What should I do??

[Braxtonsmom03]

Whats ironic about this whole thing is at one point weren't you trying to figure out how YOU could get 5 in a room for 4?! That is what you said you got your "Dis beatdown" from isn't it?

 

[dementia412]

lisadr, its not breaking the rules not to stay at the camp site (although there was a very long debate about people doing something like that to get free dinning and many people did have a problem with someone taking a room they weren't using), but its breaking the rules if he then actually stays at the other resort with his wife.

 

[dementia412]

Whats ironic about this whole thing is at one point weren't you trying to figure out how YOU could get 5 in a room for 4?! That is what you said you got your "Dis beatdown" from isn't it?

Yeah, and I WAS WRONG.

 

[Woodpackmom]

I'm sure this could turn into a big flame throwing debate BUT...I don't think that she has to explain why her mother should or shouldn't come. Thats not what she's asking... She simply wants to know if anyone has been in this situation and what they have done. If you don't feel she's right with what she's considering then don't post back. It won't affect you either way! I can imagine if I were in her postion and I spent all my time with my mom and made these plans and paid for a plane ticket with her name on it then "univiting" her that would just be plain out mean! I understand that she does not get to see her husband as often as others may but her mom is her main support system at home and I'm sure she would like to spend time with her grandchildren Especially OP if you were once flamed at by other dis'ers did you like it? why would you want her to feel the way you did?
I think that Lisa's idea is a great one!

WOW!!! I certainly didn't expect such a heated response!!
Let me first say braxtonsmom03...thank you for the above...you are right on track with everything you said.

Dementia412.... I don't know why you are soooo mad and angry, interesting that you called me "stupid" and a "cheater" without knowing all the facts...as you so eloquently pointed out. It is just not in my nature to respond further to what you said...sorry I pushed a button.

Everyone else who responded..thanks so much for your KIND words and brainstorming...I am by no means trying to "cheat" and since I posted have been searching for different options. I just wasnt' sure how stringent they were about the EMH with a 3 year old... I really did just want some opinions and options about what I should do as SOG has no more availabilty.
My husband and I have a very strong relationship, we've been married for almost 15 years, together for 19...I DID in fact consult him on the vacation plans...and HE was the one who suggested I "just book for you guys" and he would make it if he could and we would take it from there. Luckily he has been able to be home for both Thanksgiving and Christmas (for a good stretch for Christmas too). Even if my mom wasn't going, we'd be sharing the room with my kids, oldest being 13 so it's not like it was going to be a romantic getaway anyway!!
Thanks again for all the (nice) responses!!

 

[Woodpackmom]

I can't imagine sharing a double bed with my DH and a 3 1/2 year old at the same time. I would not get any sleep at all.

You know, if you live in a different state than your DH, I'm sure you value your time with him when you do get to see him. Do what you need to do to include him and make his trip enjoyable.
As for the card, I bet Disney enforces that---I would not take any chances---why possibly ruin your trip, or have to take time dealing with a problem when you get there? I also agree that the inexpensive camp site rental sounds like a reasonable and affordable option for you. I hope you can work it all out, and that you and your DH have a nice visit with each other. Just out of curiosity---has your mother made any suggestions at all, considering the circumstances? I would definately put your DH's needs at a priority.
Have a nice trip.

I am sure I will work it all out... My DH isn't worried about it, he is just happy that he'll be there with us. We are making sacrifices for these 2 years, which included having my mom around more than we might want...but she is extremely important to us and has done so much for us....the LEAST we could do is include her in our Disney trip!

 

[dementia412]

Well I was about to come on and tell the OP that I hoped she didn't feel bashed and that my argument is more with Brax, but whatever.

Yes you are trying to cheat, and you were asking if Disney would likely catch you. And yes it is stupid to post a question asking if Disney will catch you cheating, and not expect negative responses. I am also not angry about your post, but I was a bit miffed about Brax which caused me to leave a very stupid post about leaving your dh out. I'm sorry about that and I shouldn't have responded back to that person at all.

I also don't care if you cheat, but you are cheating don't try to lie now. The whole point of your post was to ask if Disney would catch you cheating. How do you think having an extra person in the room or taking someone without a room ticket to EMH isn't cheating?

The point about your mom isn't that it isn't romantic. If you want her in your room that's no skin off my back even if I think its weird. People think I'm weird all the time, but the point was that taking her is what is causing your problem. So, why not leave her home? It might seem mean to say sorry mom you can't go, but unless she is pure evil I'm sure she would understand you wanting your husband to be there instead of her if its one or the other.

 

[Woodpackmom]

I guess my thought was that if I had 3 adults and 2 kids and the "extra" person was my 3 year old daughter....who was I "cheating" at the EMH? It's not like I'm trying to get an adult in, it's not like she'd be there without us?!

and to answer your question...no, I didn't expect negative responses...yours was the only negative one. I'm sorry that you think it's "weird" for me to include my mom in my vacation...I work 12 hour night shifts and she has been caring for my 3 kids while I work for the past year..and will continue to do so for the next year...why would I tell her she can't come? She deserves this vacation just as much as my husband and I do....She was just sooo not the point of my question.
I certainly am not angry at you, I just feel sort of judged and attacked by you when I really was just asking for some brainstorming help on a board where lots of people do just that.
So I'm curious...do you think all the "sharing" of photopasses, etc "cheating" too??

 

[fireflymedic]

Did not catch when you were going, but your hubby can get a fla. discount, I just booked a room for Jan. for $50 (special there running now is for jam and feb) also gets discount on tickets,

that would even give you and your hubby a room to go to so you could have some privacy and not wory about messing up the sheets

 

[Woodpackmom]

Did not catch when you were going, but your hubby can get a fla. discount, I just booked a room for Jan. for $50 (special there running now is for jam and feb) also gets discount on tickets,

that would even give you and your hubby a room to go to so you could have some privacy and not wory about messing up the sheets

Where is this deal? Problem is though is that he isn't considered a florida resident by disney standards because she doesn't have a fl ID. He has a lease for an apartment..but apparently that isn't enough, which I think is a little crazy. So if that deal is for residents he can't do that! But please tell me where it is!

 

[fireflymedic]

Well now I re-read and you are going in Jan so they do have discounts for Fla. residents so maybe you can afford $50 extra a day, you can safe some on tickets for him going that way too.

I dont like DW policy on the young kids needing a bed for thimselfs, exspecialy if your in a mod, or delux with the queen size beds, My 2 yr old wants to sleep with us in our bed at home, and the three yr. old likes to sleep on the floor beside our bed )well he would like to be in the bed but bed aint big enough for the whole family_ any way my point is if a kid sleeps on a couch or floor at home why cant they do it there

 

[fireflymedic]

I'm pretty sure I read military in fla. is elegeable I will check and be right back

 

[Woodpackmom]

Well now I re-read and you are going in Jan so they do have discounts for Fla. residents so maybe you can afford $50 extra a day, you can safe some on tickets for him going that way too.

I dont like DW policy on the young kids needing a bed for thimselfs, exspecialy if your in a mod, or delux with the queen size beds, My 2 yr old wants to sleep with us in our bed at home, and the three yr. old likes to sleep on the floor beside our bed )well he would like to be in the bed but bed aint big enough for the whole family_ any way my point is if a kid sleeps on a couch or floor at home why cant they do it there

My point exactly...and 10 months ago (when she was not 3 yet) it was ok that she was there with the same amount of people...YES, my mom went then too!!! LOL (and the beds are queen size)
So i guess if that deal is for Florida residents then I guess I'm out of luck, unless a florida resident can "sponsor" him sort of like you can at SOG.
What resort is that deal for?

 

[Woodpackmom]

I'm pretty sure I read military in fla. is elegeable I will check and be right back

OOOOHHH I hope so!!!!

 

[vcr]

They will not have a problem with your 3 1/2 not having a key. I've never had a problem with it, they assume that my 3 year old is not quite 3 and I've never been asked to show a room key (and yes she still gets in free so bash away). You might have trouble finding a discount room at the last minute and not all Jan dates have the discount. If they do have it, can't your DH get a Florida drivers license since he resides here at the moment?

 

[Woodpackmom]

They will not have a problem with your 3 1/2 not having a key. I've never had a problem with it, they assume that my 3 year old is not quite 3 and I've never been asked to show a room key (and yes she still gets in free so bash away). You might have trouble finding a discount room at the last minute and not all Jan dates have the discount. If they do have it, can't your DH get a Florida drivers license since he resides here at the moment?

LOL....I have a thick skin myself... the bashing didn't bother me!

I suppose he could get a license..but what a PIA ya know?

Have you been recently? (about the key thing)

 

[Woodpackmom]

Any news on that discount??

 

[fireflymedic]

I could have swore I saw it in a FAQ at disney site and I thought I rember it saying milatary based in Fla. quilified (not sure if you showed orders or what). But cant find it now, I hate there site cant find any thing there without jumping around so much.

If you called and they said no, I guess its no.

I left a ??? in the Disney Moms (run by disney) forum and asked thim will post any thing they reply with hear.

He could certenly get a Fla. DL with no problem. I know i'm going to get flamed for this one, but we are required to have a Fla. DL for my job (driving a fire truck or ambalance) we are very close to alabama so we had a guy who lived in AL had to get a FL. DL just for work, he still has his alabama one as you have to have a DL in the state your car is regestered and were you reside so he has 2 DLs a FL and AL one

 

[Tink-aholic]

I am surprised that no one has suggested this: have you considered staying off-site instead? We always stay on site, so I know everything you'll be missing (namely the EMH). But you'll probably be able to get 2 rooms cheaper at a hotel, get a large condo, or even a house with a pool (and kitchen facilities).

If it means more room for the same money, it might help you spend time with your family, romantic time with your DH, and make your mom feel welcome all at the same time. That is worth more than EMH, IMHO. And better than going against established rules.

Whatever you do, good luck and have fun!

 

[mommyofboys]

I know it doesn't help - but here is what I found...

-- Offsite visitors are not allowed to participate in Extra Magic Hours at the parks. Each guest over the age of 3 must present either a Disney resort Key to the World Card, or a Shades of Green, Swan/Dolphin or Downtown Disney Hilton room key to receive a color-coded bracelet. These bracelets are regularly checked at points throughout the park, and then again before getting into a line for an attraction. If a guest does not have a bracelet, the guest will be politely asked to move toward the front of the park and the exit. --

But could your dd pass as a 2 year old for those few EMH days?

 

[disneyjunkie]

What happens when your daughter isn't allowed on a ride because she doesn't have a room key? If the CMs do their job, someone in your party won't be able to enjoy EMHs.


Why do so many people feel the need to find a way around the rules? If your child is 3 they should have a ticket.

Maybe they should start requiring everyone 1 and over to purchase tickets.

Of course if that happens, we'll have post after post of folks complaining about how greedy disney is.