Who asked for YOUR input???

[GoofyGirl1717]

I would have to agree with the PP(catne). If I had "overheard" the conversation I would never have responded. I am one of those adults who sometimes have to be "tricked" into trying something new. I must admit that I am not as bad as I used to be, but at 20 I was no where near as adventurous.

I am sorry your dinner did not go as well as you had planned.

 

[littlewitch34]

It sucks that someone did that. That same thing happened to me with a friend. She asked what the orange things were, and I looked at her for a second, took a deep breath, and told her.

She made this awful face, pushed it away, and ordered something else.

More sushi for me that I did not have to pay for!

It was rude of her to stick her nose in, but she maybe thought she was being helpful. The "I know, it's gross" this is a bit ridiculous.

I think the responses to this thread are getting a little ridiculous.

 

[DaisyMaisie]

"If the woman was trying to be so helpful I would expect her to use the correct term such as "fish roe" or even cavier, NOT fish eggs."

In hindsight you could have done that in the first place, instead of pretending not to know what it was. Since your daughter is an an adult and all.

 

[MichelleVW]

I will agree that the "gross" comment was a little rude, but the rest of it was not.

 

[mjkacmom]

I will agree that the "gross" comment was a little rude, but the rest of it was not.

I agree with this - and I have some picky eaters (who actually eat some sushi), and when I tell them that they ate something they might not have thought they would like (like fish eggs - and that's what I call them), and they end up liking it, they continue to eat it, because they now know it tastes good.

 

[ols386]

I didn't think that she meant any harm, but I think it is in bad taste to insert yourself into a conversation that you were evesdropping and to make a comment about the food being gross. It's not something I would do.

I guess it's just me..

I'm sure the lady didn't mean any harm either, but it would have bugged me too. I don't really care for it when people insert themselves into my private conversations, not that it was all that private because she must have heard the conversation....but still, I wouldn't have liked it either.

 

[si-am]

A college student is too old to be acting like that.

 

[cluvsdisney]

"If the woman was trying to be so helpful I would expect her to use the correct term such as "fish roe" or even cavier, NOT fish eggs."

In hindsight you could have done that in the first place, instead of pretending not to know what it was. Since your daughter is an an adult and all.

I was thinking the same thing.

Plus, the woman probably didn't expect your daughter to look at her with "horror" when your daughter found out what she was already eating.

 

[kirbsam]

First of all, my daughter has enjoyed sushi in the past and requested to have sushi on our trip. We didn't just take her somewhere that she didn't want to go. Sushi can contain exotic ingrediants such as eel, or it can be pretty westernized like a California roll.

If the woman was trying to be so helpful I would expect her to use the correct term such as "fish roe" or even cavier, NOT fish eggs. And to follow it up by calling it "gross" she was obviously trying to get a reaction, not being helpful.

There was no pouting that went on....the day was not ruined.... Some "helpful" stranger just put a damper on what had been a fun meal.

I think it is totally different share helpful or interesting items with other people and I have done so frequently. There is a difference between telling a fellow diner that there desert looks beautiful, as opposed they are "eating fish eggs, GROSS!"

If you can't see the difference then you must be one of "those" people.

jb

touchy arent we. just because most of us think that you overreacted, we must be one of "those" people? a word of advice, when you feel the need to come on and "further" explain yourself to try to correct all of our thinking, it just adds to the fact that you created drama out of nothing.

 

[derricksonb]

A college student is too old to be acting like that.

Exactly, but the sad truth is that I know many young adults who survived on chicken tenders and french fries and are unwilling to try new culinary experiences.

To be quite honest I can't see assigning blame on the "ruined meal" to the person making the comment. There were several ways in which the OP could have answered the question without offending the young ladies delicate palette or leading her to turn her nose up at the remainder of the plate. IMHO the OP needs accept that this situation could have been avoided by not changing the subject or ignoring the question and own the responsibility.

 

[nmmom95]

Did she not know (in general) what sushi is? She's an adult.

 

[DannyDisneyFreak]

I haven't been on the DIS in a while and seeing threads like this make me smile I love to hear all the different reactions and it's not just another poll about the same ol' same ol' questions ("What is your favorite ride in the MK?") And the diversity of opinions is great!

So anyway... Here is my two cents:

I think that the woman who you viewed as being "nosey" and "butting in" was probably being friendly in her own way. All people are differet and the degree to which people become social with those around them varies by culture, region, upbringing and situation... being that you were in Disney World I typically expect other vacationers to be social and helpful as well as cast members, I have at times overheard obviously first timers in the parks looking for an attraction and have pointed them in the correct direction. Dispite your situation I would say that had I wondered aloud about my sushi and a sushi expert next to me gave me an education about my meal I think that would add to my experience and add "magic" to my day. Isn't that what dining in WS is about? Expanding your cultural culinary experience. I would not have been suprised if a server gave a run down of what was on your plate... If your daughter was still a child I may somewhat agree with you but I think your college age daughter over reacted and put a bigger damper in the experience... but needless to say, that was only one meal and it shouldnt overshadow the rest of the week you shared together... Next time in WS stick with the Liberty Inn and enjoy a cheese burger or I think they have a BP&J sandwich on the kids menu... and eat secretly in a corner so no one else overhears your meal time discussions... I'm just being comical so I hope you don't take offense

 

[GoldieSaysMeep]

I bet she didn't mean any harm. She was trying to be helpful. I may have done the same thing. To be honest, it would have never occured to me that a 19/20 year old may react the way your daughter did.

Yup. I probably would have told her if I knew, assuming that if she ordered it, was eating it, and seemingly enjoying it, that it wouldn't matter what it was.

 

[PolyndianPrincessJes]

I haven't been on the DIS in a while and seeing threads like this make me smile I love to hear all the different reactions and it's not just another poll about the same ol' same ol' questions ("What is your favorite ride in the MK?") And the diversity of opinions is great!

So anyway... Here is my two cents:

I think that the woman who you viewed as being "nosey" and "butting in" was probably being friendly in her own way. All people are differet and the degree to which people become social with those around them varies by culture, region, upbringing and situation... being that you were in Disney World I typically expect other vacationers to be social and helpful as well as cast members, I have at times overheard obviously first timers in the parks looking for an attraction and have pointed them in the correct direction. Dispite your situation I would say that had I wondered aloud about my sushi and a sushi expert next to me gave me an education about my meal I think that would add to my experience and add "magic" to my day. Isn't that what dining in WS is about? Expanding your cultural culinary experience. I would not have been suprised if a server gave a run down of what was on your plate... If your daughter was still a child I may somewhat agree with you but I think your college age daughter over reacted and put a bigger damper in the experience... but needless to say, that was only one meal and it shouldnt overshadow the rest of the week you shared together... Next time in WS stick with the Liberty Inn and enjoy a cheese burger or I think they have a BP&J sandwich on the kids menu... and eat secretly in a corner so no one else overhears your meal time discussions... I'm just being comical so I hope you don't take offense

Maybe she was just trying to commiserate with your daughter with the "gross" comment. Perhaps she'd once been tricked into eating it, too (maybe as Japanese restaurant hazing).

 

[bytheblood]

I would be willing to bet that your silence was seen by the stranger as lack of knowledge. I bet she was trying to be helpful and not ruin her meal.

 

[mdsoccermom]

First of all, my daughter has enjoyed sushi in the past and requested to have sushi on our trip. We didn't just take her somewhere that she didn't want to go. Sushi can contain exotic ingrediants such as eel, or it can be pretty westernized like a California roll.

If the woman was trying to be so helpful I would expect her to use the correct term such as "fish roe" or even cavier, NOT fish eggs. And to follow it up by calling it "gross" she was obviously trying to get a reaction, not being helpful.

There was no pouting that went on....the day was not ruined.... Some "helpful" stranger just put a damper on what had been a fun meal.

I think it is totally different share helpful or interesting items with other people and I have done so frequently. There is a difference between telling a fellow diner that there desert looks beautiful, as opposed they are "eating fish eggs, GROSS!"

If you can't see the difference then you must be one of "those" people.

jb

Really? Would it have made any difference if the woman had said fish roe or caviar? Because it's the same thing as FISH EGGS. Though, while all caviar is roe, not all roe is caviar.

Furthermore, I find it hard to believe that a mature adult had the reaction you mentioned. If she liked what she was eating, why would finding out what it was make a difference? My young children have acted with more grace at some of the funkier things we've made them try.

 

[Deb & Bill]

I'm just surprised at the number of you who don't converse with strangers at WDW. Probably because you think it's rude.

I think the lady who talked to your daughter was just trying to be helpful since you undoubtedly didn't know the answer (or appeared not to know the answer since you didn't answer your own daughter).

I wouldn't have called it caviar either. I see caviar as something the Joe Fox would scrape off the appetizer tray (You've Got Mail). Not something mixed into the sushi.

 

[WDSearcher]

I wouldn't have called it caviar either. I see caviar as something the Joe Fox would scrape off the appetizer tray (You've Got Mail). Not something mixed into the sushi.

Not to mention that the conversation would have probably gone like this:

Buttinsky Stranger: "By the way, I used to work at a Japanese restaurant. That orange stuff on the sushi is fish roe."

OP's Daughter: "What's fish roe?"

Buttinsky Stranger: "You know ... like caviar."

OP's Daughter: "Caviar?"

Buttinsky Stranger: "Fish eggs."

OP's Daughter reacts in horror.

Buttinsky Stranger (reacting to daughter's expression): "I know! Isn't it gross!"

I'm thinking that either way, the daughter will find out that she's eating fish eggs. An alternate scenario might have been:

OP's Daughter: "What is this orange stuff on my sushi?"

OP: "It's fish roe. They use it for decoration. How's it taste?"

OP's Daughter: "Great."

 

[bumbershoot]

I've gotten involved in countless overheard conversations at Disneyland and world, and it's almost always been appreciated and joyful. I don't see it as eavesdropping; I'm not TRYING to hear conversations but if I have something helpful to say to them I'm going to drop the pretense that we can't all hear each other.

Maybe she was just trying to commiserate with your daughter with the "gross" comment. Perhaps she'd been tricked into eating it, too.

Exactly what I was thinking.


I have many friends who will eat ANYTHING. They know what they are eating (they have usually prepared it) and they will eat it.

I, on the other hand, am philosophical about food. When I was 11 the most favorite food I could list was a big ol' liverwurst sandwich from this one exact place. And then I turned 12 and started thinking...liverwurst? Where the heck is this FROM? Ew, it's ground up LIVER????

Never ate it again. Don't care that I found it tasty; the philosophy of eating organ meats is far too disgusting for my Being to deal with.

My mom used to get veal tortollini. Until I really heard the *veal* part. Stopped eating it. Just about flipped out over mahi mahi, but I was talked down with the explanation that it's "dolphin FISH", not dolphin.

And so on and so forth.

I went from a "good eater" as a kid to a vegetarian by the age of 21, because my philosophies finally honed in on "Molly cannot kill an animal and eat it, therefore she should not have others kill animals for her so she can make her tastebuds happy".


I think it's WRONG to keep information about where a particular item comes from. You guys knew she wouldn't want to eat that particular item, and you knew where the item came from...you kept it from her. Not cool.

I admire people who know exactly where each item on their plate comes from and will happily eat it (though not so much those who eat weird things JUST to eat weird things) over those who don't know or don't want to think about it, and you're keeping your grown daughter in the dark!

My goodness, all you had to do was let her know BEFORE ordering, so she could ask to keep the fish eggs off of the sushi roll.

 

[LadyDuchess]

All of these comments about how twenty-somethings shouldn't "behave" in such a manner is quite uncalled for. I hardly think being unable to stomach fish eggs is such a travesty and worthy of such negative comments. She didn't throw a fit, she just lost her appetite with the knowledge.

I first tried sushi when I was about 21. The whole idea of raw fish never appealed to me when I was younger, but I wanted to try. I preferred to NOT know precisely what I was eating. Unfortunately, my date at the time offered up "and that orange stuff is fish eggs," which turned my stomach and kept me from enjoying the rest of my meal. Why was raw fish okay to me, and yet fish eggs not? Who knows! To this day, I will eat sushi, but no one better use the term "fish eggs" while I'm eating it, or else my stomach begins to revolt.

Food can be very psychological. While roe is considered relatively okay to a lot of people, things such as bulls testicles generally aren't. Why? Because there's a psychological aversion to it in many people. Hardly something to be condescending about. Many of the older members of my family refuse to eat certain things based solely on the textures of the food. It's not a "young people" problem, it's just a psychological barrier that some people have.

Now, if the girl threw a fit - and I can't recall her exact reaction, other than simply not continuing to eat - then that I can understand the "Well, she's an adult" comments. But if she just couldn't stomach the knowledge of eating fish eggs, then so be it, everyone's different.

As for the OP, while I agree that it stinks that the woman shared something that you didn't wish shared at that moment, I don't really feel she should be blamed. She didn't know that you didn't wish for it to be shared - while the "gross" comment was lacking in good taste, I don't think any malice was intended. It was just an unfortunate happening, and hopefully your daughter will be able to give sushi another try.