That is why I was careful with my wording. Big difference between someone not going because they can’t find an appropriate dress or can’t afford one and someone not going because they don’t like the request or find it rude.
That is the crux here isn't it? Why would anyone want to make their guest, whom you have to assume are either family or friends, feel left out or uncomfortable over something like an outfit color? Why is that more important to the bride and groom than their family or friends and having them there to celebrate with them?
Surely that was fake, right? No one could be that bad. LOL
"Request" <> "Demand". Just like an invitation might say "So and so REQUESTS the honor of your presence... " is that a demand also?
Couldn't someone use this argument (many people are not rich and have trouble finding clothes they like) to wear sandals, shorts, and a t-shirt to a "black tie" wedding?
And you don't think that there will be people, especially the younger ones, who won't look at the odd person out and snicker about them about how they couldn't follow the "request"? In a perfect world, where everyone is nice, this wouldn't be an issue. But also in a perfect world, the couple would not put "requests" like this out to their friends and family. The thought would never even pop into my head to ask my guests to wear a certain outfit or color. And your comment about the black tie, if you know that your family and friends are not wealthy and would not be able to afford to buy that kind of clothing just for your wedding, then don't have a wedding where you alienate your family. Why are you having a wedding celebration to begin with if you want to alienate and make your friends and family uncomfortable. I wouldn't go to those types of wedding that only want the "rich" friends and family. I guess then you would know the type of people they are.
Whoops - I misread!
I think it is unfair to draw that conclusion. It could be ignorance. They may see it as a fun way for everyone to participate without realizing how it may affect a certain subset of their invitees. I guess I give them the benefit of the doubt.
Who cares what other guests think?
For the fourth or fifth time, THEY DIDN'T ASK GUESTS TO WEAR A CERTAIN COLOR. Would you wear a white dress to wedding if you were comfortable in it?
So no party, and let's be honest, this covers more than weddings, should have a dress code? I mean, you might alienate some of your friends or family if you request "black tie", or "business casual", or even "Hawaiian" (I mean, you can't expect me to go out and buy a Hawaiian shirt, right?).
You and I are not going to agree on this, that is fine. I tend to look at the big picture on things and I have too much experience dealing with all kinds of people to not know who others think. So many live in a tiny bubble and don't see all of the possibilities and consequences. My mind goes everywhere, but I have realized that not everyone's mind does that.
OK, you look at the "big picture".
Not a fan of the arms, but I love that colour!
I think that you are missing my point. It has long been standard for people to not wear white to a wedding other than the bride. No one ONLY owns white clothing. Honestly, you are never going to understand my point so I am no longer responding to you.
I will say there was a poster who said "Black and white is always right. I would wear white slacks with a black and white print blouse." but even saying a white print blouse and white slacks is getting close to opting to wear white to a wedding. And they further commented that it wouldn't violate the bride's rules since it was a black and white combination rather than an actual white dress. While true it's not an actual white dress seems like one could find some other color combination in that situation and save what is probably a lovely ensemble for another event. But that's just my opinion.
But I'm still super-curious about why they would specify shoes at all. Another poster mentioned possible ground conditions. If it was that though, wouldn't that be more like advice or a caution about the site, rather than an actual request to wear certain shoes? 
C'mon @RedAngie - don't leave me hanging...
Where are they getting married ? Outdoors? My niece is getting married this month outdoors in a forest/ wood setting so they recommended more comfy shoes…flats, san, wedged heel etc so people don’t sink into the ground. Stiletto type heels would not work.
