Swapping engagement ring/wedding band for anniversary band only

[jbthi]

It's up to you and your husband what you want to do. I have been married 56 years and still have my original rings. They consist of a plain gold band and an engagement with a solitaire diamond. My husband suggested I might want to have my rings "upgraded" but I definitely did not want that. We had my rings soldered together and he bought me a beautiful anniversary ring. I put it on first then my other rings with the wedding band next to the anniversary ring and then the engagement ring. I think it looks good and I have a lot of people commenting on it.

 

[smokeyblue]

Whatever you like and what makes you comfortable is what I say. Never been married here. We've been together for 10 years. When I was younger I wanted a big old ring and to get married. Now, not so much! I don't want a wedding, I don't want the financial issues, I just want things to remain the way they are. However,

 

[smokeyblue]

When I was in my 20's I wanted that big old honkin' ring! Now I don't even want to get married. I rather spend my money on going to Disney! If we ever decide to tie the knot, I just want a single, very thin petite diamond band. I saw Cindy Crawford wearing one and I thought it looked so elegant.

 

[midnightlouise]

My husband and I don't wear rings at all anymore, and haven't for probably the last ten years. He used to be a mechanic, so wearing it at work was out, and he just never got back in the habit. I taught preschool for many years, and it just wasn't always practical for me to wear my rings. I have actually sold almost all of the wedding rings I've owned, even my anniversary band. If you'd have told me 19 years ago that one day I'd sell my wedding rings I'd have been horrified. I just think you have a different perspective on it when you've been together a long time. The only thing I kept was the poesy ring he got me as an engagement ring, and even though I rarely wear it, that has more sentimental value to me than any of the others. We do have tattoos that go together, but that's more in keeping with the bonds of love and friendship than a specific statement of our marriage vows. To each his or her own, though. It's what you and your husband both feel comfortable with that matters.

 

[Fire14]

Been married appox 14 years. Still wear both my E ring and Wedding band which is actually an annv. band in jewelers terms. I couldn't tell you last time I saw my hubs wedding band on his finger lol. I honestly could see myself going to band only if chance arose. I always wondered reason for getting rings sodered together, I do have mine Sodered together because my mother semi insisted and I know I'd be going crazy if diamond was not lined up with band right in my eyes.

 

[TipsyTraveler]

Been married appox 14 years. Still wear both my E ring and Wedding band which is actually an annv. band in jewelers terms. I couldn't tell you last time I saw my hubs wedding band on his finger lol. I honestly could see myself going to band only if chance arose. I always wondered reason for getting rings sodered together, I do have mine Sodered together because my mother semi insisted and I know I'd be going crazy if diamond was not lined up with band right in my eyes.

Soldering keeps the rings from rubbing together and causing damage to the metal/prongs.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I'm planning to stop wearing my wedding set (engagement ring and wedding band that are soldered together) and start wearing a simple diamond anniversary band instead. When I mentioned this to a co-worker she had a rather strong opinion against the idea. She's recently engaged and quite a bit younger than me.

My husband isn't bothered by it and my co-worker's opinion isn't swaying my decision, but I'm interested in hearing what others think.

I do not wear anything and neither does my DH and I will be married 25yrs in Dec. I am sure your coworker would be appalled, lol.

They are in my jewelry box. I might wear them for special occasions.

One of these days we might get some new sets, however not at this time.

 

[NewRVLady]

OP-I did this ....I got married back when the band was super wide (the 70's)-no engagement ring
DH gave me a lovely Anniversary ring with 5 diamonds-I wear this instead

 

[js]

Ive been with my dh since 1982, married in 1990 and 95% of the time do not wear my wedding or engagement ring.

I am most comfortable with not wearing any rings. Sometimes I go out wihh my girlfriends for drinks and dinner and sometimes I go out with my dh. I do not need any piece of jewelry to remind me or tell others Im married and di not need to look at my rings to think about or know my dh loves me.

I think OP if you dont really like or wear your set any longer it would be great to get something you can enjoy and choose to purchase together.

 

[Fire14]

Soldering keeps the rings from rubbing together and causing damage to the metal/prongs.

Makes total sense LOL. I just didn't know if there was another reason or not since it's about half and half in my circle.