Will it ever happen?

[outstandinfarmer]

I went to Dismates but unfortunately there were only 4 men registered on the site. Skim pickins. . . ya know? And only one of them were within 10 years of my age. There has to be more than one man out there that is available and likes Disney. . .

 

[MidNite]

I went to Dismates but unfortunately there were only 4 men registered on the site. Skim pickins. . . ya know? And only one of them were within 10 years of my age. There has to be more than one man out there that is available and likes Disney. . .

Well, good luck to you! I really believe there is someone out there for everyone.

Hopefully, DisMates will grow fast (since it's only been back up for 2 days)

 

[SDFgirl]

I soooo remember feeling that way..."will I ever meet someone?" I used to think about it a lot!

But, life moves forward, boyfriend or not. I tried very hard not to dwell in my insecurities and enjoy life. I met my husband on my 26th birthday, and he said that one of the things he liked instantly about me was that I seemed happy and content with being single.

Now, in retrospect, I relish all of the trips I took with my girlfriends, the nights out on the town, even the really bad (but funny) dates I went on.

I feel that there is a plan for everyone's life. 22 is very young, as you know, and you may not meet someone for another 6 or 8 years. That's okay! Maybe the person you're meant to be with is in another relationship right now, or living in New Zealand, or busy with school. Who knows? You will meet when it's right for both of you. Good luck!!

 

[wdwgirl03]

I sort of feel that way too. On Christmas Eve, I get a call from one of my friends to tell me she got engaged!! You'd think I would be happy, right? Honestly I was so SHOCKED (but at the same time not...) that I didn't know what to think, and still don't know how I feel about it. She is only 19 years old, is engaged to the first guy she ever dated, and knowing how their relationship started...I just don't know what to think...they must've broken up atleast 3 times before they finally figured things out. So, the wedding is planned for December of next year. She will have just turned 21, and I'll be 21 in less than a month...it sort of makes me feel like I'm "behind" even though I am definitely not ready to get married. I guess it's because I'm not like my friend who sort of feels like she needs a guy or whatever, but this year it seems like every girl I see is engaged. Hmmm...

 

[Stitchfans]

You are still pretty young. Enjoy dating and being single for a while longer. Don't be in a hurry to get married. Make sure that the guy you meet is the right one. Women are starting their families much later than when I was your age.

 

[kpm76]

It's funny DH and I just had a conversation last night about how grateful we are that we had a full and active social life before we met each other. I met DH when I was 25 and we were married a few weeks before I turned 28. I can honestly say that I was not ready to settle down until I met DH. Sure I had boyfriends but I still had some living to do. We laugh now because we could never keep the schedules we did when we were in our early 20's but we learned so much about ourselves and what we wanted out of life. I know you don't want to hear it, but you are young, enjoy your life as a single lady....marriage is wonderful but like everything else, you have to be ready for it. BTW, if you are at all interested in politics, I always encourage my single friends to volunteer on a campaign. It's a haven for young, single men and women (mostly because the hours are obscene and the paid staff work for peanuts) but I met DH while we were both working on a governor's race....neither of us were "looking" but we found each other

 

[DMickey28]

I was in your boat. I think that a lot of people will tell you to live up your early 20's, but if that's not your personality. How do you met people if bars and the single scene isn't your scene? I graduated at 22 went right to work as a Restaurant manager (BaD hours for a life!) and I don't like the bar social scene, never was a partier.

I met my DH on match.com and boston.com/personals when I was 24 and we were married when I was 26. He was 27 when we met. He was done with thee bar scene and not meeting anyone special. It worked for us!!! It's hard if you aren't the social personality. The grocery store and laundry mat really don't work!!

 

[horseshowmom]

I was a 24 year old teacher who had seriously begun to doubt that I'd get married. I was fed up with dating just for the sake of dating (you know, leave at 7 p.m. and be wishing you were back home by 8 p.m.) and had pretty much decided that I wasn't wasting anymore time on guys that I wouldn't consider marrying eventually. Plus, I live in a very rural area.

I met DH (27 at the time) through his cousin who was one of my students. We never dated anybody else from then on and were married in July after meeting in February (been married almost 22 years).

It will happen when you least expect it!

 

[Blueeyes101817]

I was in your boat. I think that a lot of people will tell you to live up your early 20's, but if that's not your personality. How do you met people if bars and the single scene isn't your scene? I graduated at 22 went right to work as a Restaurant manager (BaD hours for a life!) and I don't like the bar social scene, never was a partier.

This is pretty much where i am...i am 21 but im not a party/drinking person..i work at a day care center so its not crawling with guys either...

 

[DwarfMaster]

Take my advice, don't marry someone you think you can live with, marry someone you KNOW you can't live without. Even if it means waiting many years.

I just wanted to say Thank-You for this advice......That was soooo well said.

 

[GeorgiaAristocat]

I'm just going to throw in another encouragement for patience. Early in our lives, we "plan" how we think our lives should go. Even in college, I was accused of only attending to get a "MRS" degree. Funny thing was, I didn't really date anyone, or at least, never longer than a few weeks. I left college and went straight to law school - still no one (not even a boyfriend, too busy with school!). Then to my first job - nada. I was 27 and had somewhat accepted my situation (although I wasn't very happy about it.) I took my second job, in a new town, and just started enjoying my life. I was never a drinker/party-goer, and I think that does cut down on opportunities to meet men, but, really, are those the type of men you want to meet anyway?

My husband believed I was a "catch" from the first time he met me (hey, educated, young, not a total dog, who can support him in the manner to which he would like to become accustomed), and was persistent, despite my repeated refusals to go out with him because he wasn't my "type." He was right, I was wrong. He really is the one I can't imagine living without.

He is also very different from what I would have "picked" for myself at 22. Our priorities shift as we get older. So, be patient. You never know where your soulmate is going to come from. The only thing that is fairly certain is that he will probably not come from where you expect him to come from!