Tell me your thoughts about "The Secret"

[Planogirl]

I think that sensitive people are super. They seem to see more and be more in tune with people around them. Maybe because they can communicate more easily?

I'm just the opposite - I tend to be aloof on the outside but I've improved over the years. I try to see myself in the other's shoes now and sometimes that even helps me to deal with a bad attitude. I can sometimes see the why and understanding that can make things seem less negative. Sometimes.

 

[Imzadi]

Happy July 4th everyone!!!

My new friend, Madonna, sends this to everyone:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0X7RyGBq2E8

Feel good all day!

 

[violetshelby]

Hi Everyone,
I just wanted to say Thank You for keeping this thread going. I am new to this way of thinking and although I am going through a really hard time in my life right now I am trying to remain positive that every thing will work out in the end, and this thread has helped to keep me motivated. Thank You.

I also put up my vision board last night. It looks great, there are more things I would like to add eventually but for now I am happy with it.

 

[ilovepcot]

Hello everyone! Hope all of you are enjoying yourselves today.

VIOLETSHELBY...Glad you're part of this thread! Hope you will remain and gain insight and direction from those here that are so kind in giving us "newbies" gentle nudges in positive directions. Perhaps some of the books mentioned would further give you help. I already feel better from advice and suggestions I've chosen to accept. I'm truly sending you "positive" thoughts that you will be able to continue stepping forward and making the right choices for your life. The vision board is a great start!

I've been busy checking back and forth on this thread as there are soooo many things I need to bookmark or re-read. "Word" on my computer is going to explode if I copy and paste any more to it!!! There's really a wealth of info here if you take the time to carefully sift through it.

Am really enjoying my new book (You Can Heal Your Life) and have trouble refraining from posting many, many meaningful passages and insights I come across in the book. It's a *very slow* read for me because I stop and really think about what what it's saying and how my life has been impacted in negative or positive ways and how events played a part in shaping me into *who* I am. Interesting and enlightening!

 

[Rella Bella]

I agree. There are so many good tips and ideas here; so much positivity! This thread is like an oasis!

Hi everyone,

I just wanted to say Hello and thank you! This thread has been a huge inspiration to me this week. I have felt off track for a while and have been so encouraged by all that has been shared here.

I have felt for some time that I needed to watch "The Secret" and for some reason I wasn't making it happen. Well dh and I watched it this afternoon... actually I watched it twice and what a blessing!! It actually gave me answers to several specific questions I've been dealing with and helped me see some areas I was just missing the mark.

We have done some forays into the Law of Attraction with camps and classes by T. Harv Ecker & Pacific Institute and also some other reading & videos which have all helped us move down the path and I am so grateful for the way we are continually led forward to the next step.

Thanks again!!! I LOVE having a positive place on the Dis to look forward to visiting! Please keep the encouragement coming!

 

[Imzadi]

YAY!!! More people!

Welcome, violetshelby & Rella Bella.
Come on in you other lurkers. The more positive energy, the better!

Pull up a chair. Grab some coffee, cocoa, chia tea, whatever & let's share some positive energy!

But remember, it's a "secret"!

 

[beckmrk04]

I have something positive to add.

After getting some wonderful advice regarding interactions with my mom, I put it into use.

Yesterday, she called and wanted to know what I was doing today (the 4th). I immediately felt myself tense up, but I recognized it, and let it go. I told her not much, we may go to a local lake and swim. She announced that she and my grandma want to come over and plant the flowers they bought for me. At first, I groaned. BUT- I let it go. I said ok.

This morning, I decided that this would be a positive thing. So, mom and grandma and step-dad came by with a bunch of flowers, and we planted my daughter a little garden. Then, mom, grandma and I piled into mom's car and went down the road to dig up some wild lilies to plant in my yard.

It was a very positive day, positive experience, and my yard is prettified. My DD loves "fwowers" too, so she really likes her own little flower garden.

Then, my mom had another idea- what if I landscaped the little garden in the shape of Mickey Mouse? (She knows I'm wild about WDW). SO- I am going to create a Mickey Mouse head shape out of landscaping bricks to encompass the flowers we planted today!

Moral of the long story: I let go of the dread, let go of the expectation of a fight, and had an enjoyable morning, in which time my space was made more beautiful.

 

[Rella Bella]

YAY!!! More people!

Welcome, violetshelby & Rella Bella.
Come on in you other lurkers. The more positive energy, the better!

Pull up a chair. Grab some coffee, cocoa, chia tea, whatever & let's share some positive energy!

But remember, it's a "secret"!

I was just re-reading the whole thread! It's so encouraging! Even those that are questioning are helpful because the answers silence resistance in my thoughts!

I am just starting "A New Earth" and I'm so glad to have a place to openly share as I move to a new level of understanding.

 

[Rella Bella]

I have something positive to add.

After getting some wonderful advice regarding interactions with my mom, I put it into use.

Yesterday, she called and wanted to know what I was doing today (the 4th). I immediately felt myself tense up, but I recognized it, and let it go. I told her not much, we may go to a local lake and swim. She announced that she and my grandma want to come over and plant the flowers they bought for me. At first, I groaned. BUT- I let it go. I said ok.

This morning, I decided that this would be a positive thing. So, mom and grandma and step-dad came by with a bunch of flowers, and we planted my daughter a little garden. Then, mom, grandma and I piled into mom's car and went down the road to dig up some wild lilies to plant in my yard.

It was a very positive day, positive experience, and my yard is prettified. My DD loves "fwowers" too, so she really likes her own little flower garden.

Then, my mom had another idea- what if I landscaped the little garden in the shape of Mickey Mouse? (She knows I'm wild about WDW). SO- I am going to create a Mickey Mouse head shape out of landscaping bricks to encompass the flowers we planted today!

Moral of the long story: I let go of the dread, let go of the expectation of a fight, and had an enjoyable morning, in which time my space was made more beautiful.

Great job!
And Mickey in your yard!! How awesome!!

 

[beckmrk04]

I am just starting "A New Earth" and I'm so glad to have a place to openly share as I move to a new level of understanding.

I am currently re-reading, and highlighting, and doing the workbook on Oprah.com...

I am so excited to have people to discuss this book with!!!! It is thought-provoking, profound, and transformative.

And really, I feel like I attracted this book when I needed it most. Funny how things *work*!

 

[Imzadi]

She announced that she and my grandma want to come over and plant the flowers they bought for me.

Then, mom, grandma and I piled into mom's car and went down the road to dig up some wild lilies to plant in my yard.

It was a very positive day, positive experience, and my yard is prettified. My DD loves "fwowers" too, so she really likes her own little flower garden.

Then, my mom had another idea- what if I landscaped the little garden in the shape of Mickey Mouse? (She knows I'm wild about WDW). SO- I am going to create a Mickey Mouse head shape out of landscaping bricks to encompass the flowers we planted today!

WooHoo! You did great!!! It really sounds like she is a great, caring, thoughtful mom at times. Really hold this energy to you. Thank the Universe, God and Thank your MOM!

A suggestion would be to take a pic in front of the flowers with your DD & you in it. Get a neighbor to take the picture. Send it, email it, or drop it off to her immediately, don't let too much time go by and allow the energy lapse. Say what a great, pleasant day you & your daughter had with her & your grandma & step-dad. Really reinforce how thoughtful she was & how pleasant the day went, and how you'd like to share more times like that. Really thank her.

If she's not used to getting an acknowledgement like that, it will really surprise her, stop her short, (and please her. ) If both of your interactions haven't included this type of acknowledgements much, Tony Robbins calls this, "Interrupting the Pattern." You both got stuck in a negative pattern with each other, her complaining, etc., you resisting & trying to tune her out, & her trying to grab for more of your attention in a negative way.

Today really interrupted that pattern. To really acknowledge her for her part would interrupt the pattern again. You both have been given a wonderful start to keep things on track in the direction you both want, and to keep that flow going. People want so much to be acknowledged. They want connection. You had said in your previous post sbout your mom, "she people 'on her side' (which is what she really wants- she wants everyone to join her pity party.)" No, what she really wants is connection.

In the past, she used to try to get it by complaining, whining & hoping for sympathy & acknowledgement in that way. This will interrupt her usual pattern of trying to get it. It will stop her short & make her think about what just happened and help her see she really wants it THIS WAY. Acknowledge her for it and she will want to continue it.

I hope I've made myself clear about that, it's not about manipulating someone. People get into a pattern, they are on a train track, and before they start heading off full speed in the wrong direction, you interrupt the pattern. (Post or PM - lurkers too - if any of you are unclear about this.

People can do pattern interrupts on themselves. Beckmrk04, you did, when you caught yourself tensing, resisting & groaning when she called. And you changed the energy. You did great!

Your mom probably heard something different in your response, & it made her act differently that she normally does.

Make sure you get a copy of the picture, so you can put it on the fridge, or somewhere you can see it and meditate on it, (like a vision board) of being able to create more events like this with your Mom, Grandma & daughter & step-dad. You had four generations there, having a great day! Let the roots you planted be more than just the flowers!

Send her another pic when you get the whole Mickey garden done. And we'd better see that pic too!

Hi everyone,

We have done some forays into the Law of Attraction with camps and classes by T. Harv Ecker.

Hey, Rella, a friend gave me a free ticket to do T. Harv Ecker's Millionaire Mind seminar. It was great. I learned a lot in his money exercises. I'll write more later about my experience & we can share what we both have learned & maybe help others here! Glad you are no longer lurking!

Come forward the rest of you!

 

[ilovepcot]

Couldn't sleep and got up for a snack. Just checking in to see what's new with any of you "Secreters".

 

[Imzadi]

LOL, I'm up too. BTW, I really wanted to acknowledge you on not giving up on your health just because the doctors said they couldn't help you. I'm glad you've taken over and not let what they said decide for you, what your well-being is going to be.

As you get better, I'm sure the docs will start mumbling how you weren't that bad after all. You couldn't possibly have had a hand in helping yourself get better.

 

[ilovepcot]

Can't believe you're up! As you can see, I edited my post. Can't get my thoughts together for some reason.

Yes, this "health situation" is something else and I'm *determined* to take charge. When I hear that a doctor can no longer help, I KNOW I'm heading down the wrong path and it's up to ME to do something for myself. And you're right....they'll never admit their own defeat.

 

[Planogirl]

I'm still awake too and this is the first thread I checked. I find this thread about as inspirational as the books.

Speaking of doctors, I feel inspired to deal with my own issues a bit too. My doctor just continually throws more drugs at me when there's a lot more I should be doing. I won't stop taking the drugs of course but I'd like to have more control over my well-being than I've had.

 

[Planogirl]

Can't believe you're up! As you can see, I edited my post. Can't get my thoughts together for some reason.

Yes, this "health situation" is something else and I'm *determined* to take charge. When I hear that a doctor can no longer help, I KNOW I'm heading down the wrong path and it's up to ME to do something for myself. And you're right....they'll never admit their own defeat.

You sound so sensible. I say don't give up on doctors but even more so don't give up on yourself.

 

[ilovepcot]

You guys are the BEST!!!

PLANOGIRL, sorry to hear you're having health problems, too, but I feel being part of this thread will inspire you to reach to be the best you possibly can. IMZADI is a *wealth* of incredible info and is always reaching out to offer help for people here.

As far as being "sensible"...well, I thank you for that comment but I'm not always. Sometimes you have to be pushed against a wall to feel desperate enough to make a necessary change. Probably not many things can do that faster than losing your quality of life.

 

[Imzadi]

I agree that there are plenty of complimentary techniques you both can do too.

Have both of you seen Randy Pauch's "Last Lecture"? He is so inspiring. He's already beaten the odds & lived longer than they already thought he would.

I'll dig up the link for those who haven't. It's so inspiring.

 

[Planogirl]

You guys are the BEST!!!

PLANOGIRL, sorry to hear you're having health problems, too, but I feel being part of this thread will inspire you to reach to be the best you possibly can. IMZADI is a *wealth* of incredible info and is always reaching out to offer help for people here.

Thanks.

Mine aren't life threatening but just need to be managed. I find both you and Imzadi very inspiring.

 

[Imzadi]

Awww, thanks you two! You gals are great too.