What to do in Disney when your husband hates Disney....

[smiths02]

I don't know what your financial or vacation time resources are, but I might take the kids and then plan another family trip somewhere else with DH.

As far as things that might be good to plan:
Pool time?
Bowling at that place at Disney Springs
Movies at Disney Springs
Amphicars at Disney Springs (those are expensive though)
Eating
My DH loved the fishing excursion (so much so that he booked another one the next day)
Mini Golf?

You told us what he likes...what does he hate? heat, crowds, lines, etc. Try to plan around those things as much as possible

Or like others said plan a central Florida or even a Southern California trip and just do the parks a day or two.

 

[LSUmiss]

Yikes. Well it's probably a good thing you only have one child and no personal needs of your own.

I only have one child now, yes. But, I don’t see where that is relevant. Op isn’t talking about things one kid wants to do vs another but what their grown father “wants”. We aren’t talking about needs, but wants. Of course, I have to take care of personal needs. But, yes, my wants come second. Would I rather sit & relax & watch tv or sleep in or whatever? Yes, absolutely! But DS needs to eat, have a bath, be supervised, etc.

 

[Wishing on a star]

We really do not know enough of the detaiils and the dynamic here to make any judgments.
I did happen to ask, "What might the DH like to do with the kids/family".
And, some separate trips/activities are okay!

I did read another recent thread by the OP that was very, very, enlightening.

 

[LSUmiss]

Those of us who've raised kids understand what it is to sacrifice for them -- and how important it is they realize that not every want and every bit of their schedule commands the universe. I shudder to think of the 21 year old who was raised to constantly be the be all end all their entire life. The result would either surely be insufferable or completely unable to cope with the real world.

I said around their “needs”. That’s separate from a vacation.

 

[cabanafrau]

Sorry. Unfortunately, I have seen many men in my experience who fit those portrayals. They wouldn’t be funny to some ppl if they were just outlandish & not in any way realistic. And, in my experiences, it is the moms who bring the kids here & there & do everything & dad gets a pass b/c he “doesn’t like it” or it’s “not with fighting him” blah blah

And some dads learn how to do a mean French braid because their DD needs her hair that way for a performance and mom is GS camping with the other DD.

And some moms then retire from doing French braids in the future because dad is clearly much better at it.

I'm offended on behalf of my husband and all of the other great dads out there who are absolute superstar dads.

 

[LSUmiss]

In her signature, it says her kids are 20, 15, and 12.

Oh. I didn’t look at that.

 

[Wubar]

Sorry. Unfortunately, I have seen many men in my experience who fit those portrayals. They wouldn’t be funny to some ppl if they were just outlandish & not in any way realistic. And, in my experiences, it is the moms who bring the kids here & there & do everything & dad gets a pass b/c he “doesn’t like it” or it’s “not with fighting him” blah blah

Sorry. I will disagree. Just because historically there were more SAHMs as opposed to SAHDs doesn't mean all dads are selfish and apathetic to the needs of others in the family. For every man that fits your selfish portrayal and gets a pass, I'm sure there are plenty of moms that also fit the bill.

 

[AnnaFloridaLover]

Is it? Sometimes it’s better to spread the attention and focus out.

I agree. I had an only child for 9 years before my other children. He wasn't raised to think life revolved around him.

 

[AnnaFloridaLover]

I only have one child now, yes. But, I don’t see where that is relevant. Op isn’t talking about things one kid wants to do vs another but what their grown father “wants”. We aren’t talking about needs, but wants. Of course, I have to take care of personal needs. But, yes, my wants come second. Would I rather sit & relax & watch tv or sleep in or whatever? Yes, absolutely! But DS needs to eat, have a bath, be supervised, etc.

What would you do if you had two or three children and two hated Disney and the other wanted to go?

ETA . And why aren't you and your husband's wants just as important as your child's? Seems like a one way ticket raising a spoiled, insufferable adult.

 

[cabanafrau]

I said around their “needs”. That’s separate from a vacation.

But you're shading OP's husband for not prioritizing his children's vacation choice. They've been to Disney. No harm in finding something that has the potential to be enjoyable to all.

 

[smiths02]

I also think we should give the OPs husband some credit. He did say they can go without him, and I'm taking it that he genuinely means that. I don't know the family resources, but, for our family, it would be a big deal for me financially to take the kids to WDW...it would mean DH would probably not get to go on a vacation that year (or at least not more than a getaway)

 

[mi*vida*loca]

I only have one child now, yes. But, I don’t see where that is relevant. Op isn’t talking about things one kid wants to do vs another but what their grown father “wants”. We aren’t talking about needs, but wants. Of course, I have to take care of personal needs. But, yes, my wants come second. Would I rather sit & relax & watch tv or sleep in or whatever? Yes, absolutely! But DS needs to eat, have a bath, be supervised, etc.

When you have two or more kids they usually don’t agree on anything. What happens if one doesn’t like Disney? Do you never go again?

 

[AnnaFloridaLover]

When you have two or more kids they usually don’t agree on anything. What happens if one doesn’t like Disney? Do you never go again?

Favorite child's wants win.

 

[LSUmiss]

And some dads learn how to do a mean French braid because their DD needs her hair that way for a performance and mom is GS camping with the other DD.

And some moms then retire from doing French braids in the future because dad is clearly much better at it.

I'm offended on behalf of my husband and all of the other great dads out there who are absolute superstar dads.

My DH is absolutely wonderful & does those kinds of things & so was my dad. And I know there are plenty who do. But there are also plenty who don’t. To me that’s the point. I think that’s why I’m so resentful when I see or hear about dads who are selfish. My dad or DH would always go somewhere or do something he didn’t want to do if it was important to the kids or rest of the family & not declare that he’s just not going & leave mom to go alone. The dads I know who do that kinda stuff are selfish & not just in vacation choices. It’s a pervasive attitude that they have & their wives just deal with it. No thanks. Maybe that’s not the case with Op. But, we all respond using our own personal experiences.

 

[LSUmiss]

When you have two or more kids they usually don’t agree on anything. What happens if one doesn’t like Disney? Do you never go again?

That’s not what OP described. I believe in compromise for sure. But not when it’s a grown man who doesn’t want to be with his family when they want him there. What if it was another event & not a WDW vacation?

 

[AnnaFloridaLover]

My DH is absolutely wonderful & does those kinds of things & so was my dad. And I know there are plenty who do. But there are also plenty who don’t. To me that’s the point. I think that’s why I’m so resentful when I see or hear about dads who are selfish. My dad or DH would always go somewhere or do something he didn’t want to do if it was important to the kids or rest of the family & not declare that he’s just not going & leave mom to go alone. The dads I know who do that kinda stuff are selfish & not just in vacation choices. It’s a pervasive attitude that they have & their wives just deal with it. No thanks. Maybe that’s not the case with Op. But, we all respond using our own personal experiences.

Sounds like your father and husband have been dragged around a lot to places they'd rather not be. It's kind of a sad, controlled way to live life, I think. There's nothing wrong with the mom going to Disney or anywhere else with the children who want to go.

 

[mi*vida*loca]

Also no one “needs” to go to Disney. So if Dad doesn’t “want” to go to Disney then maybe no one should go. It can be a wash out.

This Dad has done disney before with his kids. Look disney isn’t for everyone. I know more people who hate the thought of Disney than people who love Disney. I get it.

 

[Wishing on a star]

I am not making the assumption that Disney is the ONLY vacation that would be okay with the kids.
And, reading the other thread I just mentioned was enlightening.
OP, like I had asked, if you and the kids want to vacation with your DH, would there other vacations that he would be happy with???
If he does not feel that he enjoys Disney and does not want to go back on another WDW vacation for this year, what would be some other options?

Giving him a break, and other options, might go a lot further in dealing with this vacation thing than persuading 'coercing' him to come.

 

[AnnaFloridaLover]

That’s not what OP described. I believe in compromise for sure. But not when it’s a grown man who doesn’t want to be with his family when they want him there. What if it was another event & not a WDW vacation?

A grown man should not be controlled by his wife and kids and a grown man should have a say in his own vacation time.

 

[mi*vida*loca]

That’s not what OP described. I believe in compromise for sure. But not when it’s a grown man who doesn’t want to be with his family when they want him there. What if it was another event & not a WDW vacation?

There are things i don’t do with my kids because i don’t like it. They’re old enough to understand that now and one on one time with Dad is good. I’m doing WDW with just DD in November because my SO doesn’t want to go.