EsmeraldaX
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I just wanted to say thanks to everyone who has listened to me whine and vent and just generally act like a big baby over the last few days.
DBF and I have talked about the whole money thing. He knows I'm not angry at him, but instead at the place where we work. He helped me come up with some ideas as to how to better the situation, and he too thinks I am pretty under appreciated at my job. So.... Monday I'm going in to talk to HR. My boss has been out on family leave since I don't even remember when, and so I can't talk to her. HR is the next best step. I am going to clearly explain my position and why I feel I deserve a raise. (I have after all taken on all of the responsibilities of another whole full time employee....technically now I do two full time jobs for the salary of a trainee despite having been at the company for 4.5 years).
In the meantime, I am going to look for another job nearby to where I work now. Just in case. If my current job refuses to give me some sort of extra compensation for this, I will leave if I can secure another job with benefits.
For now, I am not going to find another 'real' job. I am selling stuff on Ebay, looking into Pet Sitting and selling my crafts at flea markets and online.
I realize that wanting an equal salary to DBF is silly. I also realize I was mostly just so angry at my company for promoting two people who started two years after me before me and I was taking that anger out on the wrong people. DBF (and my best friend also) are not responsible for the companies ridiculous promotion setup. I am really happy for them both.
DBF also pointed out that I am paying for the car we share which more than makes up for the fact that I can't often buy the groceries or pay an equal half of the utilies. He also pointed out that I do not use them as much anyway. And that it is more important right now that I get out of debt than he does since I have moderate credit scores that can easily be fixed. As someone pointed out today (and whoever you were it really made me stop and think and I am so grateful to you) DBF once had to declare bankrupcy and is in far worse financial shape than I am. In that sense, I think we are equal in that despite him making signifigantly more than me now, I have a pretty decent financial past.
Which leads me to my excessive whining about debt. So I have about 7K of debt. Well, I have since had so many people tell me how much debt they have and well, I hate to sound sadistic but, whoa...I was in effect overreacting. In perspective, 7K is not that bad. It's less than my annual income and that is more than a lot of people can say.
So....for now I'm feeling much better. Hopefully, Monday will go well. I wish my boss was around because I know that my chances of being promoted or given a raise are hurt by her not being there and I wish they had someone at least monitoring our performance while she is out, but alas, they don't. But we'll see what HR says.
Thank you all and many
's for your kindness, your patience and your advice. It really helped me and meant a lot.
~Sheri
DBF and I have talked about the whole money thing. He knows I'm not angry at him, but instead at the place where we work. He helped me come up with some ideas as to how to better the situation, and he too thinks I am pretty under appreciated at my job. So.... Monday I'm going in to talk to HR. My boss has been out on family leave since I don't even remember when, and so I can't talk to her. HR is the next best step. I am going to clearly explain my position and why I feel I deserve a raise. (I have after all taken on all of the responsibilities of another whole full time employee....technically now I do two full time jobs for the salary of a trainee despite having been at the company for 4.5 years).
In the meantime, I am going to look for another job nearby to where I work now. Just in case. If my current job refuses to give me some sort of extra compensation for this, I will leave if I can secure another job with benefits.
For now, I am not going to find another 'real' job. I am selling stuff on Ebay, looking into Pet Sitting and selling my crafts at flea markets and online.
I realize that wanting an equal salary to DBF is silly. I also realize I was mostly just so angry at my company for promoting two people who started two years after me before me and I was taking that anger out on the wrong people. DBF (and my best friend also) are not responsible for the companies ridiculous promotion setup. I am really happy for them both.
DBF also pointed out that I am paying for the car we share which more than makes up for the fact that I can't often buy the groceries or pay an equal half of the utilies. He also pointed out that I do not use them as much anyway. And that it is more important right now that I get out of debt than he does since I have moderate credit scores that can easily be fixed. As someone pointed out today (and whoever you were it really made me stop and think and I am so grateful to you) DBF once had to declare bankrupcy and is in far worse financial shape than I am. In that sense, I think we are equal in that despite him making signifigantly more than me now, I have a pretty decent financial past.
Which leads me to my excessive whining about debt. So I have about 7K of debt. Well, I have since had so many people tell me how much debt they have and well, I hate to sound sadistic but, whoa...I was in effect overreacting. In perspective, 7K is not that bad. It's less than my annual income and that is more than a lot of people can say.
So....for now I'm feeling much better. Hopefully, Monday will go well. I wish my boss was around because I know that my chances of being promoted or given a raise are hurt by her not being there and I wish they had someone at least monitoring our performance while she is out, but alas, they don't. But we'll see what HR says.
Thank you all and many
's for your kindness, your patience and your advice. It really helped me and meant a lot.~Sheri
i'll gladly trade ya.. is currently not eligable for disablity assistance, but drs refuse to release me to work,, and so far the med bills on my face are over 400000 and thats with me not working since oct,, i know the feeling, dw has taken ovver my biz and is doing ok with it, but i still feel like i am left out of the loop most times
Money matters are a pain. I'm glad you worked everything out with your mate. That's great to know he's with you all the way! 
