UPDATE #3: Alas, my poor heart is broken...

[Maleficent13]

Take it from a girl: if you're not embellishing her actions, then she's definitely into you, and after that conversation went back to her friends and said: "UGH! He came and talked to me and he's SOOO cute and do you think he'll EVER ask me out??? Do you think I should ask HIM out? Why does this have to be so hard???!!!"

So give the girl a break and ask her for coffee! Come on, you can do it! After all, you defend our country...how hard can it be to ask out a little, itty, bitty, girl???

Just trying to rile you into action!

 

[Jolie C]

And as other people posted earlier, the uniform couldn't hurt! (Okay, I know, it would probably be weird to wear it around campus without a good reason, but guys in uniform are so.... Um... well, this is a family board... )

 

[airhead]

Ask her if she'd like to go for a coke or coffee with you! You're a
cutie,she'll go!

 

[Microcell]

Girl here- she is waiting for you to make the first move! A proper girl is gonna do that! DUH, you boys sometimes need to be battered over the head to get a point!

Is she Brittish? You could ask her where she is from and how far away it is from where you are. Ask her questions about the country, or whatever country she is from. Also you could talk to her about the class you are in. If American you could talk to her about how the chips they have there in no way compare to French Fries from Mickey D's. You could talk about being hungry and seeing if she wants to partake of those aforementioned bad chips.

The uniform is a, well, I can't say here just what it can do to a girl, but save that until you get to know her better. If there are times you have to wear it to school, fine, but don't wear it special to impress her. I have bad memories of a boy who liked me (it was unreciprocated mind you) and he did a whole Officer and a Gentleman thing in HS where he got dressed up in a ROTC outfit and came into the middle of my class to give me a rose- picture me melting into my seat saying, no let me keep working in the factory, for the love of pete!!!! That was horrid! But if it is a guy I like and he nonchalantly is wearing it, hubba hubba. Just remember, no embarassing displays of affection before you know her well. You look like a cutie, no worries!

 

[Microcell]

Originally posted by Serena
You're in the same class???? Study for goodness sakes. Ask her for help in understanding something and then ask if you two can study together. Ask her for coffee, whatever and study together. And start out by really studying.

Serena you hit it right on the noggin!!!!

You gotta take it slow to start. I will never forget going to the movies with a "friend" under the guise of freindship and then his hand glided over to mine, i was shocked and didn't know what to do. You really have to study then after an evening of talking you can ask her out on a date.

 

[minniepumpernickel]

Yeah, I agree with airhead. If you have a coffee house nearby or some type of preferably quiet place that you can ask her to go to. I'm sure that she'll go with you.

You already have one thing in common atleast, the class. I don't remember did you say what type of class it is? Hopefully not something like "Human Sexuality" or "Deviance". I actually had a class called Deviance in college. I mean because you want to make the conversation light and casual for your first meeting.

Let her talk as much as you can. She'll think that you are a great listener. Everyone loves a great listener, so maybe that'll help.

I've never followed one of these types of threads before. It's fun!

Good luck!

 

[DCLuvinit]

Maybe stop by early one afternoon, chat for a bit, then mention that you were just heading up to such-and-such restaurant, and see if she would like to join you....and, yes, I also agree the uniform thing is , but let her see you in it one day, if she hasn't already before you ask her out.

 

[stevenpensacola]

this might be a little off topic, but when I look at some of the people I work with and discover that they're married, you realize that there reallly is someone out there for everybody...

 

[Jolie C]

I'll go off topic with you, stevenpensacola, and agree that it is weird when you find out someone is married and you didn't know they were, and I think it's REALLY weird when you know someone is married and then when you finally meet their spouse, they look NOTHING like what you were expecting.

 

[Serena]

LOL, Vamp, the update is good. Keep going, you can do this.

 

[Maleficent13]

VampHeartless! I get off work in an hour and a half and I won't have the dis for three more days! I need an update! Did ya ask her?

 

[tkd lisa]

Vamp, I wanted to give a different opinion on the uniform. Yes, she'd probably like it. But if you've taken your anti-terrorism training, they tell you NOT to wear it off base. That's for good reason. You shouldn't make yourself a target.

Anyway, good luck with the girl. I agree, she does sound interested. Start with asking about studying (hey, what did you think about question x on the homework, or what did you think about topic y the prof was talking about today). The "what did you think, or did you know before the teacher said" starters can get you beyone a yes or no answer and into a real conversation.

 

[VampHeartless]

Rgr that on the uniforms...how did you know about anti terrorism training?

Anyways, to update, I had to go to class late because of work, and so I went in and asked to take the quiz and the teacher said just wait until next week. Well, she finished as I was talking, and left right behind me. I was driving away, and saw her walking, and was gonna give her a ride to her car, (half mile, cross base,) but I totally chickened out. I was feeling nervous and sick that day, (still not sure if it was the girl making me feel that way, or the salad.) Anyways, I'll try again Tuesday, unless I can think of a reason to stop by the college office again monday.

btw...this is good therapy! If I talk about here, I don't tell people at work so much, which is good 'cause they're all blabbermouths.

 

[Jolie C]

I've been wondering where you were! Keep us updated because this is a fun thread!

 

[Maleficent13]

Whew! Thanks, VampHeartless! I'm headed off to the weekend now. I'll be checking in on Tuesday!

 

[edcrbnsoul]

OK I been reading for awhile and just have too add in a guys opinion, I actually agree with the ladies you just have to make the leap, I remember going back to my high school reunion and talking to this girl I had a huge crush on but never said anything to, I was telling her this at the reunion and she told me she wished I had asked her that she liked me but didnt think that I did because I'd ignore her when she was around!

I know the rejection can be hard on the ego, but the regret can be harder, if I had asked her and it didnt work out oh well at least I'd tried.

 

[kild]

Don't try the drunk, half naked approach. It really doesn't work.

Well, there was this one time when... nevermind.

It sounds like you 2 have that unspoken wierdness thing going on already. make it easier for both of you and ask her out.

 

[Evil Princess]

I would just like to laugh at the comment that Kyle made, "or you could just play guitar, thats what my roommate does".

Unfortunately, it's so true. I never discovered the amazingness of boys playing guitar until this year at college in the dorms! My two guy friends who are roommates do, and I just melt when they sing and play all my favorite songs.

Okay, sorry, just had to chime in my personal weakness.

Another vote for talk to her, I can't tell you how many times in my life I liked a guy and found out later that he liked me at the same time, but we were both to shy to say anything.

 

[Maleficent13]

Update??

 

[Keli]

Evil Princess, You made me laugh about your weakness for guys with guitars. My dd Ashli has made the same observation I think. She went to a three day christian concert thing last weekend and came home and said that she was surprised to find that ALL bass players are hott, lol. Except Petra's. But then all the guys in Petra are in their 50's, lol.