What to do in Disney when your husband hates Disney....

[cabanafrau]

My DH is absolutely wonderful & does those kinds of things & so was my dad. And I know there are plenty who do. But there are also plenty who don’t. To me that’s the point. I think that’s why I’m so resentful when I see or hear about dads who are selfish. My dad or DH would always go somewhere or do something he didn’t want to do if it was important to the kids or rest of the family & not declare that he’s just not going & leave mom to go alone. The dads I know who do that kinda stuff are selfish & not just in vacation choices. It’s a pervasive attitude that they have & their wives just deal with it. No thanks. Maybe that’s not the case with Op. But, we all respond using our own personal experiences.

I have news for you, there are plenty of moms out there who are no better. My personal experience shows me that lousy, selfish parents come from both sides of the aisle -- and disliking a Disney vacation doesn't qualify for a nomination for bad parent award by a longshot.

 

[LSUmiss]

I’m not talking about my 21 year old, she doesn’t even live here, but my kids are 14, 14, 16, and 19 (they live here), and they don’t dictate what we do, never have. They’ve all kept us very busy with all of their activities (insanely), but know the world doesn’t revolve around them. Sometimes I might miss a game, because I don’t feel like going. And that’s okay. Early on, we had many weekends with 8 games, different kids, no way to see them all. Who wants to spend all of those hours at the soccer/baseball/flag football fields anyway?

So if they keep you so busy with their activities doesn’t your schedule pretty much revolve around their activities then? That’s all I’m talking about. I feel like most parents do this, but ppl are making it sound like that’s not what anyone does. Yet everyone I know with kids pretty much spends most of their time away from work taking care of their kids in some capacity. To me, that IS revolving your life around your kids. With young kids, did you just eat when you were hungry & not feed your kid at an appropriate time? I’m sure not. That’s is revolving your life around your kids, IMO. Also, you might miss a game b/c you don’t feel like going. But what if your kid said he/she really wanted you there?

 

[cabanafrau]

Favorite child's wants win.

Absolutely!

 

[morgan98]

That’s not what OP described. I believe in compromise for sure. But not when it’s a grown man who doesn’t want to be with his family when they want him there. What if it was another event & not a WDW vacation?

If they really want to be with their Dad and that is so important to them, then skip Disney and spend some time together doing something else. Not everyone in a family has to be attached at the hip 100% of the time (thank goodness, I may add).

Disney vacations are expensive and really do make some people miserable. I don't understand why the Dad has to do that. They have already been to Disney together.

 

[AnnaFloridaLover]

There are things i don’t do with my kids because i don’t like it. They’re old enough to understand that now. I’m doing WDW with just DD in November because my SO doesn’t want to go.

My daughter and I went to see the Greatest Showman movie last night. Her father didn't want to go because he doesn't like musicals. Since he's a grown man, I didn't force him to join us. He did take the the bunch to see Star Wars last week. I declined the invitation. Everyone is happy.

 

[LSUmiss]

I have news for you, there are plenty of moms out there who are no better. My personal experience shows me that lousy, selfish parents come from both sides of the aisle -- and disliking a Disney vacation doesn't qualify for a nomination for bad parent award by a longshot.

No I agree that there are definitely selfish moms too. It’s not that he doesn’t like WDW. It’s that the kids & his wife are really disappointed & it’s just too bad.

 

[neverlandsky]

I would never give my kids that much power. Gosh my kids can't even agree on dinner. I can't even imagine. I don't think there's anything in my house that all 4 people will say yes or no to. Very rarely.

Here's the thing, for us it's not about power, it's about compromising and finding solutions.

 

[sam_gordon]

Sam, NOT biting...

I don't get it. It's not a trap, it's a legitimate question.

Providing links to things also would come in handy. Especially if you're going to repeatedly mention them.

I did read another recent thread by the OP that was very, very, enlightening.

And, reading the other thread I just mentioned was enlightening.

What's wrong with quotes and links?

As you know, when you quote someone, they get notified you did so. Do you not want someone to know you quoted them?

 

[LSUmiss]

My daughter and I went to see the Greatest Showman movie last night. Her father didn't want to go because he doesn't like musicals. Since he's a grown man, I didn't force him to join us. He did take the the bunch to see Star Wars last week. I declined the invitation. Everyone is happy.

It’s not about liking different things. It’s that op said the kids are really disappointed.

 

[mi*vida*loca]

Here's the thing, for us it's not about power, it's about compromising and finding solutions.

Well my kids are 6 years apart and different sexes. The stars and heavens have to align for everyone to say yes to something. So at times someone won’t go or someone will go and not be happy about it. But if i waited for all yeses all the time we wouldn’t get crap done.

 

[mi*vida*loca]

It’s not about liking different things. It’s that op said the kids are really disappointed.

They’ll get over it. It’s Disney! I honestly believe once they are there all will be forgotten.

 

[morgan98]

No I agree that there are definitely selfish moms too. It’s not that he doesn’t like WDW. It’s that the kids & his wife are really disappointed & it’s just too bad.

Well it is too bad that even though the Dad has expressed the fact that he does not want to go to Disney, the rest of the family wants to FORCE him to go instead of finding another way to be together. Sounds like Disney is more important that Dad.

 

[mi*vida*loca]

My daughter and I went to see the Greatest Showman movie last night. Her father didn't want to go because he doesn't like musicals. Since he's a grown man, I didn't force him to join us. He did take the the bunch to see Star Wars last week. I declined the invitation. Everyone is happy.

I’m sending my kids to see that alone. I have no interest. Lol

 

[cabanafrau]

No I agree that there are definitely selfish moms too. It’s not that he doesn’t like WDW. It’s that the kids & his wife are really disappointed & it’s just too bad.

What if he's truly disappointed they don't want to spend all day at a Nascar race he absolutely loves? He may genuinely want to share that experience with them and be very disappointed they choose not to be there. He can go without them, but what if one of his deepest wishes is to share that experience with them? Because he's an adult is it acceptable to simply write his wish off?

 

[LSUmiss]

What would you do if you had two or three children and two hated Disney and the other wanted to go?

ETA . And why aren't you and your husband's wants just as important as your child's? Seems like a one way ticket raising a spoiled, insufferable adult.

I’m not talking about vacation anymore. That post was in response to another. My wants do not trump my DS’s needs. That’s not spoiling IMO, that’s parenting.

 

[cabanafrau]

My daughter and I went to see the Greatest Showman movie last night. Her father didn't want to go because he doesn't like musicals. Since he's a grown man, I didn't force him to join us. He did take the the bunch to see Star Wars last week. I declined the invitation. Everyone is happy.

I’m sending my kids to see that alone. I have no interest. Lol

We went to see it last week. I was on the fence about it. Unbelievably good movie. Finally a wonderful new musical.

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

I’m not talking about vacation anymore. That post was in response to another. My wants do not trump my DS’s needs. That’s not spoiling IMO, that’s parenting.

I think parenting is also teaching junior that his wants don’t always trump Mom’s or Dad’s. They need to learn to compromise too. When kids don’t learn compromise, they become entitled.

 

[Wishing on a star]

Wow, maybe I should try to go see it!
I have been intrigued.
Not sure I am crazy about the female lead, though???

 

[mi*vida*loca]

We went to see it last week. I was on the fence about it. Unbelievably good movie. Finally a wonderful new musical.

Hmmmm maybe I’ll try it but I’m sure my SO will pass. But that’s ok !

My son is 17 and really wants to see it which is unusual for him.

 

[AnnaFloridaLover]

We went to see it last week. I was on the fence about it. Unbelievably good movie. Finally a wonderful new musical.

We loved it too. The movie kept making my daughter and I cry. It was just so emotional.