The Bachelor - Brad Womack

[Carrieannew]

I was always one of Deanna's harshest critics, but I have to give her props, because if I were her, I'd have kneed him in the crotch.

There is SOMETHING that he isn't saying. How immature is he to take the show so literally that he can't be with someone just because by show's end he couldn't say he loved them?

Something is seriously missing inside from him. He's holding something back.

If in a couple of months, or even weeks, we don't hear rumors about him being with someone else, I'll sell my right kidney. He reminds me of my cheating ex - constantly skirting around the truth, trying to be the good guy.

I'm just disgusted with him - and it's fine that he didn't "sell out", and that he "took the high road", but come on - be honest! Tell it like it is! Sheesh!

They're both better off without him, because I don't care what the reason behind it is, there IS A REASON, and he isn't saying what it is, and I have no respect for that.

 

[JamieW]

I still say I give the guy a lot of credit----why make a choice you don't feel is true to your heart. He never once said he loved either one of these women. I am appalled that these women are 'demanding answers', and the women in the audience are cringing their noses. This guy did the stand up thing, and made a choice. I give him credit!

They're upset b/c they feel, rightfully or wrongfully, he led them on. He may not have used the "l word" but apparently he said things to both that made them feel they were the one. And then he just dumps them with little to no explanation.

 

[Imzadi]

I can't believe how desperate these women are. They keep asking "Why?" And you can tell he just wants to say, "Maybe you're just not THE ONE!"

you're only supposed to get married once in a lifetime. With 8 Billion people on the planet, just because other people set you up with 25 of them doesn't mean "THE ONE" was in the bunch.

To keep trying to force Brad to try to love Deanna was really sad & pathetic of all three of them. you love where you love, she wasn't THE ONE.

I thought he had a lot of integrity to say just because the show had a particular format to continue dating these women, he wasn't going to put a ring on one of them & have it fail like MOST of the Bachelors.
I noticed they didn't bring any of the old Bachelors on to say, Yeah, it sucks to have to pick one, knowing in 6 weeks it's not going to work.

 

[figment52]

I can't believe how desperate these women are. They keep asking "Why?" And you can tell he just wants to say, "Maybe you're just not THE ONE!"

you're only supposed to get married once in a lifetime. With 8 Billion people on the planet, just because other people set you up with 25 of them doesn't mean "THE ONE" was in the bunch.

To keep trying to force Brad to try to love Deanna was really sad & pathetic of all three of them. you love where you love, she wasn't THE ONE.

I thought he had a lot of integrity to say just because the show had a particular format to continue dating these women, he wasn't going to put a ring on one of them & have it fail like MOST of the Bachelors.
I noticed they didn't bring any of the old Bachelors on to say, Yeah, it sucks to have to pick one, knowing in 6 weeks it's not going to work.

Thank you for putting my thoughts into words better than I could.

 

[babieemelly]

I can't believe how desperate these women are. They keep asking "Why?" And you can tell he just wants to say, "Maybe you're just not THE ONE!"

you're only supposed to get married once in a lifetime. With 8 Billion people on the planet, just because other people set you up with 25 of them doesn't mean "THE ONE" was in the bunch.

To keep trying to force Brad to try to love Deanna was really sad & pathetic of all three of them. you love where you love, she wasn't THE ONE.

I thought he had a lot of integrity to say just because the show had a particular format to continue dating these women, he wasn't going to put a ring on one of them & have it fail like MOST of the Bachelors.
I noticed they didn't bring any of the old Bachelors on to say, Yeah, it sucks to have to pick one, knowing in 6 weeks it's not going to work.

I completely agree! I really don't feel bad for any of them, they all signed up for this. When your heart gets broken out in the real world then it's sad, but they knew what they were signing up for. They knew the format of the show and that not everyone "wins" and that the odds of it all working out in the real world are slim anyway. I don't understand why months after the show wrapped these women would still sit there on national television and beg some guy to "pick them." Just because those were the best two women of the bunch doesn't mean that Brad was guaranteed to fall in love with either of them. They all need to move on.

 

[Am_I_There_Yet]

I can't believe how desperate these women are. They keep asking "Why?" And you can tell he just wants to say, "Maybe you're just not THE ONE!"

you're only supposed to get married once in a lifetime. With 8 Billion people on the planet, just because other people set you up with 25 of them doesn't mean "THE ONE" was in the bunch.

To keep trying to force Brad to try to love Deanna was really sad & pathetic of all three of them. you love where you love, she wasn't THE ONE.

I thought he had a lot of integrity to say just because the show had a particular format to continue dating these women, he wasn't going to put a ring on one of them & have it fail like MOST of the Bachelors.
I noticed they didn't bring any of the old Bachelors on to say, Yeah, it sucks to have to pick one, knowing in 6 weeks it's not going to work.

I don't consider these women desperate, I consider them humiliated and that's a big difference.

I'm not one to take up for the show's format, but for him to just wipe his hands of the whole process and leave both of these women hanging, after he'd led them on with his comments... well, that's just wrong, whether it's televised or not.

That's what gets me - not that he didn't find someone. Either the show's editors/producers need to be hung out to dry, or he does, someone seriously hurt people - and that's the bottom line.

I think it's one thing when you've been "dumped" and you see a reason for it, but when he makes those comments about both of them? And then leaves both of them in his dust? Something's wrong with that.

I know I'd be super-pissed if it happened to my daughter, and I'd be super-pissed if my son did it to two women (not to mention the other 23).

 

[Feralpeg]

I can't believe how desperate these women are. They keep asking "Why?" And you can tell he just wants to say, "Maybe you're just not THE ONE!"

you're only supposed to get married once in a lifetime. With 8 Billion people on the planet, just because other people set you up with 25 of them doesn't mean "THE ONE" was in the bunch.

To keep trying to force Brad to try to love Deanna was really sad & pathetic of all three of them. you love where you love, she wasn't THE ONE.

I thought he had a lot of integrity to say just because the show had a particular format to continue dating these women, he wasn't going to put a ring on one of them & have it fail like MOST of the Bachelors.
I noticed they didn't bring any of the old Bachelors on to say, Yeah, it sucks to have to pick one, knowing in 6 weeks it's not going to work.

I agree. Looking back over the show, probably half of the girls said they were falling in love with Brad. IMHO, they were in love with idea of being in love. Let's face it. It is romantic. The dates they went on were incredible. None of them spent real life time with him. Yes, it was sad to see the final two so disappointed, but I think they are disappointed that the fairy tale didn't pan out.

 

[babieemelly]

I agree. Looking back over the show, probably half of the girls said they were falling in love with Brad. IMHO, they were in love with idea of being in love. Let's face it. It is romantic. The dates they went on were incredible. None of them spent real life time with him. Yes, it was sad to see the final two so disappointed, but I think they are disappointed that the fairy tale didn't pan out.

Exactly! The entire show was taped in less than a month. NO ONE honestly falls head over heels in love with someone in so short a time, especially when this person is also dating twenty other people! Both women wanted the fairy tale and it didn't pan out. If they were so "humiliated" by the experience, then their crying and whining two months after the show actually wrapped sure isn't helping.

 

[JennyMominRI]

Exactly! The entire show was taped in less than a month. NO ONE honestly falls head over heels in love with someone in so short a time, especially when this person is also dating twenty other people! :.

Ed And I did.. It really was love at first sight and love strong enough for him to get past the fact that I have AIDS...I don't believe it happens that way often and I think it was what Brad expected. When it didn't happen that way he just gave up.

Or he's a complete jerk.

 

[babieemelly]

Ed And I did.. It really was love at first sight and love strong enough for him to get past the fact that I have AIDS...I don't believe it happens that way often and I think it was what Brad expected. When it didn't happen that way he just gave up.

Or he's a complete jerk.

Congrats to you guys But would it have been the same if Ed was also dating 25 other women?

 

[Imzadi]

Congrats to you guys But would it have been the same if Ed was also dating 25 other women?

and that the dates were carefully choreographed & arranged. and that, as FeralPeg pointed out, you weren't seeing him in real life also? Ed saw you with AIDS. He shared your life with you, with the ups & downs of what that is. These girls never really got to spend time with an off-camera Brad.

 

[JennyMominRI]

Congrats to you guys But would it have been the same if Ed was also dating 25 other women?

In our case, yes. I do believe that. If AIDS wasn't enough of an obstacle than 24 other women wouldn't have been.

 

[JennyMominRI]

and that the dates were carefully choreographed & arranged. and that, as FeralPeg pointed out, you weren't seeing him in real life also? Ed saw you with AIDS. He shared your life with you, with the ups & downs of what that is. These girls never really got to spend time with an off-camera Brad.

But I'm talking about the falling in love part...We weathered all of that stuff after we fell in love..I told him what I had 2 days after we met..His immediate response was that it didn't matter , he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me whether that was 1 year or 20. Yes, I absolutely believe we would have made it if there were camera crews and 24 other women.

It worked with a couple of the couples on the show so clearly the occasional couple can get past all of the artificiality of the show

 

[babieemelly]

But I'm talking about the falling in love part...We weathered all of that stuff after we fell in love..I told him what I had 2 days after we met..His immediate response was that it didn't matter , he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me whether that was 1 year or 20. Yes, I absolutely believe we would have made it if there were camera crews and 24 other women.

That doesn't happen very often at all so that's great for you guys

 

[JennyMominRI]

That doesn't happen very often at all so that's great for you guys

No it doesn't..We are very lucky and I think we both deserve a bit of luck in some area.... I think Brad does not realize that stories like mine aren't the norm..He wanted the fairy tale love at first site, and didn't get it.. I think he is one of those people who thinks that if you don't fall in love immediately it won't happen..That's kind of what I got from his butterfly comment.

It's also possible that i really want to believe he is a decent guy with some issues rather than to believe he's a complete jerk. He may very well be the latter.

 

[Imzadi]

But I'm talking about the falling in love part...We weathered all of that stuff after we fell in love..I told him what I had 2 days after we met..His immediate response was that it didn't matter , he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me whether that was 1 year or 20. Yes, I absolutely believe we would have made it if there were camera crews and 24 other women.

It worked with a couple of the couples on the show so clearly the occasional couple can get past all of the artificiality of the show

Then doesn't that go back to my first post (a couple pages back,) about it needing to be THE ONE?

I'm so glad you & Ed found each other. BTW, Congrats on your upcoming wedding.

 

[JennyMominRI]

Then doesn't that go back to my first post (a couple pages back,) about it needing to be THE ONE?

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Absolutely..If it's *the one* the problems won't matter, in fact they should strengthen the relationship in the end

 

[DisneyBride'03]

But I'm talking about the falling in love part...We weathered all of that stuff after we fell in love..I told him what I had 2 days after we met..His immediate response was that it didn't matter , he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me whether that was 1 year or 20. Yes, I absolutely believe we would have made it if there were camera crews and 24 other women.

It worked with a couple of the couples on the show so clearly the occasional couple can get past all of the artificiality of the show

I wish the DIS could throw you a Bridal Shower!!!!! (Disers , I meant... )

 

[JennyMominRI]

I wish the DIS could throw you a Bridal Shower!!!!! (Disers , I meant... )

We are going totally OT now..I won't have one..As cool as it sounds we've been living as a couple for almost 14 years and have already built a home KWIM? Having a shower would seem like a hopeless ploy for gifts. I am having a smal reception after the wedding though. Friends are throwing one at the convention

 

[DisneyBride'03]

Gotcha

Not totally off topic...poor Deanna and Jenni probably were planning their bridal showers in their minds