"Support group" for people with....

[BridgetR3]

......Disney resistant spouses!!

O.k. I admit that it does sound really stupid but I'm having a bit of a down weekend as my DH just told me that he does not plan to go back to Disney for 2-3 years after this summer's trip.

Why? Because he wants to see the world.


I specifically ask what he would like to do while we take our Disney break and he says I don't know maybe some theme parks.....!?!?!??!?!?!

I know that there are plenty of us out there who have Disney resistant spouses. My DH hates that Disney is not relaxing by the pool or out at the beach. How can I make Disney relaxing??? I really need to learn to stop and smell the roses at Disney.

However, the not going back for 2-3 years comment just made that even harder.

 

[DisneyLoverUSA]

I don't have any advice for you. My husband was VERY DISNEY RESISTANT before we went on our 10 day trip. He never gushed about having fun while we were there but he didn't complain either.

However, to my surprise, when we got back he immediately told me that he and I were going to go back kidless next October. I tried not to squeal when he told me that!

I can understand not wanting to go to the same place year after year and taking a 2 to 3 year break.

I would like to see a lot of other places besides Disney too.

 

[minnie mum]

OK I can totally get it if he doesn't want to go back for a couple of years and wants to see the world. As in other countries. Fabulous idea.

But theme parks??? Uh, no, I don't think that qualifies. If my DH had come out with that he would have gotten smacked on the back of his head.

Now if he just wants to relax, then that's totally doable for both of you:

1. Plan extra days at WDW at a resort with a great pool and have park free days.

2. Do a 2 in 1 vacation with a week at WDW followed by a week at the beach.

That way you're both happy.

My DH and I came to a mutually agreeable compromise. A WDW vacation alternating with at least one non-Disney trip. This winter it's a week in Barbados. Next year it will be a trip to Japan (although I'm still planning to sneak in a day or two at Tokyo Disney before we return home)

 

[BridgetR3]

Nah crazy man is not interested in other countries just maybe seeing the U.S.

Sad thing is I keep repeatedly suggesting we do two vacations a year - one to Disney and one not. We could definitely afford it but he says that's too many vacations??!?!?!?!? How can you have too many vacations?!

 

[kadesha]

my husband is the same way, except he doesn't want to see the world....he wants to sit on the beach. After every trip he says he's not going back for 5 years! If you look in my signature you'll see that we went every year up until 2009. But we have a trip booked for May, so 3 years is better than 5! After this I'm sure it'll be several more years before we get to go back due to rising prices and lack of discounts.

 

[AnjieNet]

I wouldn't say my husband is Disney resistant per say but he does like going to different places and not keep coming back to Disney. We haven't gone to WDW for several years and he doesn't want to go back this year. Fine, DD and I are taking a girls trip and leaving him home with the baby!

As for other theme parks, we like visiting those as well. We have season passes to the local park and head out to Six Flags every other year or so. Hit Cedar Point a couple of year ago and can't say we'll be back. 3 hours in line for a coaster in the hot, hot sun is not my idea of fun! Give me a Fastpass please!!

 

[Mkrop]

Nah crazy man is not interested in other countries just maybe seeing the U.S.

Sad thing is I keep repeatedly suggesting we do two vacations a year - one to Disney and one not. We could definitely afford it but he says that's too many vacations??!?!?!?!? How can you have too many vacations?!

why not hit the west coast...go to DL/DCA then go somewhere else in CA.

we have done that twice now, both time flying into Anaheim, once we went south to San Diego, and then north and drove the coast to San Fran.

DH is just as much of Disney nut too, but we like to go other places too, so we just tied them together and loved it.

We also went to the Grand Canyon as well.

I have to keep DH away from the computer so he doesnt book a trip the minute we get back.

 

[housetomouse]

My DH hates that Disney is not relaxing by the pool or out at the beach. How can I make Disney relaxing??? I really need to learn to stop and smell the roses at Disney.

Ideas:

1) Don't try to do everything, something's got to give. Choose your top priorities in every park, or just on the trip in general. Only worry about fitting those few things in, and anything else is bonus.

2) I've made a plan for every day, down to the dining reservations, but I don't care if we scrap it altogether if anyone feels like doing something different.

3) We have only gone to Disney at busy times, and none of us enjoy the parks when you can hardly move in the crowd. So we try to get there at rope drop, then leave when it gets crowded and have a relaxing afternoon at the pool. Then we'll have a relaxing dinner, and hit the parks later (avoiding parades or anything really crowded like that).

These are the things that have worked well for us and don't seem to freak my husband out too much lol! Good luck, lots of us understand!

 

[Planogirl]

Does he like thrill rides? Maybe he wants to go to a park or two that has some of those? Or maybe he'd like something like Seaworld or one of the old style amusement parks. What exactly does he mean?

You could suggest Disneyland.

 

[Mom2aJessieGirl]

After our first trip together, I decided that I will just go without mine in the future. It's cheaper that way too. Plus, I have some good time with DD6 too.

 

[tchrrx]

Take a trip with Adventures by Disney. Then he gets to see the world (or just the U.S.- several good trips that are here), and you still get to enjoy Disney's awesome service.

 

[PrincessKate's Mom]

Can I join the support group? My DH said he wants to stop going to Disney every year and instead take the kids to the mountains.
I told him Disney has mountains -- Space Mountain, Big Thunder Mountain, Everest.

 

[mom2rtk]

Can I join the support group? My DH said he wants to stop going to Disney every year and instead take the kids to the mountains.
I told him Disney has mountains -- Space Mountain, Big Thunder Mountain, Everest.

You know, CA has Disney AND mountains.

We live in KC and road tripped west through some AMAZING scenery and capped it off with a brief stop in DL..... 4 times now. The latest is described in my trip report linked in my signature below called "3000 miles.....etc." Show him some of the photos I took between Missouri and CA. And yes, there are MANY very scenic mountains between here and there. It's an amazing road trip.

 

[RoadTripFanatic]

Nah crazy man is not interested in other countries just maybe seeing the U.S.

Sad thing is I keep repeatedly suggesting we do two vacations a year - one to Disney and one not. We could definitely afford it but he says that's too many vacations??!?!?!?!? How can you have too many vacations?!

Two is definately not too many vacations! In fact that really isn't enough!! LOL! DH is Disney resistent. We made it easy. I go with our DD by myself. He can go to Vegas if he wants to. Sometimes he comes with us sometimes he doesn't. It's up to him. He did tolerate my suggestion that we spend a day in Tokyo DisneyLand when we went to Japan last summer. He couldn't believe we really were going to make him go. He was out voted. It's been a few years since I've been to the "World." In fact I have 5 days until I go again. Oh wait I'm going with my BFF. DH and DD are flying to FL that same weekend to go to Universal. It all works out.

 

[Phatoomch]

Haha, it was the opposite for me - took me 20 yrs to finally go to Disney with hubby and our 10 yr old and he said he was only going for our daughters sake (we went sept just gone) .... he hates theme parks/commercial places, we have always travelled the world.

Anyway, now he doesn't want to travel the world anymore, he's seen enough of it, he just wants to go to Disney every single year til the day he dies. He talks about our vacay to Disney practically every day

 

[lisatradingspaces]

I kind of feel the same way, that we should be doing different things and not just going back to WDW for EVERY vacation. Soooo...

We went to Paris (Disney), Hong Kong (Disney), Bahamas (Disney Cruise) and now I am looking at Japan (Disney) and Alaska (Disney Cruise).

Oh, and we went to the Disney Resort in Hilton Head for a beach vacation. That was fun too!

 

[jennb529]

At least he says maybe in 2 to 3 years. My husband says this is our last trip EVER!

He to says he wants to see the world. I just take comfort in the fact that our son will be in the high school band in a few years and they go to Disney World every other year and will need chaperones.

In the meantime we'll make memories at lots of other interesting places in the world.

 

[ebtbmom]

I'll join, though DH isn't exactly resistant, he'd just never choose to go back. We choose our vacations on a rotation system, we each get a turn to pick even DS. I feel that every where we have been has been a little disappointing in some way, but never wdw!

 

[BridgetR3]

It's nice to know once again that I'm not the only one who deals with this. I can't even talk about Disney at home with him because even mentioning it is being "over the top".

I'll check into the DIsney Resort at Hilton Head. I love the Disney feel.

 

[momto2inKC]

Anymore I just plan a trip for when *I*want to go then tell my husband this is when the next Disney trip is if you want to join us The kids and I have gone 6 times, he's went on 3 of those trips. It works for us!