Tagless & Formerly Tagless 5 :: The Babnanas are still dancin'!

[SadieDog]

....hi-i-i-i-i-i-i, Ingrid.....

When I was reading her post, this is what I repeated inside my head.

 

[SadieDog]

As you know, I ended up with three boys. This thrilled me because I wanted boys and - *gasp!* - never wanted any girls!!! You wouldn't believe how many people just couldn't wrap their brains around that one.... I got the "are you going to try for a girl?" question more times than I care to remember. So, is my life somehow incomplete without both genders??

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My dear best friend was the same way. She wanted boys and ended up with 2. I think she was too afraid of the teen years if she had a daughter. I might have had something to do with that fear.

 

[SadieDog]

I get asked all the time if I'm going to go for that boy. I tell them I had to have the shop all closed up after the last pregnancy almost killed me. Besides, I don't want a third, I'd probably just end up with another girl and I never really wanted a boy.

I know several women that felt the same way. They wanted girls and that's it, NO boys. Then the shock, they gave birth to a boy. Then they realized (some took longer than others) how special a Mother/son bond can be. It's not really something that can be explained. Maybe it's special like a Dad/daughter bond. Different feeling I'm sure, but both special in their own way. I too had a daughter and when I was pregnant for my 2nd thought, I just soon I have another girl. Out popped a boy.

 

[SadieDog]

Tarzanskat.... WHOO HOOO! BED REST!!! I could use about 3 months of bed rest right now... No.. make it 4 months, then that will put me right up to my trip! Most important take care of the little guy. but it just gives you more DIS time... I never cared about the gender either, but everyone assumed once we had the boy we would stop, but we went for one more and ended up with 2 and 2. I also didn't find out the gender until they were born, except the last one, but that was just because I had to go for extra tests and stuff.. all is well, but I was sure when I had the 2 girls, the 3rd would be a girl too... I was surprised he was a boy, but also I was like, I don't know what to do with a boy... I only have girls. I remember a dream I had vividly while I was pregnant with him, that the doctor said it's going to be a boy, now what are you going to do,,, and I was told him, no, check again, it has to be a girl, I don't make boys. Now... I wish I had them 1st.. cause, I don't care what anybody says... Boys are harder... so I wish I was younger when I had them... Sometimes, I feel like I give up, I'm totally outnumbered! well good luck... get that rest. stay off your feet, and drink lots of water esp. when it's hot.

This reminds me of myself. When my boy came, I thought in my head, what am I going to do with a boy. I think b/c I already had a girl, it was easier to picture myself with another one.

I think when younger, many boys are quite active and can suck the energy out of you. My daughter was easier when younger too. However, once preteen/teen years hit, girls are more difficult. Of course teen years are hard no matter boy or girl.

Before the shearing.




The shearing.



The same guy after the shearing.





My kid, on the left Kimmar, with an alpaca on the second farm.

They sure look different shaved.

 

[TarzansKat]

....but can you get miffed AND perturbed at the same time??

Yes.

Ok, really??!....this little guy isn't even here yet and already you're being asked this question?!!

Oh, I have very interesting customers at the bank.

As you know, I ended up with three boys. This thrilled me because I wanted boys and - *gasp!* - never wanted any girls!!! You wouldn't believe how many people just couldn't wrap their brains around that one.... I got the "are you going to try for a girl?" question more times than I care to remember. So, is my life somehow incomplete without both genders??

I'm glad I'm not the only one who gets asked this question!

...I'm quite sure that I HAVE NO IDEA of what you are referring....

I get asked all the time if I'm going to go for that boy. I tell them I had to have the shop all closed up after the last pregnancy almost killed me. Besides, I don't want a third, I'd probably just end up with another girl and I never really wanted a boy.

If I get put on bed rest, I'm seriously considering our options for making sure there are no more little pirates running around.

Tarzanskat.... WHOO HOOO! BED REST!!! I could use about 3 months of bed rest right now... No.. make it 4 months, then that will put me right up to my trip! Most important take care of the little guy. but it just gives you more DIS time... I never cared about the gender either, but everyone assumed once we had the boy we would stop, but we went for one more and ended up with 2 and 2. I also didn't find out the gender until they were born, except the last one, but that was just because I had to go for extra tests and stuff.. all is well, but I was sure when I had the 2 girls, the 3rd would be a girl too... I was surprised he was a boy, but also I was like, I don't know what to do with a boy... I only have girls. I remember a dream I had vividly while I was pregnant with him, that the doctor said it's going to be a boy, now what are you going to do,,, and I was told him, no, check again, it has to be a girl, I don't make boys. Now... I wish I had them 1st.. cause, I don't care what anybody says... Boys are harder... so I wish I was younger when I had them... Sometimes, I feel like I give up, I'm totally outnumbered! well good luck... get that rest. stay off your feet, and drink lots of water esp. when it's hot.

Bed rest is fun for a couple of weeks, but trust me, after a while, it gets boring! I do have a lot more resources now then the last time I was on bed rest (which was also three months), so that's a good thing.

If this happens, it's God's way of telling me it's time to slow down and take it easy. It's just that since my mom passed, I really, really wanted to work as long as possible, because without that distraction...well...it's tough.

I had a dream right before my ultrasound that this baby was a boy, so I was pretty sure that's what we were getting. The funny thing is that he looked more like my sister / my mom, and not me or my husband, so who knows what he's going to look like!

My dear best friend was the same way. She wanted boys and ended up with 2. I think she was too afraid of the teen years if she had a daughter. I might have had something to do with that fear.

I was always worried about whether or not I could successfully parent a girl. So even though I never really cared what we had, one way or the other, a part of me was secretly relieved when I found out we were having another boy.

I know several women that felt the same way. They wanted girls and that's it, NO boys. Then the shock, they gave birth to a boy. Then they realized (some took longer than others) how special a Mother/son bond can be. It's not really something that can be explained. Maybe it's special like a Dad/daughter bond. Different feeling I'm sure, but both special in their own way. I too had a daughter and when I was pregnant for my 2nd thought, I just soon I have another girl. Out popped a boy.

It is really difficult to explain, but there is something very unique about a mother/son bond.

 

[TarzansKat]

Before the shearing.




The shearing.



The same guy after the shearing.





My kid, on the left Kimmar, with an alpaca on the second farm.

Wow! I don't even know what to say, except ditto, they really do look different shaved.

 

[Tinkerbellarella]

I won't be surprised if I get put on bed rest. And if that's the best thing for me, and it's meant to be, then I accept it, you know? What else can I do?

Pitching a hissy is always fun. Cathartic even.

....hi-i-i-i-i-i-i, Ingrid.....

My name is Tinkerbellarella and I'm a DIS-a-holic.

Before the shearing.




The shearing.



The same guy after the shearing.





My kid, on the left Kimmar, with an alpaca on the second farm.

All I keep thinking in my head is, it's a real life Emperor Kuzco!


And in line with all the baby talk, I totally get the gender questions and how irritating they can be...do you know what it's like hearing, over and over, "What do you MEAN you don't want kids?"

I don't want kids. I think that's pretty straightforward, no? I love them. And I love to give them back. Having one 24/7 just isn't for me.

Someone want to explain the mystery in that? Just because I HAVE ovaries doesn't mean I HAVE to use them...

 

[LegoMom3]

....Someone want to explain the mystery in that? Just because I HAVE ovaries doesn't mean I HAVE to use them...

*SNORT*LAUGH*



OMG, Tink, I wish I was the Tag Fairy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!



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[Tinkerbellarella]

OMG, Tink, I wish I was the Tag Fairy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

And these are the days when I'm thankful you're NOT the TF.

 

[kimmar067]

Hmmmph. You'll be begging for a Big Mike fan when you're sweating to death at Disney.

.... no offense but, why would I be wanting YOU??

 

[kimmar067]

My kid, on the left Kimmar, with an alpaca on the second farm.

...thanks for clearing that one up, cuz' I wouldn't have known which was which....

 

[WelovMickey!]

When I was reading her post, this is what I repeated inside my head.

....I don't get it lol

 

[TarzansKat]

Pitching a hissy is always fun. Cathartic even.

Oh, now we're airing all my dirty laundry, eh?

My name is Tinkerbellarella and I'm a DIS-a-holic.

Hi, Tinkerbellarella.

And in line with all the baby talk, I totally get the gender questions and how irritating they can be...do you know what it's like hearing, over and over, "What do you MEAN you don't want kids?"

I don't want kids. I think that's pretty straightforward, no? I love them. And I love to give them back. Having one 24/7 just isn't for me.

Someone want to explain the mystery in that? Just because I HAVE ovaries doesn't mean I HAVE to use them...

You know what? I know I'm the minority, but I have a profound respect for people who realize they don't want children, like you, and my sister. If you know in your heart that's it not for you, then I think, okay, it's not for them. Just because I love having my kids doesn't mean that everyone else should want or would love it. KWIM?

 

[Tinkerbellarella]

Oh, now we're airing all my dirty laundry, eh?

No, I should've clarified.

::ahem::

Hi, I'm Tinkerbellarella and I'm a DISaholic and Queen of Pitching Hissies.
You know what? I know I'm the minority, but I have a profound respect for people who realize they don't want children, like you, and my sister. If you know in your heart that's it not for you, then I think, okay, it's not for them. Just because I love having my kids doesn't mean that everyone else should want or would love it. KWIM?

Reason #11,598 that I love you.

 

[Tinkerbellarella]

Unashamed, unabashed shout out for my new Pre Trip Report:

How is Disney Like a Writing Desk?

Come visit.

Have a great evening everyone!

 

[TarzansKat]

No, I should've clarified.

::ahem::

I feel that quote could have easily applied to me, I must be showing my guilt.

Reason #11,598 that I love you.

Back at you babe.

 

[SadieDog]

....I don't get it lol

Ok, not sure if you are serious or not when you say you don't get it, but here goes.

When a person is at say an AA meeting, when they get up to speak they say...

"Hi, my name is 'Jim' and I'm an alcoholic."

The others at the meeting all respond at the same time with...
"Hi Jim"

 

[kimmar067]

And these are the days when I'm thankful you're NOT the TF.

...bet you wish that I was....

 

[LegoMom3]

...bet you wish that I was....

ohdearlord help us.....


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[kimmar067]

ohdearlord help us.....


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...wha- ????