Sorry, but I would pick out my own prom dress, and I would, and did, choose my own wedding dress.
Why would any woman, grandma, MIL, etc. think that that this is something that they should have a real part, say-so, in?
And, yes, I too have the same visceral reaction to little girls in adult 'pageant' dresses.
Veils are creepy, to me. Period..... (not hats or head-dresses)
This is a huge thing for me, personally, What goes into my body, or on my body, are nobody else's business.
[QUOTE="tazdev3225, post: 57188717, member: 188255"My mom chose my communion dress and I despised it. I was so uncomfortable all day. And 50 years later I still remember that more than anything else about the day. When I got married she made my wedding dress and it was not what I wanted but I was able to tolerate it for her sake. I was also forced to wear a veil/tiara type thing on my head. I fought that to the day of the wedding but she cried and I gave in. The second I left the church that thing came off my head. Family and friends tried to get me to put it back on saying "I would regret taking it off in the future when I look at my pictures." it has been almost 36 years and my only regret is putting that thing on my head to begin with.[/QUOTE]
AMEN