAtThat]

Wait so you scorn your SIL for going on facebook and putting up all her drama but its ok for you to come here and complain?

Also, you claim neglect but the CPS doesn't see it as that.

 

[DisneyMomma81]

CPS doesn't step in trust me....

I don't either.

Also I am better than them.
Wow!

See above ~ bolded, underlined is me.

 

[Queen2PrincessG]

Wait so you scorn your SIL for going on facebook and putting up all her drama but its ok for you to come here and complain?

Also, you claim neglect but the CPS doesn't see it as that.

Right because to CPS as long as they are feed and clothed and not bruised they can't be bothered. There are too many other kids really suffering to care about kids who are only mildly being affected.

 

[Purple Nightshade]

CPS doesn't step in trust me I have made several reports and your child doesn't get taken away. The actions of my SIL would lead to nothing more than a interview. There are many more cases on the CPS radar that need urgent attention.

I don't understand people having kids and pawning them off on other people. Don't have them if you aren't willing to commit to them.

Also I am better than them. I don't need to prove it Rita, facts are facts. Also shes to much of an attention____ not to put everything on Facebook. So we just pretty much make fun of it here because she is just so pathetic. You can't complain that you need sleep and the kids need to be quiet the day after you go on a drinking binge with your sister.

My post had nothing to do with meeting my standards. I knew they didn't the minute I meet them. As everyone that encounters DH and finds out about his family, mainly his brother, they ask how did he turn out so well he always shrugs and says he ignored the crap and realized his parents really didn't care about him.

Wow how pompous and arrogant are you? do yourself, your in-laws and us a favor and unfriend your husbands family.

I truly feel sorry for your husband. He must have to listen to you rant and rave about how awful his family is every single day.