He is taking one point, the money, and making my post all about that. A lot of people with different body types actually struggle to find clothing that fit properly. It is easy for an average shaped person to say, "just go get something to wear", when that is not a reality for some people. Of course that is not the bridal couple's problem, but this comes down to, is it really that important what color someone is wearing to your wedding reception(of course I am not talking about wearing a white dress so lets drop that already)? When a couple is more concerned with what their pictures look like than they are about celebrating their wedding with friends and family, you wonder what the point of the wedding is.
Yeah but that's not really what that particular post of yours was about although I can understand your frustration.
For financials it's less of a problem when you're talking about most commonly thought of guest wedding attire and even less when you're talking about casual. All of my more nice dresses have been bought on the cheap just getting deals. I have a formal length ball gown style I bought for one of my husband's holiday parties (that I wore once I might add) that was $35 at Macy's. I have a great flapper style beaded dress (though it's heavy) that I bought inexpensive as well, originally bought for my husband's work party but I did wear it to a wedding as well. I wasn't wealthy nor rich here.
I haven't spent much at all on any one item of clothing except back in high school for my two proms and 1 homecoming dress (I remember the prom being $100 or so although I had a JCP employee discount that helped). I've been to the stores over the last few months and all have been having sales on formal dresses be it prom, cocktail, or wedding attire.
People have been going to weddings for forever, I don't think we can talk about body types and such as far as that being the limiting factor as a norm. I'm a short person with no waist with a large chest....I know how it can be (maxi dresses are never ever going to work for me as much as I'd love to and I have to be careful about wear a waist seam is, empire waists if there's a seam work the best) and I still could manage to find something to wear that wasn't green, white, gold or blue. Blue is my fav color and so I have a lot of that, green looks great on me as it pulls the green out of my eyes even more. I stay away from white a lot because it can get dirty (and it's a wedding so you know) and gold ehh I don't have much of that at all. But two of my best colors are in the no go list and I could still find something to work. I bought a lovely under $20 more wintery fabric dress two falls ago (it was an online return admittedly that the store reduced even more due to that but it was bought at Khol's) that I wore to a December wedding.
My husband is 6 ft 5 1/2 inches and needs tall but not big for shirts, late last year he bought three Charles Tyrwhitt dress shirts for under $100 total for all 3 those were tall and slender.
If someone really really really can't abide wear the clothing even if it's been requested not but you'll probably see majority of couples shrug it off in the end especially the farther away from the wedding couple you are in relationship.
I'm with you on the understanding that some requests are a burden but not all requests are of the same gravity and for the majority of the people it's not going to be a big deal in the end to try and avoid certain colors, it's just chafing people to have a direct request in there.
Back to the money part I think talking about some of the extra wedding events (even traditional ones like bachelorette) that require a lot of heavy financial investment and time and done frequently (due to number of people someone knows that is getting married) are better served for your wealthy, rich, conversation IMO.