Something else just occurred to me OP...
Maybe you are more referring to your DD having an independent spirit. As in she makes her own decisions, isn't easily swayed by others, etc...
But I would question that, as well. She followed a sibling into a business/hobby. She left your home to move in with the first serious bf. She questions herself and feels guilty when the bf challenges her (we can't afford gas/ you're leaving me on Christmas Eve?) Talks to you daily and sometimes several times a day. None of this sounds like a girl with an independent spirit.
Truly not trying to beat you up or pile on. Your DD sounds like many 19 year olds- just starting to figure stuff out. Except for the part where she moved in and decided to marry a controlling man so young. I just really feel like you need to get a clearer picture on this situation.
I also followed "Class of" threads and from there it seemed to me that you were initially fine with your DD moving in and planning a wedding. Both of which I would have strongly discouraged and certainly not supported.
Maybe you are more referring to your DD having an independent spirit. As in she makes her own decisions, isn't easily swayed by others, etc...
But I would question that, as well. She followed a sibling into a business/hobby. She left your home to move in with the first serious bf. She questions herself and feels guilty when the bf challenges her (we can't afford gas/ you're leaving me on Christmas Eve?) Talks to you daily and sometimes several times a day. None of this sounds like a girl with an independent spirit.
Truly not trying to beat you up or pile on. Your DD sounds like many 19 year olds- just starting to figure stuff out. Except for the part where she moved in and decided to marry a controlling man so young. I just really feel like you need to get a clearer picture on this situation.
I also followed "Class of" threads and from there it seemed to me that you were initially fine with your DD moving in and planning a wedding. Both of which I would have strongly discouraged and certainly not supported.