One of our dear DISer friends was like the PP and their church (well how they assume they would be), I mean one time (when they lived here) they invited us all over to their apartment for pizza and because we knew their stance on alcohol we asked if they minded if we brought over beer for us, they said "well I trust you and I know you won't get drunk but just 1 beer and you'll have to take it with you because I don't want my friends to come see beer containers in my trash and think I'm drinking".......both my husband and I were like uhhhh it's okay really it's not that important to drink (it really isn't) .
Fast forward a few years once they moved down to Orlando and a bit into the pandemic had their first "adult beverage" and has never made any sort of comment since then. I'm not even sure they remember that interaction but it stuck with us and now they imbibe every now and then on adult drinks without judgement regarding others. They were/are very religious and brought up that way so I could see where the PP is coming from but if I felt that way about my church, that they would judge me like that with no cause pretty sure I would find a different church.