Would you leave your child overnight to get a tattoo?

[Queen2PrincessG]

It seems more jealousy then anything. My older sister/BIL made comments about my daughter going to my parents for sleep overs yet my niece/nephew never did. That is because my daughter would ask to go over, her kids didn't. I know she is jealuous but I just ignore her when she says "must be nice to have time alone". My response "yep, I chose to only have one child not 2"

My younger sister lives with my parents and has a 2 year old (almost 3). He goes to daycare regularly and my father does a lot with him. Yet my nephew would spit/bite/hit whether at home or daycare. No matter what the family tried (ignoring/discipline etc) he continued to do this. Now my family isn't perfect but my father does not tolerate any of this behaviour. Kids will be kids. They hit when they want a toy, cry when another person takes their toy etc.

I am not going to be mean or rude to you. Everyone has their own opinion, but when you post a problem you should expect everyone's 2 cents worth. Here is my thought, leave well enough alone. This will come back on you and make your family look worse. Stay away from the family and only visit when neseccary. If asked why you don't go over, just say you are busy. I think if you bring this up to them they will go against you and that is worse. Live your life, take all the energy and put towards your family. You will not be able to change others so change yourself.

Thanks for not being RUDE! It's rather refreshing on this thread. And I welcome other opinions. I'm not jealous they have nothing I want. It's just not FAIR the DD doesn't get to spend time with her grandparents alone because THEY are always there. DD ask to go over, which is why we went, not expecting them to be there.

I agree, I can see MIL being upset and playing the victim. I just have so much i want to vent out about.

 

[Disney-Chick]

Thanks for not being RUDE! It's rather refreshing on this thread. And I welcome other opinions. I'm not jealous they have nothing I want. It's just not FAIR the DD doesn't get to spend time with her grandparents alone because THEY are always there. DD ask to go over, which is why we went, not expecting them to be there.

I agree, I can see MIL being upset and playing the victim. I just have so much i want to vent out about.

Being rude isn't going to solve anything. In the end visit when you need to as your daughter gets older she will understand the way the family is (my daughter figured out her father's side and I never spoke bad about them. Let kids figure it out on their own).

Honestly, things bother me when they shouldn't. My DH tells me to leave it alone and it's none of my business but things bother me whether if affects me or not. Most of the time I leave it because it will only cause problems and really I don't need that in my life. I vent to a co-worker of mine as we became friends. I vent about things I can't to DH or my family. Unfortunatley you came across on the boards a bit to harsh and I am assuming there is more to the story then you can give us.

As I said before, in the end you can't change others. It will always frustrate you but there is nothing you can do. Believe me, I have funky family as well and I just go along with a smile

 

[02AggieGirl]

Unless you are at every appointment, you really don't know, do you. When DS was 5 or 6 he had the WORST recurrent ear infection. We were at the point where we were having discussions about ear tubes. He would get the infection, take the course of antibiotics, looked like we were in the clear, and 3 days later, it was back. At one point, we were at the doctor's for 7 days straight (they keep weekend hours for sick kid visits). What finally did the trick was a very low dose of antibiotics for the entire winter (November through March)

He is now nearly 15, healthy as a horse, and has not had an ear infection in probably 6 years.

Sometimes little kids are just sick, a lot. Many of them will grow out of it.

haven't read through all this, but when my DD was 1 she got the flu which turned into an ear infection that took 3 antibiotics to clear up. She was easily sick for 2 months straight. She's in second grade and hasn't been sick a day this year. I think you might be overreacting a little bit

 

[mjkacmom]

Not true. Ilaws keep asking why DD and us don't visit as often as we used to. It's because they always have those kids! To be fair before my DD and niece my nephew got to spend two years alone time with grandparents. Why should she be deprived of the that experience? So yes we do have a say because we don't want her around him.

He's 3, DD is 2 it has nothing to do with being more physical. He is a bully because HE gets bulled. He yells, punches throws toys across the room. I watched him grab his 11month old sister by the neck as he tried to drag her across the room because she was touching his toys. He isn't well socialized only goes to school 2 days a week and the other time he spends with his other female cousin who proudly says "if you make me mad, I'll punch you!" and his 13 and 10 year old uncles who are both special needs.

If you continue to judge other parents and children, based on your very limted parenting experience with your only child, you will find it very, very hard dealing with other parents and children. My 2 youngest girls were not hitters, pushers, or biters. Dd15 did try to harm ds13 when she was little - they start once the baby gets mobile, and into their things. Ds9 will still occasionally hit when frustrated (and yes, he gets into trouble). All kids have different temperments (but you wouldn't know that, I guess).

Your dd is not entitled to one on one visits with her grandparents. Period. Heck, my kids rarely get one on one time with adults, and really prefer to have another child to play with, because that's their norm.

What kind of school does your dd go to? I assume daycare?

 

[Queen2PrincessG]

If you continue to judge other parents and children, based on your very limted parenting experience with your only child, you will find it very, very hard dealing with other parents and children. My 2 youngest girls were not hitters, pushers, or biters. Dd15 did try to harm ds13 when she was little - they start once the baby gets mobile, and into their things. Ds9 will still occasionally hit when frustrated (and yes, he gets into trouble). All kids have different temperments (but you wouldn't know that, I guess).

Your dd is not entitled to one on one visits with her grandparents. Period. Heck, my kids rarely get one on one time with adults, and really prefer to have another child to play with, because that's their norm.

What kind of school does your dd go to? I assume daycare?

No, she goes to school. Also it is rather insulting to suggest that I don't understand child behaviors. . I don't need a heard of children to know what is correct and what is not. I have no problems dealing with other parents. I have a problem with parents who don't parent and children who are unruly.

 

[mjkacmom]

No, she goes to school. Also it is rather insulting to suggest that I don't understand child behaviors. . I don't need a heard of children to know what is correct and what is not. I have no problems dealing with other parents. I have a problem with parents who don't parent and children who are unruly.

Lol, my 3 youngest went to "school" about 8 hours a week, too, but let's face it, at that age, it's to get a mommy break. Sure, they got to socialize with other kids, but my kids were always in playgroups and mommy and me classes to socialize (and so I could, too). And I'm sorry to insult you, but half the time it doesn't sound you know what you are talking about. Three year olds DO hit - just because your dd doesn't mean that others don't. Yes, they have to be taught, and some learn easier than others, and some kids are just very timid.

 

[Queen2PrincessG]

Lol, my 3 youngest went to "school" about 8 hours a week, too, but let's face it, at that age, it's to get a mommy break. Sure, they got to socialize with other kids, but my kids were always in playgroups and mommy and me classes to socialize (and so I could, too). And I'm sorry to insult you, but half the time it doesn't sound you know what you are talking about. Three year olds DO hit - just because your dd doesn't mean that others don't. Yes, they have to be taught, and some learn easier than others, and some kids are just very timid.

You're not getting it. My daughter goes to school. Everyday from 8-2. It's not daycare. There is a difference. Trust me our pockets are feeling the difference this month.

I know what a learend behavior is and I know that he has learned to hit because HE is always the punching bag. So when he is in a position where he is the Alpha he thinks that it is ok to hit. No one tell him "No!." In fact when DD put her hand up and said "No, STOP IT, NO"! He yelled at her "stop saying the word, I don't like that word!"

 

[mjkacmom]

You're not getting it. My daughter goes to school. Everyday from 8-2. It's not daycare. There is a difference.

I know what a learend behavior is and I know that he has learned to hit because HE is always the punching bag. So when he is in a position where he is the Alpha he thinks that it is ok to hit. No one tell him "No!." In fact when DD put her hand up and said "No, STOP IT, NO"! He yelled at her "stop saying the word, I don't like that word!"

Did you tell him to stop? And he might've learned it, or he might've been a hitter, even if he was disciplined and never hit. You don't know. Do you work? I do know WOHM parents who send their kids to "school," but they know it's daycare.

 

[laughinplace199]

If you continue to judge other parents and children, based on your very limted parenting experience with your only child, you will find it very, very hard dealing with other parents and children. My 2 youngest girls were not hitters, pushers, or biters. Dd15 did try to harm ds13 when she was little - they start once the baby gets mobile, and into their things. Ds9 will still occasionally hit when frustrated (and yes, he gets into trouble). All kids have different temperments (but you wouldn't know that, I guess).

Your dd is not entitled to one on one visits with her grandparents. Period. Heck, my kids rarely get one on one time with adults, and really prefer to have another child to play with, because that's their norm.

What kind of school does your dd go to? I assume daycare?

You're not getting it. My daughter goes to school. Everyday from 8-2. It's not daycare. There is a difference.

Interesting. I seem to recall you talking about your daughter's day care center in recent posts.

 

[Queen2PrincessG]

Interesting. I seem to recall you talking about your daughter's day care center in recent posts.

Yes, we had her in a daycare until a spot opened at the school we wanted to send her to. We were wait listed because of her birthday but she was able to start in Feb.

 

[Queen2PrincessG]

Did you tell him to stop? And he might've learned it, or he might've been a hitter, even if he was disciplined and never hit. You don't know. Do you work? I do know WOHM parents who send their kids to "school," but they know it's daycare.

Yes, Both DH and I did on many occasions. I'm paying roughly 30,000 a year. It's school sweetie not daycare.

 

[mjkacmom]

Yes, we had her in a daycare until a spot opened at the school we wanted to send her to. We were wait listed because of her birthday but she was able to start in Feb.

What are the ages of the kids in this school? "Time for your biology lab, then a diaper change and nap!" I have tried all kinds of preschools, and much prefer the learn through play ones (basically a daycare) vs. academic ones. My kids went to kindergarten knowing how to read, because I taught them. It's really not hard.

 

[mjkacmom]

Yes, Both DH and I did on many occasions. I'm paying roughly 30,000 a year. It's school sweetie not daycare.

I don't care if you want to spend a lot of exta money so they can call it school, but if it involves the diapered set, it's daycare (or babysitting, if you are not working).

 

[Queen2PrincessG]

I don't care if you want to spend a lot of exta money so they can call it school, but if it involves the diapered set, it's daycare (or babysitting, if you are not working).

My daughter isn't in diapers nor are any of her classmates. I'm sorry that you can't seem to understand that I know there is a difference between school and a daycare. She goes to school, they learn and play. They have an amazing curriculum: health, math, Language arts as well as Drama and music. They are currently being exposed to the French language. It's an amazing school and I'm very happy that she is finally there.

 

[mjkacmom]

My daughter isn't in diapers nor are any of her classmates. I'm sorry that you can't seem to understand that I know there is a difference between school and a daycare. She goes to school, they learn and play. They have an amazing curriculum: health, math, Language arts as well as Drama and music. They are currently being exposed to the French language. It's an amazing school and I'm very happy that she is finally there.

I'm sorry, but I can't imagine a math/health/language arts program for a 2 year old! Foreign languages I can understand, and maybe some suziki music lessons, but everything else is either not developmentally appropriate for a 2 year old, or something that can be taught at home (or at any preschool/daycare). Learning letters and numbers, learning how to count, how to hold a pencil - not rocket science.

Do you work to pay for this? I mean, I assume you have a job if you are leaving a 2 year old in school for 30 hours a week.

 

[lurkernj]

haven't read through all this, but when my DD was 1 she got the flu which turned into an ear infection that took 3 antibiotics to clear up. She was easily sick for 2 months straight. She's in second grade and hasn't been sick a day this year. I think you might be overreacting a little bit

Well then I think you need to!

I finally gave in out of curiousity wondering what could possibly be keeping this thread alive and realized what I've been missing out on

 

[angierae]

Yes, Both DH and I did on many occasions. I'm paying roughly 30,000 a year. It's school sweetie not daycare.

You're paying $30k for preschool for a kid who isn't even preschool aged? I'm sorry, but at two, that's daycare with some educational activities. And around here would cost maybe $12k. And that would be full time five days a week and include breakfast, lunch and snacks.

 

[Monkeyfeet]

I am thinking this must be a good thread. I have just skimmed and many seem upset with the OP. Do I need to read from the beginning to see what this is all about?

 

[Queen2PrincessG]

I'm sorry, but I can't imagine a math/health/language arts program for a 2 year old! Foreign languages I can understand, and maybe some suziki music lessons, but everything else is either not developmentally appropriate for a 2 year old, or something that can be taught at home (or at any preschool/daycare). Learning letters and numbers, learning how to count, how to hold a pencil - not rocket science.

Do you work to pay for this? I mean, I assume you have a job if you are leaving a 2 year old in school for 30 hours a week.

Indeed we do! No, not rocket science maybe some day If you want the best education for your child, at least in my area, you pay for it. You should do a little research on education. I'm not sure where you are from so maybe that's one of the reasons you don't understand the difference. Maybe it's not developmental appropriate for the 2 yo you know but is it more than appropriate for DD and her classmates. As you have said yourself: Children are not the same. Some of them grasp concepts quicker than others.

 

[Glennie5]

Part of the reason so many people have a hard time believing what your saying is because it seems so far fetched. I have never heard of a school for 2 year olds - especially ones that would cost 30, 000. I am not saying you aren't telling the truth I am just saying it sounds a little over the top!