*Updated**Uggggggh! Friends we are meeting in WDW are making me crazy! Hugs, please..

[tlbwriter]

Hmm... I am sensing a trend here. If a friend or family lives near Orlando then the probability that someone will visit them at thier own home as is normal when seeing family and friends is signifigantly reduced due to the proximity of Disney World. Apparently for many people, not all but many, a day at Disney World is more important than family or friends that live in the area. Interesting priorities for folk that go to a family oriented destination.

There's a difference between going to visit someone and going on a vacation to a destination that happens to be near a friend's house. If I'm going to visit you, I visit you. But if I'm going on vacation, and you live nearby, I might say "Hey! Come join me!" And your remark about the "family oriented" destination doesn't make sense - why is it "interesting" that people who go to a "family oriented" destination are primarily interested in spending quality time with their families?

 

[jann1033]

WOW, this saga is sooo sad. I have a friend who visits us every time we go. My son and her son have gotten to be close solely by meeting in Disney every year. Her family always plans around us and usually makes ADR's with us. If we have something special planned(like the hoopdedoo) they just go their own way. Two years ago they upgraded to an AP because it was Easter, Last year they bought tickets for universal instead because the weekend they could come, that was on our itinerary. Now I agree, I have gone with family, and it can get "overwhelming". But it is so worth it. If you are truly that close, then you should not be so stressed. Try to make it work, it is only a day or two, and you never know what the future will bring.

yeah we've also taken trips with those kind and it's been great but they all aren't "those" kind sorry to say.
edited to add
"friendship

friend·ship [ frénd shìp ] (plural friend·ships)
noun
... mutually friendly feelings: the mutual feelings of trust and affection and the behavior that typify relationships between friends..."
italics added..imo the"friend's" behavior isn't all that "friendly"!.
we have friends that come to our area ..if we both have time, we see each other if not , well we'll do it next time..i would never expect them to put their life on hold for me( not that maybe they wouldn't do it but i wouldn't expect them to do it)

 

[dreamalittledream]

To the OP, I feel your pain and can hopefully offer this advice. Make plans to meet at MK, not at the resort. Unless of course you know that they are they type of people who will be on time.
Have them call you when they get into MK otherwise you could be waiting around for them due to traffic or buying tickets or whatever. It would just increase your anxiety about the day to have to wait around before the day even starts. Also if it is an EMH morning, they couldn't get in anyway.

Have fun on your trip.

 

[kathylovesdisneyworl]

There's a difference between going to visit someone and going on a vacation to a destination that happens to be near a friend's house. If I'm going to visit you, I visit you. But if I'm going on vacation, and you live nearby, I might say "Hey! Come join me!" And your remark about the "family oriented" destination doesn't make sense - why is it "interesting" that people who go to a "family oriented" destination are primarily interested in spending quality time with their families?

Couldn't have said it better.

 

[Pedler]

There's a difference between going to visit someone and going on a vacation to a destination that happens to be near a friend's house. If I'm going to visit you, I visit you. But if I'm going on vacation, and you live nearby, I might say "Hey! Come join me!" And your remark about the "family oriented" destination doesn't make sense - why is it "interesting" that people who go to a "family oriented" destination are primarily interested in spending quality time with their families?

The part that I find interesting is that out of a long (anything a week or more) vacation at Disney that some people wouldn't be able to carve out a day to visit a friend or family member and do whatever they want. I was just observing that if you were to move to Orlando you could probably bet that people would be less likely to want to spend a day away from you if that day did not center around Disney. All I am observing is that it appears that a day at Disney is more important than a day with family or friends in the area.

 

[Amy&Dan]

The part that I find interesting is that out of a long (anything a week or more) vacation at Disney that some people wouldn't be able to carve out a day to visit a friend or family member and do whatever they want. I was just observing that if you were to move to Orlando you could probably bet that people would be less likely to want to spend a day away from you if that day did not center around Disney. All I am observing is that it appears that a day at Disney is more important than a day with family or friends in the area.

The OP is spending time with family, her husband and daughter! I don't think she is going to WDW to be selfish and therefore can't make time for this friend, she is going to WDW to spend time with the most important people in her life, her spouse and kid(s). To me the bottom line is that taking quality time away from WDW to spend time with a friend who trashed her kid, probably isn't something she considers a priority. Its not like she is ignoring a dying family member who lives in Orlando, she is wary about spending time with a person who sounds a bit nasty.

 

[tlbwriter]

All I am observing is that it appears that a day at Disney is more important than a day with family or friends in the area.

How do you keep missing the fact that she is at Disney with her family, on a family vacation, that she is taking with her family?

 

[crusin'minnie]

What a post!!! My BF lives 50min from WDW and I used to spend 2 days with her on each trip and then she and her family would usually join us for a meal sometime during our stay. Unfortunately her DH is a jerk. He hates all things Disney and is a totally ungracious host. He acted like he could not wait for us to leave and then complained because I came all the way to FL and I did not spend enough time with BF. He has caused it to be an issue with her.

I finally decided that although I love my BF, I only have a certain # of vacation days each year and I'll be darned if I will spend them with him. So now I only tell her I'm going about 50% of the time. I invite her and her "family" to join us at the resort for a day (knowing her DH will not come).

Life is just too short to waste your time with miserable people. Sometimes they are your family and you don't have much choice, but friends you have complete control over.

OP- it just sounds to me that (WDW aside) she is not a very good friend. I think I would ask myself if I really wanted to continue this relationship. I have never made a nasty comment about a friend's child. Nor would I tolerate one making a comment about one of my girls.

It you do go ahead and meet her I agree with the previous poster that you need to give yourself permission to bail at any time.

 

[Nancyg56]

Life is just too short to waste your time with miserable people. Sometimes they are your family and you don't have much choice, but friends you have complete control over.

OP- it just sounds to me that (WDW aside) she is not a very good friend. I think I would ask myself if I really wanted to continue this relationship. I have never made a nasty comment about a friend's child. Nor would I tolerate one making a comment about one of my girls.

It you do go ahead and meet her I agree with the previous poster that you need to give yourself permission to bail at any time.[/QUOTE

Totally agree with you!

I also think that the real issue for the OP is the rude comments about her DD. I would find it hard to get past that. I would never tolerate any mean comments about my family, and I would never make any unkind comments to a friend of mine. An 11 day vacation is a long enough time to carve away a day, if you really want to....I don't think OP really wants to, just feels that she has to. So...OP, I am with the some of the previous posters, if you meet her, be prepared to run if you need to. This may be the time that you need to decide if this is a friend, or just an aquaintance that you used to spend time with.