MaryAnnDVC
"Mare", DISing since '99; prefers being tagless
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Um...OK.Only Trista and Ryan have gotten married, and that was on The Bachelorette. Andy and Tessa have broken up. It was stated that the long-distance relationship was hard enough as it was, with Andy in Hawaii and Tessa in California. Then when Andy was deployed to Iraq they said it was all just too much and they called it quits. She actually dumped him. Charlie and Sarah were engaged at the end of the show, yet that never actually went anywhere and they broke up recently. And I've heard that Byron and Mary may still be together, but they've been engaged for like four years now. I wouldn't exactly call that reliable
You really can't compare the relationships on here to the ones forged in real life, percentage-wise or any other way. On the show they're living in a mansion with 25 other women. The women are given diamonds and gowns and whisked around the world. The Bachelor gets to have his pick of 25-women, also live in a gorgeous mansion, and have overnight dates with three separate women in a week-long radius in fantasy suites. For most people, that's not real life. Real life is meeting someone most likely in a place in which you both hang out or at least frequent, getting to know their interests, hobbies, like and dislikes, and working around each others schedules to see if a relationship would work. It's a whole lot easier to create a real relationship that way since it's based in reality. Anyone would "fall in love" if they were being wined and dined and living in a fantasy world. Then as soon as they're thrown out into the real world and all the glitz and glamour is gone, and they have to start uprooting their own lives in order to move closer to each other or coordinate jobs, families and life goals, it never seems to work.
Bachelor or Bachelorette...same show, different genders. So Trista and Ryan came from the Bachelorette. Got it.
Recently read that Andy and Tessa are still together, just not engaged. Maybe true, maybe not. No time to look for it again right now.
Byron and Mary being engaged for 4 years isn't a success, just because they haven't had a wedding?? Maybe they'll get married, maybe they won't, maybe they'll stay engaged forever. But it seems to be it's a pretty successful outcome.
Whether or not Charlie and Sarah ended up getting married in the end is neither here nor there, as far as I'm concerned. And that's my point about the percentage of relationships that result from the Bachelor compared to "real life" and whether or not they end up married. I HARDLY think that the SHOW is equivalent to dating in real life. I "get" the whole thing about the "unreality" of dating on a "reality" show.
My point was that for every relationship that starts in REAL LIFE...people who meet and "date"...there's no better outcome than what's come from the show. Sometimes, it fizzles out quickly. Sometimes, it goes on for a period of time and breaks up, for whatever reason. Sometimes it ends in marriage. I'm not saying that I'd recommend going on a TV show as a way to find a mate; I'm just saying the record isn't any worse than two random people meeting in real life."It never seems to work out" just isn't true. There have been 14 Bachelor/Bachelorettes (I think) with varying degrees of success.
. I mean he did send Jenni home first. He did make it a point to tell Deanna that he did send Jenni home, why did he do that if he didnt intend on proposing to her? I dont blame Deanna on being mad and hurt.
And, like, I said, desperate. But that's just my opinion, and I'll continue to watch it season after season and laugh at it! 
Why should he have to propose or "pretend" that he will have a relationship with a woman he is not interested in? I don't watch the Bachelor for the romance. This show provides me with plenty of laughs.
