Who asked for YOUR input???

[larryz]

This is why I love public forums so much! If if weren't for you well intentioned people I would never realize that I was using trickery and deception to get my daughter to eat something she did not want to eat. And thanks to all of you I would not have known that I must not love her if I was so willing to use this trickery and deception. I also would not have realized that this had ruined my trip! I had posted earlier that in spite of the record cold temps we had the best trip ever. And see, I didn't realize that it was perfectly okay to approach total strangers at a restaraunt and and tell them that the food on their plate is gross. All this time I thought that would rude and in bad taste. Silly me! I didn't realize that I could end up with a best friend if I did that!

Thanks for all the wisdom! You have shown me the light.

jb

Sarcasm just doesn't look good on you...

 

[BLTLDZ]

Ahhh...good ole' disboards...I read the OP hours ago, when it only had two replies...I avoided replying then...Like a previous poster said, it is like a car wreck..can't look away!!! I knew it would become

I see both sides....I always talk to strangers...Sometimes they are receptive, other times they look at you like you have 10 heads

 

[DaisyMaisie]

What did your daughter think about the other young lady's help? Did you ever admit that you knew what it was all along?

 

[watkinsme]

What did your daughter think about the other young lady's help? Did you ever admit that you knew what it was all along?

interesting

 

[momof2n2]

The fact that the other person said, "Isn't it gross," suggests STRONGLY to me that she knew exactly what she was doing. If she had just said, "It's called roe and it is from fish eggs," I would agree she was trying to be helpful.

Sorry she spoiled your daughter's meal.

 

[DisneyRookie2007]

interloper - off with her head !!

Continuing to

 

[branv]

Well ... y'know ... you were the one who posted in the first place. You've got enough time on this board under your belt that you surely must have known that not everyone would instantly and totally agree with you! If you did think that you were 100% correct and that there was no room for error in how you read the situation, then I for one am glad to have helped you on your road to enlightenment!

And, to be fair, the "total stranger" at the restaurant did not "approach you to tell you that the food on your plate is gross." They approached you to tell your daughter what the orange stuff on her sushi was. And when your daughter "looked at her in horror", the stranger went on to commisserate with her by saying, "I know! Isn't it gross!" I'm sure that if your daughter had reacted with, "Oh my gosh really? Cool!", the stranger's response would have been quite different.

And ... well ... you DID technically "use trickery and deception to get [your] daughter to eat something she did not want to eat." You said yourself that "if we shared that detail while we were eating to my picky eater daughter she would not eat any more" (indicating that you knew she was eating something she would not eat if she knew what it was), and that instead of answering her question, "We just sort of changed the subject" (indicating that you hoped that maybe if you didn't answer the question, your daughter would just keep eating -- a common trick used by parents the world over). So yeah ... you may not want to admit it, but you tricked and deceived her. Not in a horrible axe-murderer kind of way, but trickery nonetheless. Kind of like all those parents who say, "No honey -- the drop on Splash Mountain isn't that bad at all."

And just because YOU haven't met a best friend through a chance encounter at a restaurant certainly doesn't mean it's impossible.

ITA.

To be honest, I think the rudest person in this whole scenario was your adult daughter. I know that sounds harsh, but she's really the one who ruined your meal/day. First, her aunt very thoughtfully treats her to a meal for a type of food your daughter has given all indication of being enthusiastic about. When it turns out to be other than she expected, she overreacts and refuses to eat it. Not even try it mind you, but just mentally balks. And not even subtly, but dramatically so, making a big deal out of the event. By doing so, not only is she wasting food when she makes that choice, she is wasting her aunt's money and being unappreciative of her aunt's gesture/gift. And that is what ruined the day.

I think your daughter, not a well-intentioned stranger, owes a big apology to your sister.

 

[Snape]

OP's dd is in her 20's? I thought it was a little kid - now this story is even funnier.

 

[cuchu2005]

Sorry, i don't know if the original poster is right or wrong, but i do know that it is not ok to cut in the middle of a conversation where total strangers did not invite you. That young lady should have kept her comments to herself. Even if she meant no harm.

Imagine the same situation, involving a much more sensitive matter than food, and i think it is not so hard to see that her hijacking the conversation was totally inappropriate.

Mx

 

[DaisyMaisie]

"Imagine the same situation, involving a much more sensitive matter than food, and i think it is not so hard to see that her hijacking the conversation was totally inappropriate."

But it wasn't a sensitive matter. And frankly people shouldn't talk about sensitive matters so loudly that others cannot help but hear. (Like the lady on a cell phone the other day at the supermarket talking about why she needed to buy a certain something in the feminine isle. If I had commented I am not sure I would have been the rude one). But I think we can all agree that if you overhear people at another table talking about something sensitive you should stay out of it.

Someone was asking a seemingly harmless question about something she could answer. I think politely sharing knowledge can be the kind thing to do. Imagine if someone was talking about their plan to leave Epcot and take the bus to the studios so they could ride mission space. Do you really think it would be rude to say "excuse me I couldn't help but overhear..."

 

[sam_gordon]

Sorry, i don't know if the original poster is right or wrong, but i do know that it is not ok to cut in the middle of a conversation where total strangers did not invite you. That young lady should have kept her comments to herself. Even if she meant no harm.

Imagine the same situation, involving a much more sensitive matter than food, and i think it is not so hard to see that her hijacking the conversation was totally inappropriate.

Mx

But on the other hand, if you heard a family discussing the best way to get to a certain attraction, would you simply walk away or would you try to help?

Note: 'attraction' is the first thing that came to mind. It might be how to get to DTD from Epcot, or whether you need special tickets to EMH, or any number of questions about Disney.

 

[Max Webster]

This is why I love public forums so much! If if weren't for you well intentioned people I would never realize that I was using trickery and deception to get my daughter to eat something she did not want to eat. And thanks to all of you I would not have known that I must not love her if I was so willing to use this trickery and deception. I also would not have realized that this had ruined my trip! I had posted earlier that in spite of the record cold temps we had the best trip ever. And see, I didn't realize that it was perfectly okay to approach total strangers at a restaraunt and and tell them that the food on their plate is gross. All this time I thought that would rude and in bad taste. Silly me! I didn't realize that I could end up with a best friend if I did that!

Thanks for all the wisdom! You have shown me the light.

jb

I hate it when I get caught lying to my kids!

 

[AlixaLock]

I have to admit that it's a pet peeve of mine when strangers interject into private conversations ... but I'd call it just that, a pet peeve. And, really, how private is a conversation at a public restaurant?

However, and it's a big however, I just chastised my daughter (age 3) at lunch for saying something on her cousin's plate was "gross." It is highly impolite to call anyone's food "gross." More then impolite, it can be off-putting to one's appetite.

More then anything, OP, I'm glad that you had an overall great trip!

 

[sam_gordon]

I also think the DD's reaction is what prompted the "gross" comment. If her facial reaction would have been "really, I thought it tasted fine", I think the comment doesn't get said.

 

[GinnyEmma]

So the op lies to her daughter and the stranger is rude? If the conversation had been quiet, the stranger wouldn't have even known about it. I have a knack for getting stuck next to loud fallers and I am half deaf. She probably did it in purpose because she had to listen to the stupid conversation in the first place.

Who lies to an adult about their food?! Now that is mean.

 

[wdw&sonny]

When did they start letting "those" people into WDW? I will be there in June. Are "those" people allowed to be there then? How crowded with "those" people will it typically be in June? What if my son asks a question out loud. Will "those" people try to be helpful and answer it? Is there anyway I can reserve WDW for just my family so we are not subjected to the risk that someone else might say something to us?

Seriously, whether it was a rude answer or not, she was answering your daughter's question, which you were not. You put yourself in that position. You had the opportunity at that time to confront her with what you thought. Sorry, you did not get the validation you were looking for by posting this, but maybe next time you will just let it go and GET OVER IT.

 

[Minnie Lor]

Interesting thread. To the OP, I have a niece that's a junior in college. She's the same way. Very immature.

One of the things I love about Disney is all the random conversations. Who hasn't inserted info into a conversation going around you while at Disney. We're crammed in ques, buses, and restaurants so it's to be expected. I'm one of those people, that when I hear people wondering aloud or trying to read a park map or trying to figure out how to get point A from point B, I'll help them.

As to making friends by just a random conversation at WDW - been there, done that. I happened to meet a lady and her husband at F&WF this past year and we hit it off. Turns out she's very good friends with another person that I randomly met at a Disney event. Small World. I know of a view people that met their spouses while in line at WDW.

 

[nyrebecca]

Wow. I never knew how many peoples vacations I ruined by giving them tidbits of info when I tossed myself into their conversations.

I wonder if Disney is going to be taking down all our names and banning us from entering the parks in the future....you know "those" of us who are vacation ruiners.

 

[lajones81]

December 15 was the last day of our vacation and we spent a wonderful day at EPCOT. My daughter is in her second year of college and recently discovered that she likes sushi. My sister was nice enough to treat us to sushi at Tokyo Dining for our last meal before heading out on ME. We had just started enjoying all of the beautiful sushi rolls when my daughter wondered aloud what the orange stuff was. Well, my sister and I were well aware that it was roe, but I knew that if we shared that detail while we were eating to my picky eater daughter she would not eat any more. We just sort of changed the subject. Just then the couple next to us were getting up to leave. The young woman leaned over to my daughter and said "it's fish eggs, I know because I used to work at a Japanese resteraunt!" My daughter looked at her in horror and the woman said "I know, isn't that gross!"

Needless to say my daughter pushed her plate away and didn't eat another bite. My sister planned this lunch especially for my daughter. This stranger's input spoiled our last meal on our vacation.

Why did she think this comment would add any "magic" to our day? ugh!

jb

Frankly, I'd be more upset with my mother, as she knowingly let me eat fish eggs.

 

[ols386]

I have had moments at WDW (and other places as well), where a stranger has jumped into my private conversation that I was having with someone else, and it bothered me, and other times maybe it didn't bother me. It probably mostly depends on my mood at that moment in time, as to whether it bugs me or not.

I can also say that I've been guilty of doing the same thing. Over-hearing someone else's conversation, and butting in by making a comment. I do TRY to be respectful towards others regarding their privacy, but there probably have been times when I've over-stepped.

So, maybe the op just wasn't in the mood, at that moment in time, for a stranger inserting themself into the conversation, and if so, he/she (the op) has the right to feel however they feel.